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Last week my maid of honor asked me to put together a list of guests for my bridal shower and bachelorette party, which are scheduled to take place the weekend of July 6. As I sat and typed up a tentative guest list, I came to the sad realization that I have very few close girlfriends that I can invite!
The shower list was slightly less painful because it included my mom, Mr. E’s mom and a few of his aunts that I’m closer to, so they kind of “padded” the list, so to speak. However, the bachelorette party list is a different story. The idea was to keep it an all-girl event, which eliminated a chunk of my close friends…who are guys! Not to mention the fact that I have a number of out-of-town girlfriends (from London, Texas, California, Florida, Ohio & Boston) who I can’t really invite because I know that coming to the wedding at all is already a financial stretch for them, let alone miscellaneous wedding-related parties! *sigh*
I don’t know if this is a problem for any of you ladies, but I personally haven’t really made too many close friends post-college. My group of peeps that I hang out with regularly are mostly my old college crowd. Strange, no? Perhaps I have been too anti-social and haven’t made enough effort. I hope I’m not the only loser, haha. 
Anyways, are you having multiple parties to accommodate different groups of people, or are you lumping everyone into one party?
Miss E, I am in your exact shoes… fortunately, most of my friends from college are also on the east cost, and so can come for a weekend. But I feel you on the post-college girlfriends– most of my local friends are guys!
Haha Miss E, you are NOT alone! FH and I moved back to his hometown after college, so not only are we not close to our friends (we graduated early so they’re still out there) but the only people in this city I know are FH’s family. Right now, I feel like besides FH, the next closest person I relate to is his 54 year old aunt!
I have GOT to find stuff to get us out of the apartment and meeting more people!
You are not alone! I had quite the trouble coming up with that list. And I felt just the same as I ran out of names at about 10 people (and that was stretching it!)
Yup, in the same boat!! My bachelorette party will be fairly small too - just me and the 3 girls in my bridal party plus a few girls that I’ve gotten to know quite well that are friends of my fiance. I have the same problem that some of my best girlfriends that I’d like to invite will be coming from overseas for the wedding so they probably won’t want to pay an extra week or two of hotel nights just so they can be there for the party too!
I’m hoping to have at least 7 or 8 people, that’s enough for a fun night out 
There’s definitely such a thing as too many people at a bachelorette party — enjoy your tight circle!
I know how you feel…I am lumping my party into one big one.
My bachelorette party will probably have about 5 or 6 girls, that’s it and I’m happy to keep it that way cause they’re all be my close friends.
honestly, i wish my best friend had your problem. lol. her guestlist grows by the day! hopefully there won’t be any more additions because it’s getting quite spendy. and i don’t have any more invitations left!
I know what you mean. My BMs are throwing me a lingerie shower/bachelorette the week of my wedding. They asked who else I want to invite and I told them it will probably just be the 6 of us. My cousins and some college friends would be on my list but I don’t think they’ll be in town yet.
I am having 4 different showers based on the people who offered to throw them. One with my family (2 hours north of me), one with his family (2 hours south of me), one with my local friends (oh, I guess I do have some but they are all married with kids and too busy for the bachelorette), and one with couples from our church.
One massive party! The weekend before the (destinationish) wedding, we’re hosting a (local) party that should serve as all traditional pre-wedding events in one. I just got notice that our second order of 100 invitations shipped today (free from vistaprint.com). Forget a guest list–I’ve already forgotten who I’ve invited.
I’ve actually gotten depressed a few times in my 20’s because I felt like I didn’t have as many friends as I used to when I was in school and working in restaurants. It’s just the way it gets as you get older, especially when friends move away.
Oh yes, I totally can relate. As I compiled my bach.party list I realized how many female friends I’ve lost touch with. This whole wedding thing is causing both me and my fiance to be very reflective of our social and familial relationships. I suppose I can make this a good thing and start working on maintaining friendships better and making new friends. Yay! Lessons learned all around!
I agree. If you cut out the guys, my list is kinda sad…but if you put them back in, now that’s a bachelorette party!
I was doing the EXACT same thing today — making up a list for my bachelorette party to give to my MOH. My list totalled 12 people, including me and my MOH! I was sad for a moment, but then I realized 2 things: 1. the older I get, the more I’ve developed fewer and more deep friendships with just a few people, and 2. I’m not really inviting a lot of friends to the wedding, and I can only really invite those to the bachelorette party who are also invited to the wedding. So it’s my own damn fault!
I totally understand how you feel. After writing my list for the bachelorette party, I realized how very few girlfriends I had…but then again…there may only be a few, but we sure know how to have fun!
I’m going through the same thing. I thought I was the only one experiencing this! The few friends that I have made post-college have since moved from Chicago and or were friends of the ex, so they’re out of the picture. Most of the girls on my list are friends of FI, so I’m kinda friends with them, but not as close as my long-term friends from grade school/high school/ and college (a whopping 3). All of my college friends live around the country, so I can also relate on that front. So, my shower, too, will be pretty small…..
Wow, thanks for making me realize that we are all in this together, gals!! I guess I shouldn’t feel so sad about my small guestlist afterall… I
Don’t feel bad.. you’ll have fun even if it’s a group of 3.
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Mrs. Emerald, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Wedding Planner Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Paralegal Engagement Date: October 8, 2006 Wedding Date: September 2007 Blogging Since: November 29, 2006 Venue: Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL About Me: I have been dreaming about my wedding forever, and flipping through bridal magazines since high school, so I am in my element! I am calling our theme "Vintage Inspired French/Asian Fusion." Mr. Emerald is very involved in the planning process, but of course he generally defers to me cuz I have a strong opinion of how I want everything to be :-).
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