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Not to make light of religion or afflictions…but I think I may have church-related tourette’s syndrome. When I get nervous, I curse a blue streak. My usual curses are in the range of church-related words, which I will not use here as to not offend readers. 
So, with our eight hour long church-hosted marriage prep class this upcoming Saturday, I am a bit worried. During our interview with the priest, I honestly said, “Oh God…I don’t know” about four times. In a half an hour. What kind of atrocities will come flowing out of my mouth in EIGHT HOURS?? Sure, I do have some self-control, but honestly, when I get nervous, I look down, clasp Mr. Kiwi’s hand, and curse to myself. I have never been more nervous than I am in a church, since I’ve been in one about five times in my whole life.
For fear of embarrassing Mr. Kiwi, I will try to keep my mouth shut as much as possible, but maaaan, sometimes I need to talk. I’m a little unsure of what actually happens in an eight-hour marriage prep class, but the warning to bring a pen and pencil and a soft cushion (!!!!!) leaves me a bit uneasy!
Readers, keep your fingers crossed that I won’t somehow get us banned from the church–my potty mouth may be the death of me.
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Haha FH said “Oh God” several times when we had our first officiant meeting. We have two more. I’m interested to see how those go!
Our Catholic Engaged Encounter featured a great cross-section of humanity — whatever quirks you think you have, there will be someone with some other quirk you will find absolutely bizarre. So just sit back, relax, and enjoy the freak show. I mean, they are all good people, but the situation makes for very interesting people watching, ya know? Don’t put any pressure on yourself. SOMEONE will be the “talker” of the group and take the pressure off everyone else.
Good luck! I think its has happened to everyone. I now try to remember what I am saying and if I do slip up and I can catch it I will say oh Gosh rather than oh God.
The best quote from our table at our Saturday session (from a non-Catholic groom marrying a very Catholic bride): Responding to the question, “What do you need from your partner to have a successful marriage” ….. “SEX!” (we were the front table and the bride seriously looked like she was going to take her groom’s head off)
Is it a Catholic marriage prep class? we did the 3/4 week precana and because it was such a big group, we didn’t need to talk to other people. We were only to talk to ourselves. The priest/speakers rarely talked to you personally. While I didn’t think it was very intimate, my FI and I had a great time fooling around during the class. We drew funny pictures and laughed a lot, esp since in our social opinion, some of the stuff they suggested was against our personal beliefs. In any case… don’t worry! Have fun!
haha, you are too funny. don’t worry. we went through the marriage prep class as well. and like turtle said, it’s mostly about you and your man talking to each other. the whole point of the session is to make sure that the couples are going into the marriage of your own free will and with full disclosure.
my fiance and i took the class over 3 evening sessions (rather than one full day). if you are interested, you can check out our reactions to the first session. keep in mind that i am catholic and my fiance is not. http://hesaidshesaid.better-together.us/index.php?date=2007-02-21
good luck, and HAVE FUN!
My FI is Catholic and I am not. We have had to do private counseling (three LONG sessions) and the Catholic Engaged Encounter. I get so nervous at these things too, Miss Kiwi… ESPECIALLY when the priest starts out with, “Now… you AREN’T Catholic… are you?” and then manages to discount every little thing I say because I am not in the Catholic-club. I sit quietly and take it because it is so important to my FI… but inside, I am swearing like a trucker who has been on the road in rush-hour traffic for 6 hours.
Hahaha, SoireeLaura — that “oh my word” cracks me up! Sounds like grandma… Aaaaand I think I may have to start saying it.
“Look at that huge spider!”
“Oh my word!”
Hee! this is just too funny.
My stepdad is Catholic, my mom’s not really religious. The first time I went to mass I was four. When everyone lined up to go to communion a very confused me called out in a very loud voice, “Do all those people have to go to the bathroom together?”
When he was young my MOH’s son developed a certain curiosity about breasts. His mom tried to answer his questions, but told him that there were places it wasn’t appropiate to discuss body parts. In mass one day he starts whispering something about women’s chests and not wanting to get into an argument, she just nods and says okay or whatever and he goes quiet. Then in an outraged tone calls out, “Mom, we’re not supposed to talk about boobies in church.”
Just avoid hanging around little kids and you should be fine.
Haha I do the same thing! I get nervous and manage to talk about everything under the sun that I SHOULD NOT talk about in that situation. So I just sit quietly and keep my comments to “Oh dear” and “How nice”! lol
Don’t worry Miss Kiwi! It isn’t that bad. My FI and I attended our 8 hour Pre Cana last weekend. We mostly listened to the speakers, completed exercises in the workbook, and then discussed our individual answers with our significant other. The session ended with a mass. All in all, it wasn’t as bad or boring as I had originally expected! Plus, it was nice to get it done in one day!
If you’re sitting down and your notebook or whatever isn’t in plain sight of anyone else you could write down whatever it is that you can’t say. Maybe writing it down will make it easier for you to keep it from coming out of your mouth.
Goodluck!
we were forced to do the engaged encounter retreat. my fiance (who isn’t catholic) was dying by the next day.
Like Lisa, I am Catholic and my FI is not. We have marriage counseling and we’ll have Pre-Cana as well. We will not have a Catholic Wedding. I don’t know how I will react at these gathering.
Good luck. You’ll be fine, be yourself there to get the most out of it.
FI and I went to an Engaged Encounter and neither of us are Catholic. FI said something that I guess was “inappropriate” because it was not in line with Catholic ideology and everyone was cool with it because they knew we aren’t Catholic.
The weekend was open to us to do as “non-denominational” and people were pretty tolerant to of all kinds of mishaps that were done by almost every couple there. Including odd church language.
I dropped the F-bomb in the last TWO churches I’ve been to for weddings. Thankfully it was not too loud and I was only moderately scolded for not choosing my words more carefully…
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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