Listing My Life Away

Listing My Life Away

June 14th, 2007 @ 9:32 am by Mrs. Kiwi

Well, I had finally given my FMIL the guest list for the rehearsal dinner, and I was thinking that this was the last list I had to make for a few months, with my showers not coming up until September or October. I’m so unbelievably lucky to have two great families who love me so much that they want to give me two showers. Still, when my aunt called with the orders to send her my list for the shower, I was a little dismayed. Another list!!

Of course, I’m not ungrateful, and you’d think I’d be happy to list a bunch of people to come to my shower. My aunt asked for a list of all friends and family (including Mr. Kiwi’s family), as soon as possible. The reason I’m dismayed is three-fold.

Here are my list of concerns:

I’ve mentioned before my lack of female friends. This is usually not a concern for me, friends are friends. Unfortunately, this makes my list of “friends” awfully small. I think there is one person on there. That’s okay with me, but it is a little embarrassing. Since Mr. Kiwi and I have been together, I’ve spent less time with friends and a lot more time with family, which is actually great, but this makes for some slim shower-list pickings. Anyone want to go to Miss Kiwi’s bridal shower?

Since Mr. Kiwi’s mom is also throwing me a shower, I figure all the girls I know on that side will go to HER shower. My future cousins and nieces and aunts… the problem is my aunt wants me to invite them as well. I know my FMIL would LOVE to go to my aunt’s shower, as will Mr. Kiwi’s sister (my MOH), but it’s asking too much to invite all the cousins and aunts to two showers. I probably should have told my aunt this when she called, but I was in the middle of looking for a Harry Potter book for her. Excuses excuses. To be honest, I’m a little afraid of her!!

My third and final trivial matter (yes, I’m aware they’re trivial) is involving my Dad’s side. Growing up, my cousins were like sisters and brothers, and my cousin-in-laws are almost like blood. They haven’t seen my Mom’s side for quite awhile, and I worry that it may be a little awkward. Of course, they’re all perfectly sweet and polite, but you know how you just worry anyway.

So while I know I’m lucky to have such crap things to fret about, I need to make a list by this weekend. If you’re having two showers (or more) how are you organizing the lists?

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9 Responses to “Listing My Life Away”

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Jenn

I have a ridiculous number of lists put together - wedding, rehearsal dinner, engagement party, three different showers, and the bridesmaids luncheon.

I’m not thrilled about it, but there’s going to be some overlap. After fretting over it for a little while, I stepped back and told myself that this is not about gifts. It’s about spending time with the people I love, which really is what we want our wedding in general to be about. I plan to make it clear to those who are on multiple lists that their presence is all the gift we need — getting to spend time with those close to us is the best part of this whole thing!

6/14/07 @ 10:19 am (reply)

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Roslyn

Miss Kiwi,
I had three showers: one thrown for me by my FMIL and FSIL, one by my mom and sisters (MOHs), and one by my church. The church one was no problem (the only overlap there was my FMIL, my mom, my sisters, and my grandma). As for the other two we worked it like this: my FMIL wanted to invite a tonne of her friends so we left her shower for her side only including friends and family. My mother on the other hand didn’t want to invite so many of her friends so at that shower we had my friends and my side of the family. Across the board, the only overlap was my mom, grandma, FMIL, my sisters, and one of my really good friends who asked to come to both.
As for not having too many girl friends, don’t sweat it. Your family isn’t there to judge you and most of them probably know most of your good friends are guys anyway. You just have to relax, have fun and take it all in (I wish I could have followed my own advice!), because this isn’t going to happen again in your life!

6/14/07 @ 10:28 am (reply)

Guest

Darlene

Any way of doing a coed shower instead of a traditional bridal shower for one of them? Then you could involve your fiance and also have your male friends and mutual friends to come as well. A friend of mine did this and it worked out really well.

6/14/07 @ 10:32 am (reply)

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Petra

I was a bridesmaid for a girl that’s a friend, but not a very close friend last year and she had 2 showers. One close by, one 7 hours away where her fiancé’s family was. I was invited to both showers but attended just the one close by thrown by her own family (mind you– the one I spent many hrs. to help plan!). I felt like it was asking a lot of me to invite me to another shower 7 hrs away and the fiancé’s mother actually shot me a dirty look at shower #1 when I told her I wouldn’t be able to attend hers!
So my advice is this: be very careful about who is invited to both showers. The idea of 2 showers for me was thrown around and I wanted to make it very clear that only the mothers should be invited to both. They ended up just making it one shower in the end, our families are only 2 hrs apart, so it was feasable. But I really didn’t want to put people out and make them go to 2, even if only one gift was given. Hey, time is precious too. We all have busy lives! So I’d say only invite the people who you know really want to go to both. (which in my case, I decided was probably just the mothers since I have no sisters or living grandmas!)

6/14/07 @ 11:01 am (reply)

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Miss Snow Pea

Just having had my shower, don’t fret over “awkwardness”. Just enjoy yourself and take it all in! You’re the center of attention and it feels great!

As for your slim gf guest list, I feel you on that one. But ya know what, it was the family and family friends (older lady friends) who got the awesome gifts! So that’s a really really good thing.

As for the overlapping…hmm, since it’s close family anyway, maybe just invite a select few to both and let them decide which one they want to attend (they only need to bring 1 gift once).

6/14/07 @ 11:18 am (reply)

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Amanda

That’s a lot of lists!

Geez. I’m glad our parents get along well — we just had 1 shower, with both sides of the family, and friends. Luckily, it coincided with the weekend FI’s cousin was getting married an hour from where my parents live/where the wedding will be (We live 6+ hours away).

We didn’t have an engagement party.
We only have 3 attendants per side, so it’s not too tough to coordinate any attendant get-togethers.
We’re keeping the rehearsal dinner small.

6/14/07 @ 11:21 am (reply)

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bliss

One list, one party. I come from divorced parents and the families are after 20+ years finally able to be in the same room. I cannot give up more than one weekend for a shower so one party it is. But I have lots of friends and family coming. But I am keeping it females only but I think I would like my guy to pop in towards the end and say hello. But I dont know if he will even be able to do that. But I am excited! I was wondering what is the average length of time to the wedding some of us are having our showers? Mine is less than a month before the wedding.

6/14/07 @ 11:25 am (reply)

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Miss Kiwi

Bliss, my mom was saying my shower would be October 20- but that’s waaaay too close to the wedding, so I’m hoping for September, maybe? I dunno, if it was October, my aunt wouldn’t be asking so soon, I think.

6/14/07 @ 11:29 am (reply)

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griffen

1 RSVP Where are you registered?

6/14/07 @ 3:44 pm (reply)