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I have a month left until my big day in June! I had two showers. The first, was hosted by my bridesmaids at my mother’s home and about 25 people came. They had the food catered and my fiance made sangria. It was a couple’s shower. The second one was hosted by my fiance’s mother’s best friend at a bed and breakfast on a Saturday at noon. About 19 people or so came and it was nice. It was also open bar, so it was very nice. And the cake that they brought from a wonderful baker in town was to die for! Check around and see if any bed and breakfasts would host it for lunch or brunch. I agree with you and probably wouldn’t enjoy a party at the park unless there were lots of trees, a great covered area and a place to play music, etc. But that’s me…good luck!

I’m hoping that for our couples shower we can go frisbee golfing and then grab some good beer and fries at the pub. I’m guessing that won’t happen though. It’ll probably be fun, but involve tiny sandwiches and shower games.

Have you looked into community centers or checked with your local board on the knot? I’d try those places first.

My shower is going to be in my mom’s backyard and thrown by she and my sister. I don’t have much of a say other than I told them my availability and that I didn’t want them to rent some place because it’s a waste.
Also- My mom wanted to know where to get invitations. I showed her Rock Scissor Paper. She liked the Garden Party ones. I come to find out that this past Sunday- she was planting lots of flowers with my landscaper BIL because her backyard wasn’t “garden party” enough. I love my mother but she needs to know that she didn’t have to keep the garden party wording. I would have been fine with a backyard bbq and folding chairs. They are renting a tent. My sister was doing something with personalizing m&m’s for it and was ticked that my first name doesn’t fit (and I don’t go by Chris or Tina). Also- my mom is thinking small potted flowers or seed packets for favors.
This is all I know. And quite frankly- I wish I didn’t know this much because I’m beginning to worry about them! I know that I’m detailed and a little nutso but I didn’t need it to rub off on them.

Miss Kiwi - I’m having a similar problem. My mom offered to throw me a shower, and as much as I feel like I’m not really a shower kind of a girl, it just seemed like brides have showers, and I’m certainly not going to say no to a party thrown in my honor. However, the whole, I’m having a party so that you can give me gifts thing strikes me as a little weird. Anyway, my mom is waaaay more than me not a shower kind of a woman. But she just wants to do something nice for me that I will like. Which means she has a lot of questions. Where should it be? How do you feel about these restaurants? Why don’t you give me a list of restaurants you would like? How about this menu? Who should I invite? Etc. All I want in relation to this party is to not have to think about it! I feel terribly ungrateful for saying this, but I’d rather not have a shower than have to be involved in planning it. Is that terrible??

My sister & one of my best friends are throwing it together. I went to one meeting to discuss it with them, but then opted to be left out of the decision making! We ultimately decided to keep the location secret (I’m that kid who always wanted a surprise party), but I am helping with the guest list. Other than that, it’s all in their hands. (I will say, Miss Kiwi, that at the first meeting, the suggestion of a park (also in CA) was brought up and I tried to discourage them for the same reasons…)

re: the valley…if you throw it, they will come. my friend and i drove from the westside to placentia for our friend’s shower…no biggie. everyone in l.a. knows to expect at least some trekking. good luck!

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I had 3 showers: one was thrown by friends in a backyard - it was luau theme couples shower and catered by a local hawaiian place; one was thrown by another friend at the country club and of course was nice; the third was thrown by my MOH and was tea at the Peninsula Hotel.

I didn’t want 3 showers, but when you get married, people want to do nice things for you. If they want it to be in a park, then trust that they know what that entails and are willing to wait it out for you.

Or if you insist on a restaurant, find another one who will do it! I’m in LA, too (live right by the church you’re getting married in by the way) and there’s a ton of places that will cater cheaply.

Good luck

btw my shower was absolutely what i wanted. but i did get more of a headache b/c my sisters and my co MOH were having conflict, since it’s the first wedding for my MOHs they’re not sure what to do and then there was this whole non-communication thing and i had to get involved…long story.