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iloveham: years ago, I gave an engraved iPod to a BF. It was a line from a Lisa Loeb song: “You bring me blankets for the walls of my forts”.
Anyway, is there a song that means something to you guys to sample from?
shortiejo- a bridal shower is traditionally held by a member of the bridal party in honor of the bride (or by a relative of either the bride or groom’s) and is an event for all age groups. Traditionally the bride is “showered” with gifts that were at one time in order to help her set up a new home with her groom (kitchen equipment, home decor, etc). These days the shower often is held with different themes from lingerie to travel to honeymoon to anything you can think of!
The bachlorette party is the equivalent of the bachelor party for the guys but for just the girls. In other words, it’s a celebration of the bride’s final days as a single woman. It is normally held by the bridesmaids and normally is just for people in that same age group (your great aunt probably wouldn’t be invited to this event, but she would be to the shower!). This event normally happens in the evening/night and can include going out to bars/night clubs or can be done at home (party food, games, etc). It tends to have a bit of a naughtier edge to it although some brides are opting to have something more like a spa day with her best gal pals.
A hen night is the British term for a bachlorette party, they’re really the same thing.
iloveham— I actually gave my FI an iPod for an engagement gift and I engraved “I’m already married to you in my heart” on it. Kind of corny? Yes, but he loved it. You could always go for something like that, or chose a meaningful quote. Maybe something from one of your ceremony readings. Or you could put the wedding date and something like “from this day forward…”
Amanda— I think that is a great idea! I’ve gone to weddings with my FI where he was in the WP and I wasn’t, and it was really akward for me to sit with a bunch of people I didn’t know very well. I’ve also been to wedidngs that have done something similar to that and it worked out great. Nobody seemed to miss the big head table.
Lisa– I’d go buy some gold leafing, the liquid stuff that’s mixed with varnish. It’s often used to “gild” things like figurines, etc. I’ve used it on Christmas ornaments, it’s like really good, shiny gold paint.
Then I’d stack your invitations, and compress them tightly together. Like, really tight. Use rubber bands or a clamp or something. Paint the stacked edge. You can do one edge at a time if you need to. Hopefully, the gold will stay on the edges, maybe bleed in a TINY bit, but it won’t be as time-consuming as trying to edge each one individually.
Lisa - could you just attach the card to a gold card behind it that is slightly larger? This would give you a consistent width for the color and would probably be a lot easier. Of course if that doesn’t fit in your envelopes, then maybe a calligraphy brush and gold calligraphy paint? You can buy it at a good art supply store like Utrecht. It would take a lot of diligence and hard work to keep that line straight doing it freehand. I would get a very heavy card that is slightly smaller than the card you are painting and would leave a small border around the main card. Then paint in strokes going from the center out in little strokes if that makes sense. That might help with making sure the edge is the same size all the way around and didn’t waver too much. Good luck!
iloveham– Perhaps a line from a song, poem or movie that is meaningful to you?
Re - Try looking on some of the more major makeup lines websites, many of them have online “tutorials”
Amanda - that sounds like a totally reasonable set-up. I saw it done at a friend’s wedding and it worked fine. My only suggestion with the sweetheart table is not to make it too far away from everyone or you’ll feel like you’re giving a show while eating your soup. Also, make sure to reserve a special honor table for close immediate family if that’s something that sounds like it would be a good idea for you. Normally a head table includes parents of the bride/groom. You could extend that to grandparents/sisters and brothers/ etc.
Amanda: We did this, and it worked great. The bridal party members have been apart from their SO’s all day (photos, etc.) and really would like to sit togteher and relax, finally. It’s especially important if any of them have kids they need to sit with to help them eat and provide supervision. They will LOVE you for this!
Amanda: excellent idea. Please don’t make your attendants sit witout their dates or spouses. I have been in a few weddings where I had to sit at a head table and my poor date who didn’t know anyone had to sit at another table. It made me want to get up from the table asap inorder to make sure he was having a good time.
Hey Amanda, that sounds like a good plan. To be honest when my FI and I go to a wedding I hope we are NOT sitting together. That way i get some new and interesting dinner partners and conversations. I really have to say I do not understand why wedding guests get all freaked out if they are not with their SO.
Lisa: Any good scrapbooking store will sell gold ink and if you have some fine sandpaper around…just lightly rub the edges of your invites on the sandpaper (it opens the “pores”) and gently rub or tap them on the ink pad. Simple and cheap!
TheMDSBride: Try Michaels or JoAnn they have a large selection of “cake decorating” supplies, including cake display platters. Another option is thick cardboard wrapped up in something pretty!
Re - for a makeup primer, the best one on the market (and used by professionals in many a photo shoot) is smashbox - you can find it in sephora stores, or online. I forget if that is the brand or the makeup itself, but it is AMAZING. you can get it colourless, or tinted green if you have slight redness in your skin. the green tinted stuff has a slight smell to it, but it goes away after you have applied it. the white stuff is scentless from what I can tell. hope this helps! this stuff also helps with uneven skin tone or texture… really good stuff. it’s pricey but you will want to use it after the wedding as well, and your skin is totally worth the investment!
found the actual name - smashbox photo finish primers. on the sephora website it’s under ‘makeup’ ‘face’ and then ‘primers’ - first one there 
question for the hive….I found a great all black halter dress with a black sash…would it be inappropriate to wear it to a wedding? I was thinking of wearing red shoes and carrying a small red handbag to go with it…some think its a definite no no, but I don’t see the big deal.
