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I’m about to go insane. Even though marrying in a church was slightly daunting to me (being non-religious), I had finally overcome my nerves and called to book our rehearsal. Since there are two ceremonies the day of our wedding, I am hoping the other couple chooses Friday, so we can get Thursday. This is the one concern I have about the rehearsal. We need to know which date to book the restaurant, right?
So, I grappled with my fear of the “Church Lady”, and placed the call. It went straight to her voicemail, so I left a detailed message saying, “Hello, this is Miss Kiwi. Mr. Kiwi and I are marrying at St. Mark on blah blah blah. We’d like to book our rehearsal preferably on Thursday November Blah. Please give me a call back at (***) ***-****. Again, this is Miss Kiwi, marrying on November blah.”
You’d think it’d be easy to book a rehearsal, right? Church Lady just goes to her book, looks up the date and voila! We have rehearsal! Well, not so much. I think it works this way… two phone calls and messages from a certain Mr. Kiwi AND Miss Kiwi. She hears the messages, deletes them and then says, “SUCK IT KIWIS”.
As each day without a call back passes, I think to myself, “Seriously? You’re just NOT going to call us back?” Finally, I have gotten tired of this message game. I’m going to call one last time and then sic Mr. Kiwi on the priest there, since he likes Mr. K a lot.
And, once we do get our rehearsal scheduled, grudges will be held. No gift for you, Church Lady! NO GIFT FOR YOU! Perhaps I’m more sensitive now that I’m planning the first life-changing experience of my 27 years, but returning a phone call within say, two weeks after receiving it should be common courtesy, right?
This drives me crazy, too. Any chance she’s on vacation? Maybe your next message can be, “Well, it looks like you’re on vacation, so I’ll just be calling Fr. Caresalot and see if we can get this finalized…”
Iris, gotta love “Fr Caresalot”. Yeah, I think I’m going to give her that message today. Good idea.
I just don’t get that whole not returning a call thing! How hard is it to call back? What else does she do all day? Isn’t it kind of her JOB to return calls? Ugh.
Oh, and i meant to ask if you’d tried emailing. Some people respond a bit better to email, but I’m not sure if that’s an option for you.
Unfortunately, she doesn’t have an email address to respond to. And yes, I will have to go down there if something isn’t done this week. 
Eeww, I know how that feels. My florist, MC, and even coordinator have been doing that to me. What’s up with that? I would just go in person to the church. Oh, and make sure your wedding is in their calendar book too.
maybe she’s on vacation…or maybe she works part-time…or maybe their calendar doesn’t stretch that far out…or maybe they misplaced their calendar and they’re waiting to find it before calling you back…or maybe they’re just slow to return calls.
but…2 weeks is a long time. i say it’s time to sic.
My catering manager at my venue is like this! I mean, I understand that some people are just horrible at communication…BUT ISN’T THAT HER JOB?!
Sorry…I need a drink…
Definitely go down there if you don’t hear from her ASAP. You have a right to get your rehersal set up in a timely fashion! Good Luck!
OK, let us know how it turns out. It’s hard b/c it’s not like you can afford to PO the gatekeeper to the officiant and the church (esp considering the many RCC pre-wedding requirements). Not that she can ignore you just because you need her more than she needs you. Well, diplomacy is good here; in the event she’s actually away for vacation, funeral, medical treatment, etc., at least by acting that you did your best to work with her first before escalating to the priest, you won’t run the risk of getting her PO’d which could impact other things with the wedding. Good Luck.
Love your funny posts!
My church and cake sagas sound remarkably similar. People, I’m about to hand you a wad of money, don’t you want to talk to me!? PLEASE!?
Exactly. I have had similar problems with the lady at our church and her whole job is to coordinate the church’s weddings!
[...] have gotten through to the rehearsal coordinator. She acted like I had never called, and despite my previous anger, I was flummoxed to have heard a voice and just put on my best ass-kissing voice. She was very nice [...]
[...] have gotten through to the rehearsal coordinator. She acted like I had never called, and despite my previous anger, I was flummoxed to have heard a voice and just put on my best ass-kissing voice. She was very nice [...]
[...] have gotten through to the rehearsal coordinator. She acted like I had never called, and despite my previous anger, I was flummoxed to have heard a voice and just put on my best ass-kissing voice. She was very nice [...]
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA Engagement Date: March 31, 2006 Wedding Date: November 3, 2007 Venue: Radisson Hotel About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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