Weddingbee Blog

Tea - absolutely. We received several gifts from people who were not invited to the wedding. It was very touching.

Kelly, I think Unforgettable by Nat King Cole is very touching. It says that he is special and means alot to you, but isn’t overly father-daughter-ish. There is also a version of Natalie Cole singing some over the original track so that would bring in even more meaning. I think my dad and I will be dancing to that one!

Christina: I’m providing dinner for both my photographer and his assistant, so I will be sending them an invitation. I figure anyone who’s going to have dinner is an invited guest.

You don’t send invitations to vendors, though it could be a nice touch if you have extras. Typically, your site should provide a vendor meal for a reduced price. Check to find out what your venue serves, and as long as it isn’t a meal in a box, you should be providing that. This is their job, they aren’t expected to be treated as invited guests or have a place at a table, nor would they want that. As a singer who’s done many weddings, there’s really no reason for me to stay through the reception, sitting with random folks. My DJ doesn’t even want the meal we’re providing for her!

Tea - I think it’s a nice gesture to send a small gift…but I did that once (it was maybe $20 or less off her registry) and the girl felt so guilty that she felt the need to say something to me about why I wasn’t invited. And no amount of saying, “I didn’t mind, I understand” made her feel better.

Werlemmings - I do all of that type of searching through google maps. Nothing that came up on a search for “catering” or “caterer” on the Vineyard had a name that would imply they specialize in Korean cuisine; also, when searching “Korean,” the first thing that comes up is a restaurant on the Cape (I think I’ve been there, and I’m pretty sure it was a sushi bar). Certainly this isn’t a definitive answer, but I gotta say it doesn’t look good.

Bobbi - I’m about to take my 5.5″ square booklet to the printer this evening. I totally scammed the design from the Cranes website. The various program bios on theknot have lots of examples; here’s one:
http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/user/page.aspx?username=theprogrambio
Also, way at the top of this very page, try putting “program” in the search box. Mrs. Spider and Mrs. Blueberry both had totally reasonable (but very different) DIY programs, and if you’re really ambitious, check out Mrs. Plumeria’s jaw-dropping masterpiece.
http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/05/10/programs-done/

Tea - How about a nice card sent after the wedding instead? I know I would feel guilty about getting a gift from someone who wasn’t invited, but then I’m almost a walking ball of guilt.

I still think it’s kind of weird when girls who aren’t engaged are activley planning their wedding. I think the avg. 1 yr +/- time is the perfect amount of time to obsess…otherwise you get too caught up in it all. There are soooo many things women can be learning about and exploring in their lives and devoting their energy to…weddings just shouldn’t take over years of it.

Does anyone know where I can find flower girl dresses in toddler sizes? Both of my flower girls will need to order a 4T and I haven’t been able to find many dresses that come in toddler sizes. Any ideas?

I was wondering, for all the other DIY-ers out there, if anyone could recommend a reputable printing company for my invitations. Either online or in the New Jersey area? I’ve already heard of Catprint, but wondered of any others some of you may have used for your invites?