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I’d suggest making it super super personal. Get a locket with your grandmothers picture, and either wear it as a necklace, or fasten it to your bouquet. And then either a manly kind of locket, or an old fashioned pocket watch with his father’s photo, kept in his pocket.

That way they are both right there with you when you exchange vows. Make sure you get pictures of it, so you always remember how they were a part of your wedding.

Or, identify them not as loved family members who were lost….but as each of your biggest influences or heros. It will be obvious to everyone why you chose who you did, and wouldn’t make sense to list out everyone.

Our venue has a pond right in the center of the action. It’s a custom in many Asian countries to float lanterns in honor of the dead. We’re adopting this custom for our wedding night. There will be a floating pond light for each of our departed loved ones. We plan to include a couple short sentences in our program describing the tradition and naming the individuals being honored. I personally look forward to dusk on that day, when I’ll have the opportunity to take a private moment and remember my paternal grandfather, maternal grandfather and favorite aunt. My fiance feels the same.

P.S. Especially since your wedding day is Grandma Ora’s birthday — a special mention is definitely in order!

We are using this paragraph in our program:

“During this day of celebration, please join us as we take a moment to honor the memory of FI’s father, along with that of all our loved ones who have gone before us. Though they are no longer with us, we keep them in our hearts.”

As others have said, I don’t think anyone will fault us for singling out his dad.

I will also be using my grandparents’ wedding photo on my bouquet wrap. I just sized it down to 1×1, affixed it to cardstock, and laminated it. It will be a small and personal way to have them there.

if you have an area where you can have framed pictures up, you can possibly frame up slightly bigger, individual pictures of those closest to you, and then smaller frames / single frame for multi pictures (or have a frame just containing only the names) for the others. you can also do a double frame for those closest to you, where one frame is a photo and the other a note to/about/to thank them.

(of course, make sure you remove the photo if you are going to toss anything).

I was just wondering about this the other day. My dad’s parents are both gone, and although they were both wonderful people, I don’t remember them as well and my maternal grandparents. My mom’s dad is turning 90 this year and God-willing will be at my wedding, but my grandma just passed away in November. My parents and these grandparents built houses next door to each other, and I lived right next door to them for the first ten years of my life. I would like to honor all my grandparents, but when I add in my three grandparents who have died, and my fiance’s four, it gets to be a lot, and then I thought of my aunts and uncles who have passed and realized the list would be very long, and then I’m thinking, what if we forgot someone or someone got upset over something - the last thing I want is a memory candle to cause tension.

Another one of those little things that cause you stress that you never anticipated!

some couples put pictures of each parent & grandparents in frames near the guestbook

My grandfather, whom I was extremely close to, just passed away in February (and I’m getting married at the end of this month). I cannot believe that he won’t be there with me… but I obviously know he will be there in spirit.

At the moment, the plan is to get a locket, brooch, or photo charm and have it attached to my bouquet with his picture in it. In addition to my bouquet, I’m also going to carry a small prayer book that my grandma carried on their wedding day.

To honor our other grandparents or significant family members, we’re going to put a note in the program and list their names.

I’m also thinking of putting a white rose in my bouquet for each of my relatives (3 grandparents total and a special aunt and uncle).

Do something that makes you comfortable… I don’t think there is anything wrong with setting your grandma and his father apart… they were obviously a big part of your lives. You can make it something obvious… or something a little less obvious. The people that really need to know about it are really you and your fiance… know that your relatives will always be with you- on your wedding day and always!

Miss Kiwi I can’t imagine anyone would begrudge you for honoring very special loved ones on your wedding day.

I have a similar issue and I haven’t quite figured out how to solve it. My parents divorced when I was 1 and I haven’t been close to my father (not invited to the wedding) or his family for many many years. As for listing grandparents in the program, it is very important for me to put my mom’s parents who I am very close with and my step-father’s mother who I loved dearly before she passed away and my FI’s grandparents- but is it weird that I don’t include my paternal grandparents? I am on the fence about inviting them- they are nice people, but I don’t really know them very well and the guest list is already beyond the limit.

Anyone’s thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated. I don’t want to be rude, but to be over inclusive doesn’t make it as special for those that we are so close to.