Weddingbee Blog

Spanx all the way. No boning to poke in my side. I just can’t do it.

I’m a 32E, size 10 and pretty curvy and bought that first Goddess longline bra for under my dress. It was totally comfortable and supportive and didn’t need any adjusting over the course of the day. I highly recommend it! If you have a high end department store (Nordstrom) or a specialty lingerie shop near you I really recommend going there and trying on many different styles and letting the sales people guide you.

The catwoman one is very…. meow!

A tip I’ve read about corsets: If they are worn 1 notch too loose, they are slipping and sliding, and if 1 notch too tight, they generate the dreaded “back fat” overflow at the top (even on skinny-minis), so definitely make sure whoever is helping you dress knows how you want it.

“Back cleavage” — ha, made me lol.

I think some brides do forget the back view, unfortunately. Definitely a job for the trusted MOH to do a reality check of what’s going on back there.

I recently was a bridesmaid in a wedding, and had a backless halter dress, so I tried on a few strapless backless longlines. I discovered two things about the kind of corset that goes down over your hips:

Be sure to sit down in it. I don’t have the thinnest thighs, and when I sat down, my thighs hit the bottoms of the boning and pushed them up, creating a very unflattering boned bulge.

The other thing about the ones that go down over your hips is that the bottom of the bra might show, depending on the cut of your dress. My bridesmaids dress was pretty drapey, and I don’t have curvy hips, so the bottoms of some bras weren’t even touching my hips, but were sticking out and very visible through the drapey fabric.

Therefore, much though I would have liked some stomach control, I went with a longline that ended at my waist.

OK - I am a 38 F so no exclamation marks like it’s some sort of unreal size here :-P! Without exception I would NOT buy something online - definitely don’t buy it unless you’ve tried it on and been professionally sized. Not only that, but don’t take the tags off of it till you’ve tried it on with the dress so that you can return it if need be.

That being said - most women are wearing the wrong size in this country. Get professionally fitted and don’t give me any of that “But I might be bigger than I think I am,” trust me - your fiancee likes it like that- I promise. The minute you start wearing bras that TRULY fit, your clothes fit better and you actually look slimmer because they’re up where they’re supposed to be.

I got a bustier from BraTenders in NYC (I was in town for a conference and snuck out during it, I don’t live there) and it’s amazing. 38 F fits like a dream and I am tempted to wear it all the time. Thankfully, I bought 3 other bras from them and have wore one into the ground all most.

As to why there is padding on cups over a D, I was with you for a long time and I have finally figured it out. When it is lightly padded (and it’s not even padding at that point, it’s just shaped or molded), it fits smoother to wear under t-shirts and tight fitting clothes. They look more uniform and smooth that way and any dimpling from the breast itself is not shown. So there’s your answer there.

Best of luck finding something that fits! I second the commenter who suggested Nordstroms, they have great fitters and will order things in for you at no extra cost than the cost of the item. Oh and expect to pay a pretty penny for good fitting, good quality bras. There’s just no getting around it. And once you go there, it’s very very hard to go back to the bras that never quite fit - they just languish in my underwear drawer…

I’ve heard good things about the Goddess corset. However, being a D/DD cup myself, I’d feel more comfortable with more boning than it has pictured. Also, I’ve had corsets from Frederick’s, and I have not been impressed with the quality and support. I haven’t picked out my dress yet, but I’m leaning toward halter top style dresses to support/flatter my abundant cleavage.

I bought the top Goddess one you posted and I don’t find it very “firming” but it does give a good shape to the girls. I put a waist cincher on underneath and that holds everything in. I have a very long torso, so for me, it only comes to my waist. Had to go the merry widow route to even get to my waist! Longline bras stop at my tummy.

Hands down you have to by the Flattering Me bra! http://www.myglassslipper.com/products2.cfm/dept/UNDERGARMENTS/ID/2350

It sits exactly where it is supposed to and makes your dress lay perfectly. I swear by this bra.

Oooh, Miss Kiwi - I totally feel your pain! I had the worst time finding a bra for under my dress and because I changed my dress so late I had left that until the very last minute so I ended up having to buy a bra in the completely wrong size. I am normally about a 36 D and I ended up buying a 34FF!!! Weird, I know but it did the trick. I did end up with a little back and underarm fat but luckily my dress covered most of it (I think… I hope!) because it had such a high neckline.

Anyhow, my advice is to absolutely go to a shop - bras are funny things and they don’t all fit the same. Also, absolutely take your dress with you if you can - I almost bought the Goddess corset but thankfully once the shop heard that it was for my wedding they insisted that I try it on with my dress first and when I did you could totally see the detailing on the bra through the dress.

Good luck!!