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Jen - sometimes hand delivering invites can be really classy. Just make sure it’s not like everone has to line up to get them… Give them to the individuals privately with a nice little comment like “We hope that you will be able to attend!” Or, perhaps you can think of a more creative way to hand them out, like with a flower attached. If done correctly, this will hopefully make your guests feel special! 
Good luck!
hi guys!
my invites are 7 x 7 and i was wondering if it would look cheap if i mailed it out at work, using that big ugly white pitney bowes stamp. what do you guys think?
also, i was wondering if anyone can reccommend any good wedding dress alteration places that i can go to in nyc!
thanks ladies!!!
Jen– in my culture (Indian), wedding invitations are almost always delivered by hand. The personal delivery is supposed to indicate how honored you would be if the invitees would attend. I think it’s a really nice touch and something my fiance and I are going to do (and we grew up in the US!). I say go for it!
I am looking for suggestions for people to do my hair and makeup for my wedding in NY/Brooklyn. My wedding is 4 months away, and I’m getting worried I’ve missed the boat. I am not so great about keeping up with the knot timelines!! Any suggestions?
Also - has anyone worked with Kelly Schultz of Makeup by Lauren Kelly? She seems to be available for my date, but I have little to no info about her work.
Thanks!!
Jen - This is just MY opinion, but I think mailing the invitations is the way to go, unless your event itself is also very informal. I am not trying to be mean, but handing them at a backyard BBQ seems cheap.
Brooke, I wasn’t impressed with MyPublisher either. I haven’t tried the one you mentioned (although I will check that out) but we are probably going to go with Blurb - you might want to check out their website. I’ve heard good things from them.
Clarifying - If it’s part of your culture, or you are hand delivering invites individually for the prupose of making it special, I think that’s one thing. But if you are trying to save money and that’s the motivation, then that’s likely what it will look like to your guests if not careful. What I am trying to say is, hand deliver them individually, not en mass. That way it doesn’t seem like you just didn’t want to waste a stamp on them. I hope that makes sense!!!
Jen — I think handing them out at a BBQ is fine if everyone at the BBQ was invited. Otherwise, it might be a bit awkward for you and the guests that aren’t invited.
I agree about it being ok to hand deliver them. If you don’t want to say “here you go, I’m too cheap to spend a dollar on you” then you might play it off as recently having heard horror stories of invites lost in the mail, and you really want these people to come so you wanted to personally put the invites in their hands. It will sound thoughtful and sincere, even if the real motivation is to save money.
I wouldn’t be surprised if one or two people even commented what perfect timing the BBQ is so you don’t have to pay postage for them. I know I wouldn’t care if someone gave me mine instead of mailing it to me - weddings are expensive, yo!
I wanted to clarify my comments earlier about hand delivering the invitations. I think hand-delivering them to the invitee’s house (which is my plan) is a little different than hand-delivering it at a bbq. I probably wrote my original response a little quickly and didn’t consider that it might be awkward if there are ppl at the bbq who are not invited to the wedding. If not, I would go ahead. But if there are people there who are not invited to the wedding, I wouldn’t hand them out because that could be uncomfortable.
Is there a particular program people are using to make their storyboards? Nothing I use seems to make a nice collage…any suggestions?
I piggybacked on hand delivering invites at my cousin’s bridal shower!(yes it was bad but it was okay with her bc she had the same plan)I did bring people aside and gave them the invitation which they promptly put away to be opened later.
Jen — It’s CLASSIC to hand-deliver. That’s why there are 2 envelopes, after all.
Only 2 things:
1) If not everyone at the BBQ is invited, must use a lot of discretion! Might not be worth the risk, because one extra head will cost way more than the postage. The BBQ guests will talk (especially if they are handed out at the beginning of the BBQ) and others might expect to be invited.
2) Assuming all is OK w/ #1, I wouldn’t hand them out while everyone is up to their elbows in BBQ sauce. Maybe hand them out at the end; this will also avoid overrunning your FILs’ BBQ with wedding talk, in case the wedding is not already assumed to be the primary topic of the BBQ; depends on their BBQ guest list composition.
Brooke,
I just used blurb for my engagement pictures, and i was VERY happy with them! The customer service is great, and the program is super easy to use. the quality is perfect, and i cant rave about them anymore! I’m using it to make my guest book, and Christmas presents for the family with our photos from our cruise.
You can see some examples of ours on my blog, or contact me there if you have questions!
Brooke, wow, they are expensive. Worth it, tho per jessi?
Future Mrs JOB - I wouldn’t address your response envelopes with “Future Mr & Mrs”. Some might say it’s bad luck, some might say it’s corny, some might say it’s tacky.
We live together too, and have simply put our first names “John and Jane” and our address. Everyone we’re inviting knows we live together and knows our last names. Good luck!
Jen - I would definitely hand deliver - although agree with other commenters about everyone being invited, etc. at the BBQ
Another question–does anyone know where I can buy a lot of Chinese frog loop buttons? I’d like them to be brown and preferably less than 50 cents each.
Future mrs j.o.b. — I have to agree that I wouldn’t use it quite yet on stationery, especially if it’s formal stationery. Might sound — especially to the older generation — a little premature, and then you can’t use the leftovers.
Jen: I think most of mine were hand-delivered by my bridal party and relatives. With over three hundred invites going out for our 450-person wedding, we would have spent a small fortune to send all of them. Just be discreet about it, ie. making sure not to hand one out under the nose of an uninvited person, etc. We had the bridal party pass ‘em out because that’s what’s commonly done in my circle of friends, but perhaps it’s also a method of tact, since we weren’t the ones actually handing them out?
