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melodious: I think that terminology would be misinterpreted to mean “I’ll have to watch my own kids, which I normally do anyway. No prob.”
Maybe something like “Join us following the ceremony for an adults only reception.”
Miss Melodious– don’t put “no childcare provided” on the invites, people will take that as a tacit acknowledgement that their kids will be there! Don’t mention children at all!
If you must put something on there, have a reception card that says “adults-only reception will be held at such and such…”
Bride2Bee - It is only acceptable/proper for someone hosting a shower for you to include registry information on the invitation. You should never include your own registry information on your wedding invitations — it is like telling your guests they have to give you a gift, and even though it IS the norm, it is technically not a requirement for them to do so and many people would be offended for being told to. As far as an engagement party invitation, I’d also say you shouldn’t include it, even if someone else is hosting, but that’s just my personal opinion. If people want to get you a gift, they will either ask you or a family member where you’re registered, or they will look online. Personally, I don’t think gifts should be necessary at an engagement party, because the same guests will likely also be getting you shower gifts AND wedding gifts, but that’s just me. Good luck! 
Elizabeth, that is a really sweet idea! I would include some champagne, as well as some bottled water and non-sweet snacks. I know I had my share of chocolate and other sweets by the time the reception was over, and I just wanted something a little more substantial.
Andria, we had a buffet, and just placed “Reserved” signs on three tables. It worked perfectly.
Miss Melodious - Sorry to disagree with the others, but I have heard/read that it is not polite to say a reception is “adults only” (plus, if you think about it, it could sound kinda dirty! hehe). I would just not include the kids when you’re addressing the envelopes, and if peoples’ responses imply that they are bringing their kids, you just need to politely call them and tell them that they have made a mistake (or designate someone else to do the dirty work!). I have a friend who put on her reception card “Children 11 and over are welcome” so it was more clear that the super little ones weren’t included. I thought that was a good way to put it.
(3) Mathpets, when I was looking for extensions for my superstraight fine Asian hair, my wedding hairstylist recommended a store called Wigs and More (i think) on 32nd street between 6th and 7th Aves, south side of the street. That is where I got mine and I was really happy with the quality.
Elizabeth - A bottle of champagne would definately be good, also bubble bath, a CD of mood music (if you can find it), or whipped cream 
Miss Melodious, we are having the same issue but are choosing to have close family/friends subtly put the word out rather than put anything on the invites.
Elizabeth - just thought of something else. You could always sprinkle rose petals (real or fake) in the room!
I have a question: if I go to my cocktail hour, are the new Mr. & Mrs. announced as soon as we get there and then announced again for the 1st dance? I think it might be funny to NOT be announced at the C.H. but then all of a sudden announced when the C.H. ends Please advise. Thanks!
Bride2Bee - Technically putting registry info is bad. We did it though - and listed an alternative, in lieu of gift website for a charity. Technically is is bad but it is growing less and less faux pas and frankly, I don’t care - we did it with out guests in mind, along with everything else that would make their lives easier - so I say, it’s up to you.
I agree w/ the answers above.
Elizabeth: LOTS of bottled water! They probably had some alcohol at the reception, are tired from the day and from dancing, and/or will get some wedding night exercise and will need it. Plus sometimes the hotels try to charge $5 for a bottle of water, which is un-cool. Building on what Chrissie said — petals are nice, but only use WHITE rose petals. Red ones stain; imagine the worst case scenario; trust me on this.
KDN: Parker calligraphy set, $25.http://www.amazon.com/PARKER-PEN-Parker-Calligraphy-Set/dp/B0003UJ0SU
medlodius: Silence is golden. “No childcare provided” could be interpreted as “so you better bring your kids along to the reception where you can watch them yourselves!” The written invitations should be silent re kids. Those who confirm/inquire can be told verbally.
Bride2Bee: Sorry, don’t include registry info anywhere. It’s a “do ask, do tell” policy, but don’t tell before they ask or it looks gimmie-gimmie.
Andria, I love the idea of place cards for the wedding party! It’s not uncommon to have reserved tables as mentioned but it helps the wedding party not have to worry about “where should my boyfriend and I sit without having to sit with grandparents?” I think it’s a great thing to do for your bridal party and it shouldn’t be offensive to your other guests. Maybe something small to show them where to sit so it’s not REALLY obvious that the other tables don’t have them.
Miss Melodius–there is no polite way to say “no children invited” on an invitation. The purpose of an invitation is to list who is invited. If it doesn’t list the names of the children, nor say “and family,” it means the children are not invited. People who think that their children are welcome everywhere, even a black-tie evening affair, are not going to understand any code words you might put on the invitation, while other people might find your invitation tacky for listing “no childcare provided.” The best thing is to say nothing while not inviting children, and when cousin John calls up to ask if little Madison really isn’t invited, say, “Sorry, it’s adults-only, you’re going to have to get a sitter for little Madison.”
Bride2bee–it’s never polite for the engaged couple to include registry information. Period. The person throwing your shower can include it, because the point of a shower is the giving of gifts, and you’re not the hostess.
Elizabeth–we spent our wedding night at home, and the two things we wanted were more wedding cake and footrubs. How about one of those massage roller things? And perhaps a sleep mask(s)–they can be used for other things besides sleeping, you know.
Andria, i’ve seen weddings where they still had escort cards for all of the guests to avoid the mad rush and the “where do i sit” puzzlement. when it’s time for the buffet service, the maitre ‘d calls up each table one at a time (or however many he can fit), again, so there’s no mad rush to the buffet line. it keeps things more organized and also more classy-looking.
it works… unless you don’t wanna do seating charts at all.
I agree w/ Pencils!!!
Also, re buffets — Be aware that the last tables get less time to eat, so they won’t be ready to jump up and dance just as soon as the first tables that ate. In a multi-room reception hall, this leaves the still eating tables behind in the dining room if the dancing starts too soon. : (
I created the basic website on “The Knot” which in addition to the basic wedding info has my registry information. I know the “registry info included in invitation” question has been asked and answered but is it okay to include wedding websites in the invitation?
Question for the Beehive
For those who’s done “vellum paper” covered candle holders/hurricanes, did you use regular double sided tape or is there a special kind of double sided tape I should buy (is there a more “extra strength” kind?) Thank you!
Thank you so much Miss Bear! I will definitely check it out.
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