Wedding Blog

e - I wouldn’t worry about it seeming odd to write “and guest” on the inner invitation envelope. Seems like a lot of extra work to use the extra vellum just for etiquette purposes (but if you like it aesthetically, go for it).

Unless the couple is engaged, living together or married, the phrase “and guest” covers it and gives you a “pass” from having to be 100% certain about Guest’s status (e.g., Is Chris still dating Sam?) and name spelling.

Of course, if you don’t want to tighten the guest list and you use Guest’s actual name, that prevents the “primary” invited person from substituting someone else if Guest (meaning the guest you assumed would come — the significant other) isn’t able to attend. The “primary” invited person isn’t free to fill in with someone else without asking you first (and not everyone would ask for that, to bring some other friend, relative, neighbor, etc.).

I’m looking for a rhinestone bridal comb. My hair will be half-up/half-down and I want to wear the comb towards the back of my head. I love Mrs. Ladybug’s Regina B comb and am looking for something similar at a reasonable price. I’m in NYC so any local suggestions would be great.

Bkb — Since you are in NYC, check out Michael’s consignment! I got so lucky in there w/ bridal accessories and got the most beautiful hair comb (great quality, no idea on the brand).

http://www.michaelsconsignment.com/

Miss Hydrangea - I used BBJ Linen, which has regional centers across the country. They sent me samples, shipped directly to my reception site, and called the event coordinator there to be sure everything arrived safely. The linens were exactly what I wanted and the prices were extremely reasonable. I highly recommend them.

Toki–that’s a great opportunity to personalize your event. Use whatever you want!

jen- uh…have someone spread the word that no…the bride and groom is not paying for anyone’s travel expense but their own. my cousin got married in hawaii…and some family members (had the nerve to) ask if they were paying for their travel expense…hell no! just tell one close relative to make sure they tell the other relatives…and don’t worry about it.

e - Technically you should get the “guests” name…but I ask how one expects my sorority single friends to figure out who their date will be for a wedding two months from now. So, if you have an outer envelope, write “Mr. John Doe” and on the inner “John and Guest.” If not, I like your vellum idea, acting as an inner envelope!

Meg - I don’t know your budget, but my favorite gifts are the personalized (with a pic) make-up bags by bagettes.com (25 dollars) or silver bead earrings (basically balls/studs) for 80 dollars. They used to be 70!

Miss Hydrangea - our guys bought *perfect* nautica ties at Macy*s. I think it entirely depends on what you’re looking for.

Miss Hydrangea - I only know some that have mail-rented, which is what I’d recommend.

Jen - This reminds me of Father of the Bride. I think if you are *demanding* they come to the wedding and stay in “X” hotel, etc., then you should foot the bill, otherwise they travel at their leisure and should pay their own way. But, I’m a young, poor teacher.

Meg-

I design bridal jewelry, and my website has great faux pearl bracelets (Swarovski crystal pearls). You should take a look (just click on my name above!)

Meg-
I am giving my bms a necklace and a glass jewelry box engraved w/their names. The necklaces I got from http://www.pickledbeads.net. They custom made my necklaces to match their dress and worked within my budget (simple but nice). Either that or you can go to http://www.vintagebridaljewelry.com. I got my bridal jewelry (pearl glamour) there. She worked with my budget and design and they look beautiful.

Bkb-
http://www.headpieceheaven.com has a lot of nice combs. I got the porcelain rose wave halo there and it is beautiful and affordable. They’re located in NJ.

Jen, I remember another beehive question like this a while back. Cultural customs & etiquette may dictate that you’re supposed to subsidize the travel costs, but if you can’t afford to, I think your family would understand.

Question! I need the hive to weigh in on the Great Chair Cover Debate. Our reception hall chairs are deep red with gray metal trim, which doesn’t match our colors (pink/orange). I realize that our decor will be much improved by chair covers, but we’ll have to put them on ourselves the day before. It’s not so much of a $ issue as a hassle/is it worth it issue…thoughts?

Aliya-
My friend got chair covers because her reception chairs didn’t match her theme either. After attending her wedding, I personally hate chair covers! Guests cannot tuck their feet under the seat at all which is very uncomfortable in my opinion. I ended up hiking my cover up and making it look all bunched up & ugly at my friend’s wedding because it frustrated me so much! If money is not an issue, I say swap out the chairs themselves. Rent elegant chivari chairs from a local rental company and have them set them up for you. You’ll have enough to worry about the day before anyhow!