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Jana, I’ve heard great things from people who have hosted rehearsal dinners at Mary Mac’s.
Also, if you like greek food, Avra (on Juniper) has some fantastic options.
Oh! And Gordon Biersch! All of these would be great, I think.
Hi karen,
I go to Fred Astaire dance studio on E 43rd street. Fabulous! Take lessons with Gabrielle..she’s the best!
What do you do if someone you dislike wants to throw a bridal shower for you? I don’t want to seem ungrateful, but this person told everyone in my family to “pray for me” when she found out I was dating my fiance– all bc he’s a different religion. She also called my parents and told them I was going to elope with him when we first started dating (totally untrue– I still have no idea why she said that and it scared my parents for no reason). And now she wants to throw me a shower??!!?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Kara - what if you divided it into two separate events? What if you held the rehearsal dinner for only those IN the actual wedding, and then see if you have another relative (maybe an aunt or a cousin) that would be willing to host another event for anyone that wants to come. Send an invite to everyone at the wedding, and maybe even figure out a way to word it that everyone pays for themselves (”We’re all getting together for dinner before the wedding to meet each other - swing by and say hi! There will be food for those who would like to eat, and if not we’d love the company anyway!”)
That way, you pay for only those who did something to earn the food (!) without feeling weird about excluding anyone, or footing a huge bill. Maybe the money your mom offered could go towards cocktails for the second party, then those who want to eat something on top of that could pay for it…
Ramona,
Tell her you wouldn’t feel right accepting a shower from someone that wasn’t either family or in the wedding party (I’m assuming she’s not.)
If you’re not worried about the friendship and she’s not invited to the wedding, that’s another point to use.
GG- I love Ashley Beem’s work and hired her as my videographer. She is based out of Monterey but is willing to travel. Check out her website: http://www.beemvideo.com.
Believe it or not, she is family :0
I don’t want to cause unnecessary rifts in the family, but I really upset by all the trouble she caused when my fiance and I first started dating. Should I just let bygones be bygones?
Ramona - For a laugh on this very topic, watch the movie “In Her Shoes” and see if you feel better about it.
Jana-
If I was getting married here I would have loved to have had my rehearsal dinner at either Fritti or Sotto Sotto- they’re next door to each other on Highland Ave (south of North Ave)
Ramona - I think I would kindly decline her offer to throw the bridal shower. I’m not sure of the history you have with this family member, it seems like she plays a lot of mind games. Since she poo-pooed your fiance and your relationship, I’m guessing word of her actions has probably spread widely amongst your family/friends. To me this seems like her way of making her actions seem like rumors that were going around. If they see/hear/attend the shower SHE threw for you, then those things they heard about her must’ve been untrue — see my theory? hopefully this helps and good luck to you.
N - some good songs I’ve seen in videos are Josh Kelley - Home to Me, Michelle Featherstone “Man and Wife”, and then just classic wedding songs like “It had to be you” etc.
Ramona - I had a number of people who were initially shocked that I was engaged to someone of the “wrong” religion/race, but then once it sunk in they were pretty happy for me/us. So see if you can feel out her motivation for throwing the shower (maybe she’s embarrassed for her initial faux pas and is trying to make it up, or maybe she’s still upset and is hoping to showcase “I told you so” by hostessing the intervention). If you detect any inappropriate motivation, would decline gracefully.
where can i order “mint to be” labels for mint (tic-tac) favors? i don’t think i’ll be able to DIY on my home comp (actually more like i won’t have the time)… lol
karen: we’re in a similar situation, and we’re having the RD fairly early (6:00 p.m.) with just wedding party, parents and their dates. Then we’re hosting a bonfire with beer and soda starting at 8:30 for everyone…we liked it b/c it was the best of both worlds. Maybe you could do something like that?
karen, ann marie at wedding day dance-hands down the nicest and least expensive!
I need some ideas to decorate the rustic fountain/pond that will be at our cocktail, reception site. It is not the main focal point, but I’d like to do something with it other than just line it with votives. Thanks!
Ramona–is someone closer going to throw you a shower? Wedding party member, other family member? If so, tell this person that you don’t feel comfortable having more than one shower, that you don’t want anyone to feel pressured by two showers. If no one is, well, work on them! Call your MoH and beg her to throw you a shower so that this other person can’t. It’s supposed to be your bridal party who throws it anyway, right?
It is, however, possible that she’s trying to make up for her former faux pas. You have to decide if that’s true, and if you want bygones to be bygones. (She sounds to me like a meddler and drama queen, though.)
I have a question for the bee…
We are having a semi-destination wedding, which means that save the dates went out last January for our September 07 wedding. Since then, a cuople, both of which are friends of mine, have seperated and will be divorced by the wedding. I would still like to invite them both, but don’t have any extra room to invite them with guests. Since ALL OTHER single guests are being invited with a guest, is it inappropriate to not extend that offer to my newly single friends?
Need advice.
I’m sending my invitations in boxes (you can see them on my blog) and for the boxes should I:
A) Handwrite each shipping label with a nice colored fine tip marker?
B) Get a script font and print each shipping label on the computer in one of our colors
or
C) Put all the addresses into usps.com and let it generate a label for me (black ink on white, barcode etc)
Question for the beehive - a lot of wedding vendors use nicer web sites with Flash photos. How the heck do you copy those images so that u can save them to look at later? I use internet explorer as a browser if that makes a difference.
I have a question for the hive…
I am looking to make a photos guest book out of our engagement photos. Which is better to use with a Mac: MyPublisher, Kodak, or one of the others? Is one easier or more inexpensive than the others? Thanks!
[...] Maricris would like to find “mint to be” labels for mint favors (tic-tacs). She doesn’t have time to DIY them; can anyone suggest an online retailer? [...]
[...] Maricris would like to find “mint to be” labels for mint favors (tic-tacs). She doesn’t have time to DIY them; can anyone suggest an online retailer? [...]
Girl–What you are trying to do is tacky. You should understand that your very recently divorced friends will probably feel a bit (or more than a bit) awkward with no date at an event like a wedding. This is a very unique situation, and it is best for all involved if you cough up the cash.
Girl - I STRONGLY disagree with Christine. I think it is fine to invite your newly single friends without a plus one - especially because it might be MORE awkward for each of them to go to a destination wedding with a date (and to see their ex with a date) than to mingle with the rest of the guests who are there. Also, just b.c you invited other single friends with dates, doesn’t mean they will all attend with dates - so these friends may not end up being the only singles. Finally, I think inviting a very newly divorced friend with a plus one might be the inappropriate thing to do — it might pressure that friend to feel like s/he should find a date and that somehow you disapprove of his/her singleness.
My wedding was on May 19, 2007 and I just came back from my honeymoon in Costa Rica. I had only came across Weddingbee a couple of months ago and was too busy to try to become a bee. I just wanted to say that I loved reading everyone’s comments and information everyday. They really helped me get through everything. I haven’t gotten my pictures yet but would really like to share my day with everyone here when I do get them. I know that there are a lot of screening on attached websites, so how would I be able to share those pictures?
GG: I personally LOVE shutterfly.com! You can do a 20 page book with your photos for under 30.00, and the quality is PHENOMENAL!!!!
Girl: I COMPLETELY agree with August Bride! Don’t make it any more awkward for them by adding additional “non-significant” dates to your wedding.
Karen: Have you ever been dancing at the Rainbow Room! If I were in NYC, I would pay every penny to have my reception there! : )
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