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… you kiss me when we’re playing the kissing game!*
Mr. Pumpkin and I have been trying to decide what to do about the dreaded glass clinking/kissing business that always happens at weddings. It isn’t that we don’t like kissing 
, we just aren’t really a PDA kind of couple and we certainly don’t want to be standing up every half hour to smooch during dinner. Our original line of thinking was just to not say anything and hope that nobody remembers to do it. Our MC (my big brother) feels strongly that if we want to control it at all then we need to have some sort of plan. So, we have been trying to think of some ideas of how we can make this fun but also difficult so that we don’t have to do it too many times. These are our options thus far:
1. Imitation is the highest form of flattery - if you want us to kiss you have to stand up with someone and show us *how* you want us to kiss! I think this one could be super fun as the drinks continue to flow throughout the night but shy little Mr. Pumpkin is horrified at what he may see or, worse still, have to do if we choose this option.
2. Poems - if you want us to kiss you must compose a haiku or limerick about us and stand up and recite it. I think this could also be fun and maybe a bit naughty (especially if people go the “There Once Was A Man From Nantucket…” route) but it also may be too much fun! What if everyone of our guests gets up and recites a poem? It could be more kissing than we are looking to do in one night…
3. Singing - Since Mr. Pumpkin and I both love music we are naming our tables after songs and printing some of the lyrics on the backs of the table name cards. If you want us to kiss, you have to stand up and sing the song that your table is named after! Not the whole song but at least one verse and the chorus. And the songs may only be sung once. So if you don’t know how to sing the song that your table is named after (which is extremely likely since many of them are rock/punk or hip hop songs), then you can steal another table’s song as long as they haven’t already sung the song for us. I LOVE this idea but Mr. Pumpkin thinks it is too hard (because of our song selections) and that if no one stands up to sing we will just get glass clinking anyway when the masses get frustrated at the lack of public snogging. I think that there are enough easy ones (Summer Lovin’ from Grease - I mean c’mon! Someone will get up and sing that!) that we will have to kiss about 3 or 4 times and then it will be over.
What do you think, which would you choose? What, if anything, are you planning to do to combat this annoying tradition of making the B&G kiss as often as possible?
* Hi-Five - I think I am going to try to start all of my posts with song titles/lyrics! We’ll see how it goes - if I get stuck I may abandon that idea but for now the thought of it making me smile!
I went to a wedding a couple years ago where if they wanted the B&G to kiss, they had to stand up and sing a song with the word love in it. It went over extremely well - we might do that for ours, not sure yet!
Maybe you can think of an alternative significance to the glass tapping for your wedding- not resulting in you having to kiss. Your DJ could announce, for instance, that the bridal party has a few choice stories to tell about the bride and groom, which they will do throughout the night by request, if people tap their glasses. Then the pressure is off of you!
I also like your first option with the couples kissing- it could create some funny photos!
Oh, your ideas are great! (Though I never thought it was annoying.) The kids get a kick out of it, but their parents rein them in if they get too clink-happy. After it happens 5-10 times, it naturally loses steam anyway.
At a wedding i recently went to someone had to sing a song with the words “love” in it. The brides’ mom sang “Jesus loves me” 
I thought it was cute. I think she was the only one that did it.
Perhaps having to sing a song with “Kiss” in it will make it difficult but not overly so.
I think the clinking glasses could get out of hand too, thanks for help with ideas to make it a bit more difficult!
I second Jen’s idea about people singing a “love” song — that’s what we’re probably going to do. I also love the imitation idea!
I like your song idea but I would modify it slightly. If people want to see you kiss, instead of tinking the glasses, their *table* needs to stand up and sing a song. It can be any song they choose. My cousin did this at her wedding and it was a huge success- we had a table of great-aunts singing the song their father sang to their mother… another table of their college friends singing songs from that memorable time of life… one table that sang a sport-related song…. I think allowing the tables to think of their own songs is very creative and the songs people came up with were very touching. Also if you have them do it as a table, then there’s less embarrassment for people to stand up and sing.
My fiancee cannot stand the tinking of glasses for kisses, so we’re going to have to think of an alternative. I think he doesn’t like the idea at all but we will need to give people an option or else they’ll do it anyway, I think. I may borrow your idea b/c our theme is poetry (tables named after poets w/ a favorite love poem on the table).
