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The best advice anyone has ever given me about planning a wedding is “No matter what you do, someone will complain”. I guess the more positive side of that could be “no matter what you do, someone will love it and be happy with your decision”

We have a somewhat similar situation in that we’re having a Friday wedding, so everyone will have to at least take a 1/2 day off on Friday (no one lives close to the location), and most people will have to take the whole day off. We saw it as built in guest number control. We know that all the people there REALLY want to be there. I wouldn’t worry about it, people who really want to be there will make the effort. Good luck!

Hi Jen,

Don’t feel guilty in the least. It’s your wedding day and that means that any day of the week that you choose to celebrate your love with the man of your life matters. And those people who want to celebrate that love with you and know how important it is to you - will go. Life is not always convenient and weddings don’t come by very often. I think people will see it as an opportunity to celebrate your love and understand that weddings are happy reunions and celebrations of love, life and laughter. No guilt! And if people use that “Sunday excuse” then perhaps, just perhaps, they were not going to attend anyway. I could be wrong. I just know that I would take off any day from Sunday through Sunday for someone who is getting married who too kthe time and thought to invite me.

I’m in the same boat as you are, since we are having a Friday evening wedding. People are going to complain, but remember that it’s not about your guests. It’s about you and your future husband celebrating your marriage and the life you will share together.

i wanted to avoid sunday so people didn’t feel they needed to take monday off…but family who owned businesses said saturday wasn’t as good..so i decided to accomodate and went with sunday. now some feel that my location is inconvenient…but i’ve decided that i can’t accomodate everybody…so oh well!

Miss Tulip–I don’t agree with that–it’s not just about you and your future husband. If it’s just about the bride and groom celebrating their marriage, then why spend thousands of dollars–tens of thousands of dollars–on having guests?

I recently had a Sunday evening wedding and it was fine. People can refuse (and did) if it doesn’t fit in their schedule. But the majority of the guests came and left early (around 8:30-9pm), which was fine with me because they were older folks. The younger crowd stayed til the end and we had a blast.

my parents are small business owners, so they only get sundays off, which is why we chose to do it then. we’re starting the reception @ 4:30 and going until 9:30. we figured that would give people enough time to get home (my family lives a little over an hour away) if they needed to. we’ve gotten a bunch of complaints (even from my own mom, who is the reason why we’re having it on sunday) b/c most of them will end up staying overnight, but we are trying to have some events available so hopefully staying overnight will be worthwhile (being around for post wedding breakfast, opening up our house on saturday so people don’t have to hang in the hotel, etc.). in the end it doesn’t matter when you have it, someone will have a problem with it. my reasoning to my mom was that it will be ONE day that she would be inconvenienced, not a whole year.

I am having my wedding on a Sunday on a 3 day weekend (before Labor Day) to get the ‘Saturday effect’, but I have no doubt that people will still complain… maybe about how I took their 3 day weekend away or something. Who knows, and who cares? I am also attending a FRIDAY wedding in June that is on the other end of the country (even though the couple lives 2 hours drive away from me), where I have to take time off my new job on Thursday AND Friday. Super inconveinient? YES. Costly? Ah-huh. Should they be bothered by this? Absolutely not. I will be happy to be there to watch them get married and I will certainly have a good time. If someone doesn’t feel it’s conveinient enough for them, they have the option to ‘decline with regrets.’ Right?

I just came back from a Sunday night wedding this past weekend. At first, it seemed like an inconvenience BUT I care so much for my girlfriend that I didn’t even bat an eye. It was a 3 hour drive away from where I live. I took Monday off of work and drove back. I still had plenty of time to do stuff at home before coming into work today. Your true friends and family will be there…and that is all that counts!

I’m having a Friday wedding and I felt quite a bit of guilt about it at first, even though it was my idea to have it on Friday. But the further I get into the process the more I think “you know what? This is such a small deal in life that people can come or not, and suck it up.” I know that sounds kind of harsh… but I have enough to worry about without adding unnecessary guilt into the mix. I’ve been to Friday weddings before and yeah, they were sort of inconvenient, but it’s really not THAT big of a deal. If guests want to come, they’ll make it happen regardless.