My fiance and I are in the process of deciding on bridesmaid and groomsmen gifts. Our wedding is on September 22, so we still have some time. I’m pretty sure that I’m going to do a necklace and earrings for the girls, but does anyone have any creative suggestions for gifts for the groomsmen? We’re having trouble with this and we want to stay away from the flask, beer mug, etc. ones. Thanks!
sugguestions for inexpensive unique favors and also BM gifts. please help.
TheMDBride - take any plate at all, and hot-glue a vase, glass, candlestick, whatever onto it. Just make sure it’s dead-center. And it’s not an heirloom.
Hi - can someone recommend a Day-Of Coordinator in the New York metro area?
TheMDBride - try Ikea. If you don’t like their cake stands, you can always get a bowl, turn it upside down, and put a large round platter on top. Of top the cake stand with a larger circular platter. Just make sure it is stable!
Sarah, how’ve you been! Been missing your posts lately. (I know, wedding approaching quickly, right?)
I think I offended/pissed off one of my vendors (she thought I was going to back out but it was just a misunderstanding, but I’m worried there are still bad feelings). I sent an email to hopefully smooth things over. Anything else I can do? Or just hope for the best?
Karen–
We are giving our guys nice silver pocket watches as gifts.
Thistleorchid–
We weren’t planning on being far away from others. I’ve never seen parents at a head table at any wedding I’ve gone to.. but I was thinking of having the sweetheart table at the center of the one wall, then the attendant & date (9 or 10 people) table to one side, and the parent table to the other side. Not sure yet how the parents will sit - (his separately; mine separately) or both sets together. that’s to figure out at a later date.
Sally–
One of FI’s brothers (a gm) is dating a girl who is not as comfortable with her english as she would like to be (grew up in germany) and is not as comfortable around unfamiliar people. That’s one of the primary reasons for considering this.
Amanda: i think the honor tables with their sig figs are just fine. i’ve been seeing that trend since 2000 and people do not miss the head table at all. i suggest a half-moon table for the sweetheart table; nice and intimate for you both. in my wedding, since my attendants are not from the same group of friends, i’m not even going to keep all of them seated together. they’re going to be seated amongst people whom they are already friends with. same with our parents.
Thanks C!! - That’s the brand a friend recommended as well. A trip to Sephora it is….
TheMDBride - I saw the standard wedding silver cakestand at Hobby Lobby today. The one I saw about 18″ or so. It was $49.99, but they are having their 50% off sale right now.
An upscale bridal salon in my town is having a sample salon. I would like to go, but I wear a size 0 or 2. The samples are all size 12. Is there any point in going? Will I end up spending the money I saved on the sample on massive alterations? Can the dresses even be down-sized that much? Any small-framed brides out there who bought a size 12 sample and made it work?
Sorry - should be “sample sale” above, not sample salon.
JoJo - are you a size 0 or 2 in wedding gowns, or in normal clothing sizes? I.e. I’m a 4 in normal clothes, but my wedding dress is a size 10, that had to be taken in a little bit. I say it’s worth checking out anyway.
I was wondering if anyone thinks its weird to wear a birdcage veil over my face with cathedral veil (no blusher). I really like that birdcage veil but is this allowed??
Thanks!
Does anyone have any pictures of centerpieces that use curly willow branches or birch branches? I’m also looking for a place to buy them wholesale (or just for a good price). Thanks!
iloveham - I gave my fiance an engraved ipod a while back as a birthday gift and it seemed like a good idea at the time but now that there have been a few generations of IPODs it is kind of outdated and pretty much impossible to sell since it has his name engraved on it. I would consider that if you want to give him a wedding gift that is “timeless.” In 20 yrs it will probably be like the equivalent of having an engraved 8 track player or an engraved VCR. It might still have sentimental meaning but it won’t be useful/functional.
Question for the Hive:
Does anyone know where these STD’s/invitations came from? I am pretty they were posted on Weddingbee at some point. Any help would be great. Thanks so much!
Miss Melodious– IMO, a birdcage veil with a cathedral veil would be quite odd. A birdcage is typically worn as an alternative to a traditional veil; it has a more vintage/indie feel. Since they are less formal, birdcage veils also look best with relatively simple gowns with sheath, mermaid, or slight A-line silhouettes, certainly not a big ballgown. The style of your dress should determine what type of veil to wear. Hope this helps!
I have a question for the hive. How do you deal with ‘renegade’ guests noted on the RSVP. Has anyone gently told the person(s) they invited that they couldn’t bring their ‘extra’ guest(s) or do you just eat the costs of the extra people & hoping the numbers balance out with those not going?
Re,
I have never used this stuff, but you might try it — it’s called “model in a bottle” and is supposed to waterproof your face.
For the BeeHive–
Any suggestions for inexpensive Rehearsal Dinner Invites (Printed by someone, or blank paper for me to print on using our printer)? It’s going to be a relatively casual dinner - we’re having a local cajun/bbq place deliver food to a lodge we’re renting at a park, and we’ll only need about 13 invites.
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Does anyone know how to search on the knot for Bio’s, looking for reviews of certain locations, photographers etc.?
1. i love ham - I wouldnt engrave it. Though a cute idea what many people don’t know that if it is engraved apple will not return/exchange or sometimes fix it because it cancels the warranty.
To personalize it perhaps make a playlist of songs that mean something to the both of you
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