I love the clinking crystal tradition. Although if you wanted to make it different, it would be neat if you made them recite a famous line from a romantic movie. Like ‘Kiss me, kiss me as if it were the last time’ (Casablanca) or ‘I may not be a smart man, but I know what love is’ (Gump). It could be fun, so long as your family has some movie buffs!
Oh, I really like Natalie’s idea. It would be funny too. Like “You had me at hello” (Jerry Mcguire) kekekeke But it might be too easy and you’ll be kissing all the time still.
We’re going with the each table sings a song, we are planning on 10-14 tables and I don’t think each table will sing so we figure this is the best way to keep our PDAs to a minimum. We are going to announce at the begining of the reception that we will not be indulging in the kiss prompted by glass clinking but request that each table stand and deliver a love song should they want to witness a kiss.
You and your fiance don’t have to make out! Just a little kiss… Wouldn’t that be a whole lot less embarrassing than having guests sing? If they have to sing for it, or recite poetry, or “perform” they’re going to expect a much more involved kiss…
Chances are, the clinking will not get out of hand. I think it happened once at our wedding. Or not at all, I forget. If you don’t mention it, it’s likely to happen less.
Natalie! You are a genius!!!! Mr. Pumpkin and I love quoting movies and many, many of our friends are also movie buffs. How to do this though… because Kattail is right, just one line is waaaaay too easy. Maybe they have to do at least 4 lines and it could be an exchange of lines between several people. Something more like:
Brian Fantana: I think I was in love once.
Ron Burgundy: Really? What was her name?
Brian Fantana: I don’t remember.
Ron Burgundy: That’s not a good start, but keep going…
Brian Fantana: She was Brazilian, or Chinese, or something weird. I met her in the bathroom of a K-Mart and we made out for hours. Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.
Ron Burgundy: I’m pretty sure that’s not love.
Brian Fantana: Damn it.
What do you think? Too hard? Remember that our ultimate goal here is to kiss as little as possible so I have to add some sort of twist!
A friend of ours gave a list of trivia questions to the MC. You had to choose bride or groom trivia. If they guest got it right they would kiss.
Sometimes people are to embarassed to answer questions in front of a crowd. I think a total of 5 people did it.
Its also a nice way to give your guests some fun information about the new Mr & Mrs Pumpkin.
BTW. I LOVE LAMP!
Love the haiku idea. Stealing the haiku idea.
I went to a wedding a couple of years ago where one side was all professional musicians (predominantly choral singers) and one side was all gym teachers. They elected to go the “whole table must sing a song with love in the title” route, and…not a note out of the professionals, but man, the groom’s rugby team provided entertainment for the rest of the night.
one of my friends eventually started ignoring the tinkling of glasses [the groom is really shy so the pda was annoying for him] and it eventually fizzled out. but not before our table clinked our glasses for a full minute, yup, all 8 of us. we’re also annoying like that too. lol.
but i do like the idea of having people sing for a kiss. i think that’s really cute and should prove to be a lot of fun.
on a side note, i heart this song so much. i like to sing it to my bf. it makes him crack up every time. plus i always get a kiss in the end 
Maybe you and your hubby to be could suggest a movie title and have your guest think of a line from it. Then it could be more interactive….and possibly more difficult!
so many great idea! my sister went the imitation route at her wedding and it was so much fun. every time there was clinking, the MC would pick a couple’s name out of a hat, ask them to demonstrate a “perfect kiss” and then the B&G had to do the same. it was hilarious! some were simple pecks on the lip, others were borderline nc17!
I hereby announce without shame that I’m stealing the movie line idea. Done and done.
This is why I love this site. Didn’t think of that. FI hates PDA. I think Haikus for us.
Ooh. I really like the idea of having the whole table sing a song! it’s the perfect amount of cheese for my cheesey groom. I might just take that idea!
Your ideas are fun, the movie quote one is especially fun. I just wanted to mention that there is another alternative though. You can ignore them. We did, and they only clinked once before they got the message, and then they were having so much fun talking and eating I don’t think anyone missed it.
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Mrs. Pumpkin, Saskatchewan, Canada Blogger Since: April 10, 2007 Age and Occupation: 28, Lawyer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Farmer Engagement Date: July 14, 2006 Wedding Date: June, 2007 About Me: I love movies, music and I am addicted to TV. When I have some spare time I also love scrapbooking and making personalized greeting cards and above all playing Hide & Seek or Duck, Duck, Goose with my two adorable nieces!
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