Weddingbee Blog

we didn’t get cake knives or toasting glasses. We used what the venue provided, and it was just fine. No one noticed or cared that we didn’t have those fancy things.

I feel like I should buy a personalized hoodie, but so far I’ve been doing well holding back.

I said NO to: toasting flutes, ring pillow and flower baskets, cake knives, any sort of pew decorations… I’m not a “things” kind of girl.

I will not get anything from the category of T-shirts or hoodies or totes or slippers with “Bride” or “soon to be Mrs. so-and-so” bedazzled across it. I agree, what’s wrong with a regular ole knive and server?

Toasting flutes and cake topper I did spend a little more than i would but i was thinking more of an heirloom for my daughters when they get married.

As for the other stuff, I refuse to pay the $25+ for a ring pillow, I paid $2 for my flower girl basket, and I bought a plain cake server set from another bride for $10.

no cake knives (using the venue’s), no toasting flutes (using the venue’s), no flower petals on cake, cake table or placecard table, no customized napkins too.

i’m trying to skip the pew decorations (which our church recommended) but i might lose that battle with FI and his family.

okay, I need to confess: I am buying a “Just married” sweater. Why? So we can get free stuff in Vegas. I am a greedy, greedy girl.

For me, skipping such things was a no-brainer to eliminate unnecessary hassles/worries/time-suckers and save on the budget (because I am not sentimental personally about these things). So, yes, we did not think twice about skipping the cake cutter and server and especially the toasting flutes. Chance of crystal being forgotten or breaking on the way there or back = 99%. (When I go to a restaurant or hotel, I figure I’m paying for them to provide these basic things.) Also skipped ring pillow, as the best man carried the rings in his pocket. And was not ever intereseted in the tiara, unity candles, napkins, matchbooks, bubbles, etc. Lots of extras.

BUT I totally understand that some people are sentimental and about these things, so if that’s how you feel, but you don’t want to spend extra, an idea is to use new items you receive as wedding gifts, e.g., you’ve registered for the glasses or cake cutter/server that match your pattern anyway. Or borrow from family/friends if they have a sentimental or beautiful set.

The “Wedding Industry” does its best to impose guilt upon us to invest in traditions we did not even know existed, so if the product du jour means nothing special to you and yours personally, skip it.

skipped the cutters and toasting flutes. when we cut into the cake using the reception site’s knife, it broke! oops! it made for a pretty funny moment. the cake was so big, no one saw or knew what was going on but us.

we also skipped the printed cocktail napkins. i find that to be totally useless.

i bought $3 ring pillows at michael’s. i bought baskets at christmas tree shops for $2, spray painted them white, and added a ribbon bow for the flower girls.

i didn’t get a personalized hoodie but my MOH surprised me the morning of with a white sweatshirt with “bride” on the back, and white pants with “mrs. so and so” on the butt. so cute and i still wear them! she made them with iron-on letters.

our cake was topped with a bouquet of icing flowers… free

i did get bubbles for the kids. $5 for a box of 50. i am the total bargain shopper!!!!!

I wasn’t going to get a cake server, but someone…somewhere…the knot? I forget…anyway someone said they were getting the cake server that matched their everyday silver pattern. That makes total sense to me, because I would happily eat cake every day.