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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA Engagement Date: March 31, 2006 Wedding Date: November 3, 2007 Venue: Radisson Hotel About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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It’s All About ME!!!!

May 10th, 2007 @ 6:10 pm by Mrs. Kiwi

Yesterday my aunt called to tell me that she got the Oriental Trading wedding catalog (you have to order it). While I was excited to hear this (I love catalogs–especially wedding ones!), it made me wonder: what are we (myself and family collectively) going to do when the wedding day has passed?

For the past year and two months, our focus has been on the wedding. For the year before that, it was the engagement ring. Since Mr. Kiwi has forbade any baby-making until 2009 (technically November of 2008), I fear I’m going to have to find something to keep my attention while NOT making babies. silly02

Before you guys start to hate me because it seems I need “something” to keep me busy and boredom-free, it’s not really that. My family is so engrossed into my life and plans, and I like being closer to them. For instance, since the engagement, I’ve seen my family (and Mr. Kiwi’s family) a lot more. I’ve grown closer to cousins, and drifted away from other cousins. I’m sure my younger family members think that my only topic in life is the wedding, which I guess is partially right. Despite this, I have grown a lot since planning began. For instance, I am writing more, something I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve begun learning how to manage my money well, and how to budget for any and everything. My Mom and I have grown closer, and hopefully that’s something that will continue to grow as time goes on.

I never really knew how much I would need family during this time, and I still have 5+ months left! For so long, I had my wedding plans set in my mind, and it was all going to be so easy. I didn’t want to waste any time “enjoying” my engagement, not when I waited so long to get here. Well, readers, that was foolish. Who has a 19 month engagement and doesn’t just rest for a minute? Sometimes I feel as though this wedding is starting to overcome me. When that happens, I get on the couch and snuggle with Mr. Kiwi, and think of our future together. And yes, sometimes I wander into my “secret” drawer and pick up the yellow and white onesie that I bought a year ago (btw, sorry Karen, it was supposed to be for the new guy blush01), in anticipation of the future, rubbing its soft fabric on my cheek.

So, while I haven’t yet had my pre-wedding breakdown yet, I’m trying to keep things in perspective here. My wedding is only one day a year, and one day in the (hopefully) decades Mr. Kiwi and I have before us. My family, as much as I want to wish it, have things in their lives that aren’t just about “Kiwi’s Big Day”.Of course, my aunt did tell me about the bunch of baby clothes she has in storage for our future baby…two more years, Tia (aunt in spanish)! heart2

Even though I sound soooo self-obsessed here, I want to say that it’s not my personality, honest! As a not-yet psycho bride to be, I just wanted to wish for you all to have fun while planning, get closer to friends and family, and enjoy it! When the planning finally stops, I’m sure I won’t give the slightest crap about chicken or fish, mashed or roasted, ivory or champagne, right?

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7 Responses to “It’s All About ME!!!!”

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fizzy

I had the greatest time at my wedding, but by the time it arrived I was so ready for the whole damn planning thing to be over. I can’t tell you how relieved I am to not have to work on that anymore.

:)

 
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Iris

I missed it for a while (see, I’m still weaning myself via WeddingBee) but other long-term things come into your life, like work, grad school, house-hunting, family, etc. to fill that void — in a, dare I say, more important way because you have those kinds of investments longer than the wedding day.

All the skills from wedding planning (time/project management, DIY skills, diplomacy, family stuff, coordination, creativity, meeting deadlines, making decisions together) apply to married life. Successful completion of a wedding could be a line item on a resume.

The biggest shock is going cold turkey from having such presence of family and friends and going to quiet… just the two of you… quiet evenings… no phone calls… So, even if you aren’t making babies at least you can have fun practicing, eh?

 
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Becky-O

I’m with Fizzy! I was soooo glad that my wedding day had come, and there were no more projects to be completed, decisions to be made, or planning to be done. It was a relief–honestly! But of course, you will have thank you notes to write, so it won’t be completely over. ;-) hehe!

 
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Mrs. Bee

i think brides either really miss the whole experience after the fact, or get totally burned out… i think i was in the burned out camp! :)

 
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Iris

Becky O is right — thank you notes, photo album (massive project!), scrapbooks, registry clean-up, bills. It ain’t over yet.

 
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kanipark

i totally went to wedding planning withdrawl…

 
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Cassie

my wedding is a month away and while i am excited to actually have it happen, i am also looking forward to being done with it.

 


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