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I’m a So Cal girl too! So is my fiance..well So cal GUY! Ha! But I hear ya on the house prices! We can only afford a condo now too! But we love this area so much, we won’t leave! It still so frustrating!

I wish I could say something to make you feel better! But your right that at least his parents are up their. I’m sure it will get easier with time as you make friends up there too!

Hopefully your friends/family in So cal will come visit often. Plus, when you DO have kids, they won’t want to stay away too long!
Hang in there!

Conveniently, we both relocated for work, me from the Midwest, and him from…Texas, I guess, although he was there for grad school. It’s only the paycheck that ties us to this area, so leaving it probably wouldn’t be at all emotional.

My dad, on the other hand, is moving out of Illinois for the first time in his life, at the age of 74, to a small house in SC. It’s almost entirely a financial decision–the cost of living in northern Illinois is getting stupid, as half the state is becoming a suburb of Chicago–and he and his wife are spending the time between the June 1 closing and the June 23 wedding driving around and saying goodbye to people and places they’ve known since birth. They’re both excited about the new little town they’re moving to, but it’s got to be difficult to leave so much behind.

When I moved for school, I knew I was moving for four years because the school I chose was so far away from my hometown. And then it ended up being five and a half years. I remember when I first moved, crying all the time and wondering what I had gotten myself into and regretting the decision every minute of every day. After about a month I started to get used to it. By the end of my time there, I was so sad to leave and go back home! It takes awhile to adjust to big moves like this - don’t underestimate the role that emotions play in “logical” decisions like this.

I think the absolute best thing would be to just get out and try to meet new people and get to know your new surroundings. Find a local coffee shop you love and make it “your place,” or establish a new routine/ritual in your new hometown with your fiance like going to the same restaurant for brunch every Sunday or going for a walk around a new part of town once a week together. Once you do things like that, you’ll start to put down roots in your new home and it will become a special part of your relationship, something positive instead of negative.

Hope this helps. And totally, let yourself be sad for a bit even while you try to make new friends and get comfortable in your new place.

We’re moving to be closer to you Miss Hibiscus!!! (Seriously, we are moving to Sac though)

Back in the dating talks… we discussed the big “where do you want to live” debacle, and we both decided LA wasn’t the place we wanted to raise kids. Plus, we would both need to live on the westside… where condos are the only option… and neither of us ever wanted that.

So… we compromised… since he’d love to move to DC, and I’m a Cali girl. We’re moving and we’ll still be 4+ hours from my family, but we can buy a house (a killer house at that!), both have great jobs and still live in CA.

But seriously… we’re going to need to start a post-Bee club up there cause I won’t know a soul when I move (and I seriously need a good eye doc!)

Awww, i feel for you Miss Hibiscus!! I had lived my entire life in So Cal and after we got married we moved to my husbands hometown of Seattle!!! We have been living here for a bit now and it still feels like were are just on vacation and that we will head home. I still feel bitter about the move from time to time but I, like you, know that it’s a better life for us here. But let me tell you..i miss the So Cal weather and the beach so much.

Awww…thanks for the support Ladies! I have 2 friends here and they’re my fiance’s relatives. lol

Miss Lemon! Will you be my friend? lol I’m in Roseville. haha Then I’ll have 3 friends.

Aimee–Will you be my friend too? haha You can be friend number 4. The list keeps growing.

I’m seriously trying to be positive about it and I’m really outgoing and all but that makes it worse. People just keep saying, “you’re so friendly–you’ll make friends so easily” When is it ever easy to leave all that you know behind? BUT–again…..i think it will start to feel like home with kids…..but it doesn’t yet.

My future husband and I met through mutual friends when I was living in Nashville and he was living in coastal Georgia (just an hour south of you, Impatience!). Very long story short, I’m from southern Illinois, he’s moved all over the place but his parents and sister live in Savannah, and I lived here in Georgia for 3 1/2 years right after college. My company was willing to let me move from Nashville to Georgia and work from home (super awesome boss!) and since I had already lived here, had close friends here and could easily relocate and keep my job, I moved. There was really no question about it.

BUT… in Nashville I was three hours from my entire family, and my parents were less than thrilled to have me move 15 hours away. But they know that I’m happy and where I’m supposed to be, and hey, who doesn’t love having a reason to visit the beach?

But I know how you feel — it’s tough to relocate for any reason, especially when you don’t know the area and don’t have a circle of friends. At least you have your future husband and his family, though. That’s consolation, right?? It WILL get better.

It’s funny you posted this today…I just finished moving into FI apt. this evening. I left my job in GA and am moving to SC to be with him after 2 years of Long distance dating. It’s intimidating moving somewhere where its “his friends” and there isn’t a job for me yet. All my family is on the west coast and what friends I had in SC all moved away after we finished grad school two years ago. I know it’ll probably take 3 or more (hard) months to adjust to the city and integrate our two households together. But–I’d rather be doing it now than right after the wedding!

Yay! I wasn’t posting an ad for friends but apparently, I’m making them left and right. haha

Here’s my ad now I guess:

I don’t forget birthdays. I’m a good planner. I’m fun to be around and make people laugh. I like to debate though but I’m not stubborn. I’m understanding and give good advice. I love to play boardgames. I mean LOVE to play boardgames. hehe I tend to talk during movies though–my apologies in advance…..and I sometimes blurt out little things I didnt’ know were secrets….but if you tell me not to tell anyone…I really wont. Oh, and i like teasing people BUT i can take being teased. I’m a good sport. Okay, any more responses to my ad? lol hahaha

Hang in there girlie! Since FI and I have been together I have had to relocate a few times for him and his military career. We are currently living in beautiful Hawaii, I am originally from Seattle and he is from KC. Three days after the wedding we are having to relocate to our new home in Florida, I think it is exciting and will be a great step in creating our new life together in a new place! : )