Thanks, Laura & Jessi! I hadn’t found Blurb in my search, and they are WAY less expensive than what I had found. I am willing to pay for quality printing, but if you say that Blurb is nice (and their prices are way cheaper), I think I will give them a shot!
Has anyone bought from Cudge.net? Would you recommend this vendor? How was the quality of their products and also their shipping time/service? Thanks!
Shaz-if you’re in the LA area, there are wholesale shops that sell these buckles for $0.75 each and the guy will sell if cheaper if you buy it in bulk (though he didn’t specify how much cheaper). The shops are in the 800 block of Maple Ave in downtown LA and near “Beads and more” and “Buttons and trim expo”, but I don’t remember the specific store name, they all look and sound alike.
my book at blurb wasn’t more than 40 bucks, and I had 70 some pages. If you want a closer up picture of the quality of the photo, I can do that later.
Jen- I think that it would be okay to hand them out at a BBQ. I would disagree with the person that said that you will look cheap. I truely believe that people do not really give it that much thought. I believe that most people are just honored to share in your special day if they are able to attend.
The wedding industry is a billion dollar industry. They continue to make money off of what people think that other people are going to think. Trust me, no one cares about you wedding as much as you do. Sad to say but most people are really not going to pay attention or care about the minute details that brides stressed about. For example I know that we all want great invitations… I mean who wouldn’t want letterpressed invitations but believe me when I tell you that most people will toss that $19 per set invitation that you stressed about. Then again this is all my opinion.
~Question for the Beehive~
Could anyone tell me where to find flourishes for DIY invitations? I tried to google them but am not sure if I was looking for the wrong thing?
Thanks!
Try dafont.com for flourishes. Alot of of flourishes that I have seen have parts of font files. Try porcelain font. It has some nice flourishes in it. I have become quite a font fanatic.
T-
We bought 75 votives w/ glass holders from cudge. Not only did they ship the items very nicely, but they came in about a week. I remember thinking it was abnormally fast.
I would highly recommend them.
Jen-
I think handing out the invites at the BBQ is ok, given what other people said (if everyone there is invited, and not up to their elbows in bbq sauce when you do it).
For those invited but not at the BBQ, you can get rectangular envelopes for your square invites and it should be the normal rate of postage, unless weight is the issue.
Jen - Most of my friends have given out their wedding invites and everyone was perfectly fine with it. I’m planning to do the same.
Shaz - I’m also using rhinestone buckles for my invitations and I found the best prices on http://www.ejoyce.com. The store is also located in the garment district in NYC if you wanted to swing by. Unfortunately, they just raised their prices 2 weeks ago but they still are cheaper than most web sites I searched.
crap, i had to repost
also check out
http://www.yourinvited.au
http://www.ejoyce.com
http://www.lesbonribbons.com
http://www.target.com…search for rhinestone invitations.
Thanks for the my answer
I was very pleased with the products from cudgenet. (I bought organza bags).
I used little ones to pack rice hearts in, and larger bags for truffles that were put into into woven boxes as a favor.
They were much cheaper than AC Moore or Michaels. And I got therm in just a few days.
Shaz, I bought mine at Trim 2000 in Los Angeles, he will deliver if you are out of state. Mine were 1.5 inches and $1 a piece. Smaller ones are definitely cheaper!
Thank you Judi!
Future Mrs. Job: I have the same situation where my fiance and I live together. I had them addressed to me alone “Miss Emily Sxxxxx”
New Question! I am having a smal bridal luncheon for my bridesmaids and family. However, because most of them are out of town, it will have to be the Friday before the wedding. I am worried about excluding the other non-family/non-participants who will also be in town by then. I really want to keep this luncheon small and intimate, but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings….thoughts?
New Question!
For those using a photo-guestbook (MP, Blurb, etc) what type of pen will you put out for signing? I don’t want to use regular ball point since sometimes you have to press a little harder and I dont want the pages to be “indented” with the text. Not sure if a sharpie would bleed through… what else is there that is fast drying and won’t smudge?
Thanks so much for all the advice on the invitation question! I think we will hand out some of them (although maybe not at a public event like the BBQ) - the ones I hand out I will write their names in calligraphy on the envelope instead of printing. We actually gave out the first invite to a close aunt and uncle the other day like that and they loved it. Although it probably didn’t hurt that they knew that we chose to give it to them before anyone else. 
I also added a handwritten tag with their names tied to the pocketfold and stamped the envelope with a double happiness stamp to further personalize it. Each one has an individual code to RSVP online (we printed all the codes directly on the paper instead of a label), so each invite is actually unique.
Getting lost in the mail has definitely become my pet peeve - we sent out STDs and my aunt’s backyard is right behind ours, and hers STILL got lost!!! the cost was definitely a suprise - at 120 invites it seemed like a lot for postage. thanks again!
Andrea - can you do something else with the out of towners later on? Set up a sightseeing tour, or a fun run?
Or if you can’t set up something for them, you could provide out of towners with a list of activities in the area with a map of locations - they will appreciate that you spent the time getting that info together.
Add to the beehive…
Does anyone have a reference for a hairstylist or makeup artist in Palm Springs? Preferably one that would come to the site that morning/afternoon.
Thanks!
Hi ITS–
7X7 is so cool!
But I would not use a work stamp.
Could you get in trouble from work?
This is kind of the one thing in life that should have a fancy stamp on it.
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