Weddingbee Blog

Early on in the wedding planning my then fiance told me that since I’d been putting a lot of time into planning the wedding, he’d write all of the thank you notes. That’s the moment I knew he was perfect.

In the end I did end up writing a handful of them, to my close friends who had given me more um..intimate shower gifts. Otherwise he wrote all of em, and got them out like 6 weeks after the wedding.

We are both writing a note on every card. It is taking forever but I think that the effort will be appreciated.

Survey needs another answer: “None of the above.” Technically, the TY note should be signed only by one person — the writer — and not both.

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EXCERPT FROM ABOVE LINK:

“My husband-to-be will be writing some of our thank-you notes. How should our monogram read?

Thank-you notes, like any other social correspondence, are personal messages written by one person. The thank-you notes you write may be written on behalf of you and your husband, but they are still written by you and you alone. Therefore, only your monogram appears on them. Likewise, you sign just your name at the end of your note. If your husband-to-be will be writing his share of thank-you notes, he should do so on his own stationery. Men most often use correspondence cards instead of fold-over notes.”

Hmm, we don’t really fit into the survey. I wrote all of them, but with input from my husband. (”What should I say about the towels?” “They’re fluffy.”) The sentiments are from both of us, but I just happen to have the better handwriting!