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June 14th, 2007 @ 4:27 pm by Beehive
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moraht is a mentor for about twenty adolescent girls who are extremely excited about her upcoming wedding. She’s close with them, and she’d like very much to include them–but spending $100 per girl to invite them is impossible. Have any other mentors or teachers had this problem? What’s the graceful way to handle it?
Can anyone recommend a Palm Springs hair stylist or makeup artist for chrissie?
TN and her fiance are hosting their own wedding and rehearsal dinner; should they combine the two invitations? (To consider: her wedding is a more formal affair.)
Angela is looking for a place to sell leftover craft items from her wedding (in this case, candles).
OT’s fiance’s birthday falls on their wedding day. Any suggestions for fun ideas on how to surprise him with something birthday-related?
Isabella is looking for a lighting company in NYC to do some simple things for about $1k. Any recommendations?
glo needs suggestions for a good place for an after-party for her friend’s wedding in Southern California. She’s looking for something loungy and kick-back; a classier version of D&B’s. They’ll be in LA County, near Rowland Heights.
Ann’s indoor wedding is indoors and formal (black tie optional). She’s looking for a second dress to change into for the reception for dancing. Would a short white dress like this one be OK? Is there an accepted style of “reception dresses”?
Stacy and her fiance are considering having their reception centerpieces taken to their church cemetary. What’s the best way to let guests know not to take them?
Suasita’s friend has told her she’s engaged, but Sausita doesn’t expect a wedding invitation (they’re not close anymore); is she still obligated to get her a gift?

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YUM

Hi,

Does anyone know where to get those square glass vases for cheap? Or any vases. Even on Ebay, they seem expensive especially once you add on those astronomical shipping fees. Thanks!

6/14/07 @ 4:36 pm (reply)

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Mary

moraht- I would do my best to avoid talking about the wedding in the girls’ presence. If the girls do bring it up, keep the discussion short, but be sure to add that it’ll be a small event.

sausita- My opinion is that you are never obligated to get a gift. That said, it might be nice to send her a card congratulating her on the upcoming nuptials.

6/14/07 @ 4:42 pm (reply)

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cubangirl

moraht– when i was in HS, our teacher would invite their students to the wedding, but not the reception. it was a way to include them without stepping over the line and putting them in a situation where their teachers were drinking, etc. that might be a graceful solution.

6/14/07 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

Guest

Stacy- what about a nice printed card, using your wedding colors or motif, at the base of the centerpieces saying something like:

Following the reception, Stacy & Mr. Stacy intend to honor those that came before them by donating the flower arrangements to XYZ Church Cemetary. They hope the flowers will bring the same cheer to visitors of the Church that they have brought to you tonight.

Or, maybe you don’t want to mention the cemetary and just write that they will be donated to the XYZ Church for the enjoyment of the parish.

I think people read things on the table– looking for menus! If anyone takes them after reading that…

6/14/07 @ 4:52 pm (reply)

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Natakie16

I’m sorry I don’t have any answers, I just laughed out loud (in a good way) at the wording of OT’s problem- his birthday falls on the wedding date, not the other way around! Hehe…I think his birthday happens on the same day each year Ah, weddings….

But, just to add something, anything suggested or that you think of on your own to do will be looked upon as the sweetest thing ever by your new husband.

6/14/07 @ 5:00 pm (reply)

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angie

Stacy - I think MJ has a great idea.
morhat - could you have a pretend wedding for the kids? Like a shower for just them, and maybe show them your wedding video after your honeymoon?

6/14/07 @ 5:02 pm (reply)

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sally

moraht, they obviously know about the wedding and are excited, i don’t think you need to invite them. If you have the time, maybe you could have a little Tea Party celebration or something, or have a shower with them. Maybe that is overwhelming?

S, you are not obligated ot get a gift unless you bet and invite and even then i know people who dont go and dont get gifts anyway.

6/14/07 @ 5:09 pm (reply)

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Manda

Morhat - You could invite them just to the ceremony. How old are they? Could you invite them to celebrate after the dinner is served?

TN - You could, but if it is a more formal event, sending them seperatly is probably better.

Suasita - Gifts are never required, but cards are always a nice way to say congrats without spending money you don’t want to spend.

