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I am a Daddy’s girl. And a little bit obsessive compulsive. 
It’s cool, I’m used to having to have everything matching, and everything facing the same way, etc. Anyway, my recent compulsion has to do with my Dad.
Yesterday we were in TJ Maxx (where I found a kickass card box for $3.99! Pictures later), standing in the incredibly long line (where I impulsively bought a shirt for Mr. Kiwi) when I saw a pair of nice grey pants. I said to Dad, “I think this would be a nice color for you to wear to the wedding.” And he replied, “You want me to buy a new suit?! I HAVE a suit!” Not wanting to hurt his feelings, I said, “Yes, Dad, but your suit is GREEN. It doesn’t match ANY of our colors (Oh God, when did I become Shelby from Steel Magnolias?!?!).”
Weeelll, let’s just say he wasn’t too happy about that. “The suit isn’t GREEN, it’s OLIVE. And that’s FALL!” Like the oh-so-considerate daughter, and psycho bride to be, I said, “Dad, you don’t have to BUY a new suit, you can rent one! They have nice ones, I looked!” Putting his hands to his face, I reminded him that he already saved money by wearing that green suit to my brother’s wedding, so it’s not like he has to buy two suits! And come on Dad, you’re going to be the other center of attention as we walk down the aisle, don’t you want to match?
So, while I know he doesn’t want to have to buy a suit, why can’t he just rent one? I mean, it’s a few hours, right? I know I may be sounding unreasonable, but it’s green, people. There is not one stitch of green anywhere in our ceremony/reception or attire. Honestly, if he wants to wear a green suit, I want him to be happy - this man never wears suits in real life. And then I thought, hm… maybe I could find something to tie him in to the wedding colors, like a gold tie? Picturing a green suit with gold accessories was not a good image.
Like this:
So, I guess I’ll try to not picture the wedding pictures: ivory dress, rust dress, gold dress, brown suits, GREEN SUIT.
It looks like I’m being crazy, doesn’t it? I want him to be happy, so if he wants his green suit, he can wear his green suit. What would you do in this situation?
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I have a similar situation the only difference is my dad doesn’t want to wear a tux at all. My dad is the typical island boy who would be happy just wearing his Aloha print shirt and “slippahs” (flip flops). But bless his heart, he’s going to do it for me.
When I first told him that he had to wear a tux, he laughed and thought i was joking. I wasn’t. He also asked my mom if he really has to wear the tux. My mom told him, “YES! You’re walking her down the aisle.” I love my dad, he’s the best.
Honestly, I think an olive suit sounds perfect for a fall wedding. Maybe you can get him to at least wear a tie of your choosing, something that ties your colors in?
AMK, I think olive would look good, but this is more sagey than olive. The thing I’m really thinking about is the pictures- he’ll be the only male not in a dark colored suit, and shouldn’t the groom be the only man who stands out in pictures? In this case, my dad would really be obvious to see.
Didn’t someone post a link to a bright sreaming orage + bright screaming green wedding recently? Maybe a rust-colored tie could work.
Or, if it’s in the budget, rent a suit for him, whether he likes it or not. And make sure Mom is working her angle, too. Ooh, have her tell him the green suit will clash with whatever she’s wearing, that might help.
Typically I’ve seen the fathers match the groomsmen and ushers, which means they’d rent tuxes along with the boys. Are your dads not doing this?
SoireeLaura, Mr. Kiwi is buying a suit, the BM has a suit and that’s our wedding party! 
So that’s why he didn’t think he’d need to rent anything. I think I may just help him rent a suit.
Not sure if your budget would allow it but you could just always buy him a suit. Approximately $250 at Macys.
Honestly, as another Daddy’s Girl, I would let him wear whatever he wanted to wear. The groom is going to stand out in the pictures because he is the groom (and no one will stand out more than you will - and he’ll be next to you!).
I understand how easy it is to get obsessive about how everything looks, but you really have to pick your battles. Besides, in the long run what he wore won’t matter as much as how it felt to have him there with you on that day.
Ummm… Did you really just refer to your father as magically delicious? I tried to read your post but I couldn’t get past that.
My dad rented a suit too. He never wears suits, and his last one is a bit too small. Dad’s put on some weight since he retired. Poor Dad actually wanted to wear a tux, but we’re not going for tuxes. There goes his chance to wear a tux–I’m the last child to get married. Maybe the grandkids, although I just told my nieces they’re not allowed to get married until they’re thirty so they enjoy life first. 
They laughed nervously. Crazy Aunt Pencils…
I gotta go with bebe here - as long as the suit is presentable, who cares what color it is! I think you should let your dad wear his suit and chalk this up to one less thing you need to worry about. Your pictures will look great regardless
Why don’t you and your fiance rent your dad’s suit for him? This way he’ll have a suit that will match your wedding, and he won’t feel like HE has to go out and rent/buy a suit.
I agree with bebe, in the long run it won’t matter what he wore, just as long as he is there.
If there’s no getting around the green suit and it still drives you crazy — consider printing some of those photos in black and white!
I think many of us are unknowingly becoming Shelby from Steel Magnolias…I recently had a conversation with my mother (who should know better - dad’s at least have a better excuse) that the bright aqua colored MOB dress she wanted would not go with our lilac and sage green colors all that well…
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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