Weddingbee Blog

Stepanielee– you should be fine with that size postcard. The postcards cannot be more than 6 x 4 1/4, so yours should be perfect.

JW– I think announcements are fine. If people are going to wonder why they weren’t invited, they’ll wonder that whether or not they get an announcement. After all, it’s not like they’ll never find out you got married, and that they weren’t invited. And if you really did have a small wedding, hopefully they won’t think the announcements are just a gift grab. You’ll be fine.

Brooke, if you are having a destination wedding, the sooner, the better!

JW - I’ve seen this done a lot, but usually have a small wedding and a reception or something like one. Maybe have an open house or something so there’s a reason to send out an announcement? If you’re changing an address or something, you could just send out “we’ve moved” with the marriage mentioned somehow (The honeymoon continues at 555 1st Ave…) or something liek that. That way it would never be confused with a “look what you missed out on” notice.

jw — You have it right re announcement protocol:

http://www.crane.com/navContentProduct.aspx?NavName=etiquette_tips&DeptName=etiquette_wedding&Name=WedEt-Announcements

danielle: I agree w/ hm.

jw-you’re supposed to send out announcements after the ceremony, otherwise those people will show up!

danielle-bummer but you have to send an invite if you sent a std. unfortunately, they may show, but there’s not much you can do about that.

Brit, I’m not a lawyer, so this is just my general business sense and a lay person’s legal knowledge talking, but be aware that if you plan on following through with law suit, it’s better not to spread it far and wide how bad she’s been until the legal stuff is settled and you know it’s not going to affect the lawsuit.

What I’d do is tell her once more in very clear terms that if you do not have either 1. a full refund by [specific date] or 2a. a tracking number [same date as in 1] and 2b. the items in your hands by [second specific date, with a time] then you will consider her in breach of contract and initiate lawsuit, and/or that you’ll be telling everyone near and far who she is and what she’s done. if you don’t have a tracking number by date #1, consider her a lost cause and go ahead and get alternatives.

You can wait until after the wedding to decide whether spreading the news about her or lawsuit is more worth your while.

I really doubt she’ll actually come through with the tutus. You’ve been stalled and strung along and strung along again, so I can see how you’re still hopeful, but I think if you step back you’ll agree that it’s unlikely she’ll actually send the tutus. I think your best case scenario is a full refund.

Brit — Lawyer here. Don’t threaten a lawsuit over 3 tutus. It’s not worth it, and will probably backfire in negotiation.

Next step should be to try to work it out with her one last time. She might be so embarrassed or disorganized and can’t get them for whatever reason, and human nature doesn’t want to disappoint or face the problem. At this point, it’s better to get your money back, preferably in CASH. I would go to the store, put on my best “understanding”/empathetic voice (and face, body language) and tell her that if she can’t produce the tutus, then she can just refund your money and that will be the end of it. Smile, but don’t back down. Take all your documents with you, fan them on the counter so they see you have the proof. Do not surrender the documents. Take copies so you can provide a copy and not give up your originals. With you standing there in the store where there are other customers, they will be inclined to resolve the matter and get you out of there quickly.

If this doesn’t work and it was paid with a credit card and the payment wasn’t made yet (i.e., running a balance), contact the credit card company and dispute the charge to withhold payment for goods not received.

If none of these ways work, can go more of a heavy-hitter route.

GOOD LUCK!

i would like to do a wish tree instead of a guestbook. i know there was a post about that on here previously, but does anyone else have pictures of some good sample ones?

Thank you for all of the advice-I love the suggestions. I sent an email to the vendor again today, which followed your suggested course of action, Miss Popcorn. I have refrained from mentioning the name of the retailer and from smearing her reputation too badly for the reasons mentioned in these posts. At this point I am biting my tongue as much as possible.

I also appreciate your advice and well-wishes, Iris. Unfortunately I found the vendor online and she is located cross-country. After leaving numerous emails unanswered over a course of two weeks I mentioned that I was an attorney and that I would hate to turn to legal remedies in order to ensure that she fulfilled her obligations. It took that sentence to prompt her to reply to my inquiries (although she still failed to send the tutus). I paid with a check card, so I can’t dispute that charge. That was a good lesson learned!

Accordingly, I have given her until 5:00 tomorrow to either hand over a valid tracking number or to have the tutus on my door step. In the alternative, I have informed her that I expect a full refund and have another tutu vendor lined up.

Can you believe all this drama over tutus!!!