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Ummm…. yes. I am a registry stalker. And I will be even more of one once I receive my shower invite and know that they’re out!

I have been stalking my SIL registry. But in my defense I did send out the invitations to her shower last week and wanted to see if people got them.

I am the WORST at this. I stalk my own registry at least once a day (and the wedding is still 4 mos away) and I stalk other people’s registries. I want to see if I might have missed something they registered for and after the wedding, I want to see what people will actually buy. I’m changing some of my stuff based on what my FBIL got at his wedding recently.

as of a couple of weeks ago i was totally guilty of stalking my registry. then i decided to take a break from it. my shower is this saturday and i didn’t want to remotely ruin any of the surprises. so i haven’t looked in two weeks. while i think about it a bit and want to know if things have been purchased (our wedding is a month from tomorrow!) i also have been enjoying getting packages in the mail and having no idea what is in them. i totally changes the present opening experience. i’m sure i will go back to my stalking ways once the shower is over though. i mean, what if it is running low or something?

Guilty.

Try not to let yourself look at the “thank you manager” function because then you know who bought it, too, and there is no surprise left whatsoever. Or, if you must look, just don’t tell FI so at least one of you can be surprised.

Oh, iris, you just gave me a horrible idea. Now I’m going to have to go do that. (thanks!)

There was an ill-advised wedding in our circle of friends about a year and a half ago. The bride had an “only the best, pricetags be damned” attitude toward the registries, such that the cheapest thing on them (I there were five) was a $45 silver-plated bottle opener. That sort of price level, combined with the fact that they’d clearly not kept track of what they’d registered for at store X when they registered at store Y, made registry stalking a big, big source of entertainment for us all. Altogether, they registered for four pairs of salt and pepper shakers at three different stores, the least expensive being $88. Also at least two panini presses at two different stores, the exact same wine chiller at two different stores, etc. The biggest fun was counting the wine glasses–a dozen here, a dozen there…ultimately they had registered for a total of 38 champagne flutes at in four designs at four different stores; the total for all glassware was close to 200 pieces.

This was fall 2005, and there are still very, very few fulfilled items on their registries. I go back every few months to remind myself what not to do.

I am definitely a registry stalker… for the registry of others (friends, family members, acquaintances from various time in my life). My fiance stalks our registry all the time looking to see if anyone bought us things (and our wedding is still a year away, but we do have the first engagement party coming up…), but I prefer to continually check out the registries of others I know. I think mostly I check it out to see how much has been purchased off their registry, and what it is that guests are not purchasing so I have an idea of what things I will not be receiving (so far, it seems like bathroom decor items are always the last to go off the registry — the soap dish, tissue box, toothpaste holder, etc.).

No, I like surprises. I knew where Santa’s gifts were stashed every year too as a kid– but never peeked. My mother, on the other hand is another story! I took off 6 place settings of my china the other day upon request of my FMIL (she told us she got us 6 as my shower gift at another store and to take them off–guess she’s not big on surprises like me!). About a day later my mother emailed me to say that she noticed I only have 6 place settings on my registry and didn’t I want 12? Hello, stalker!?

I definitely stalk my own registries! I am the exact same way; when I see something new has been purchased, I’m always wondering who got it. That’s the best surprise of all!

Everytime I get info about another girlfriend’s registy, I always go check it out…at least once. And I do the same thing there, too…see things I didn’t know I wanted/needed and go add it to my own!