Stacy - Are you moving tables for a dance? Could you have some of the centerpieces removed at this time? Leaving just a few as decoration for the remainder of the evening (and to be taken if your guests so desire) or like MJ said, a little note somewhere letting your guests know what you are doing with them…

6/14/07 @ 5:10 pm (reply)

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Iris

Yum - Ikea?

6/14/07 @ 5:12 pm (reply)

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Manda

So here’s the deal. I am making trivia cards for all the tables at my reception. They will have pictures of either the groom, bride or the couple on one side and 4-5 questions on the other. I have 10 tables with 8 people/table and want to do 10 cards a table so there are enough for all. I have been to a number of weddings where i know the bride OR the groom and that will be the case with many of our guests. I think it will be a neat way for our friends and family to get to know us. This being said, I need about 100 cards and 4-500 questions (some will be repeats just worded differently.) I have come up with about 150 on my own and now I plead to the hive….do you have any good suggestions? Thanks in advance!

6/14/07 @ 5:16 pm (reply)

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thistleorchid

morhat - I worked for an after school program for middle school kids and after one of our coworkers got married, she brought in a slideshow of pictures set to the music of their first dance. The slideshow was 3-4 minutes long and the kids LOVED it. Made them feel special and thought-of and like they were included in her thoughts.

I doubt any of them are going to be surprised that they’re not invited.

6/14/07 @ 5:22 pm (reply)

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twelvetigers

Manda- have some examples of good questions you’ve already come up with?

6/14/07 @ 5:22 pm (reply)

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twelvetigers

Mrs. Bee - This isn’t a question, but I’m not sure how to send this otherwise. I bought “Makeup Makeovers: Weddings: Stunning Looks for the Entire Bridal Party” after someone blogged about it a while back. I’m married now, and, well, I don’t want it anymore. It’s in great shape. I’d like to give it away to a bride that will be doing her own makeup. I guess I just need a bride and her address.

6/14/07 @ 5:26 pm (reply)

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Iris

moraht — If you’re comfortable with the kids you teach watching your wedding ceremony, what a great experience for them. Since there are so many of them, it’s easy to explain that since you can’t afford to invite ALL of them to the reception, you wanted to instead invite ALL of them with their families (someone needs to drive them and supervise them) to the ceremony only.

On the other hand, it’s not the worst lesson in the world for kids that they aren’t invited to everything, either.

6/14/07 @ 5:27 pm (reply)

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flip flop girl

OT -
I plan to surprise my groom with a special groom’s cake on our wedding day. No special occasion, but just one of a few ways to remind him that it’s “our” day not just all about me. I will probably have the cake brought in right before we cut our wedding cake. You could do something similar and maybe even bring in party hats/noise blowers and lead the singing of “happy birthday” =)

6/14/07 @ 5:31 pm (reply)

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Julie

Ann — I was kind of having the same predicament. We are having a black-tie wedding in a very formal setting, and I was contemplating getting a second dress for the reception. However, personally, I don’t think a short dress is acceptable. While the dress is lovely, you need to be at least at the same formality levels than your guests, if not more formal. If you are asking others to wear floor-length gown for a black-tie optional affair, you should too. That said, you can still find a lovely long dress which is much easier (and more comfortable!) than a wedding gown, while still black-tie appropriate.

6/14/07 @ 5:52 pm (reply)

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Manda

…here are some examples of my questions (not all of them, since some have some more personal information in them that I don’t feel like posting for the whole world!)

http://www.xanga.com/FromMs2Mrs/597724916/example-questions.html

6/14/07 @ 5:54 pm (reply)

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Amanda

Ann-
I love the dress from that link! But I agree with Julie, that if you’re telling guests “black tie optional” you should be dressed just as formal.

6/14/07 @ 6:00 pm (reply)

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lily

moraht - i’m a schoolteacher and my students are extremely excited too. i plan on making a simple postcard announcement of only the ceremony (which is in a chapel)…i would love for them to be a part of my big day…but can’t afford it and that way…they can still see me get married!

6/14/07 @ 6:04 pm (reply)

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lily

isabella - check out sang along at 230 grand street.
http://www.sangalong.com
they’re our MC/DJ but i think they have lighting equipment too.

6/14/07 @ 6:06 pm (reply)

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