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I have 2 last minute cancellations, but the seated dinner/open bar have already been paid for!
I don’t want to really ask people we know because they might get offended that they weren’t originally invited!
I suppose we’ll just have to eat the cost, huh?
What is the proper etiquette for this type of situation anyhow?
You just have to suck it up & pay…U can’t invite people now (if you wedding is close enough to be giving a final headcount) …sorry…same thing is happening to us too….
my local knot board has solved this problem by inviting knotties when this happens…
if you’re on the knot and close with your local this might be the solution for you. no one is insulted and a lot of times it’s a good chance for brides to check out their venue as a guest!
A friend of mine actually added people the week of the wedding…She asked family friends if they would like to bring their children of adult age to the wedding. It worked out fine. But in general, I think you just have to eat up the cost.
Good luck!
life happens. forget the minor details and have fun on your wedding.
victoria: EXCELLENT suggestion.
::files away::
if i was down south, i would jump on this chance. i’m sure it’s going to be beautiful. I would definatly check out the knot board. Knotties in my area do this and it’s a win win situation.
i would offer the guests to a close family member / friend. they would appreciate it and no one would get their feelings hurt. i would HATE to have to eat the cost! too bad i’m not in the area, i would totally come and bring you a nice gift 
we had a couple last minute cancellations as well and ate the cost. but i wish i had invited some subscribers to my blog! 
The same thing happened to us day of the wedding. We let my sister (MOH) invite her friends. We knew them casually but they weren’t expecting an invite.
I agree with Calliope. Have someone in the family or wedding party invite someone. either that or just eat the cost.
I think it is a great idea to invite some knotties who you know are going to enjoy every detail!! Also, you could ask your caterer/hall coordinator if they have someone that is considering booking with them and would like to see a real wedding. The other thing you could do is if you are already inviting the officiant to the reception, you could tell him/her that you have some extra room and he/she could bring a guest…that way at least he/she has someone to talk to!
In our case, we had a few who RSVP’d no but showed up anyway so it’s not so bad to have a few pre-paid plates; we just shifted them to the surprise guests.
Tip: When giving the final headcount, round the down by 10% for adults and 50% for children. The caterer will still bill you for who shows up.
maybe you can ask a couple of co-workers who completely understood that they couldn’t be invited… then they’d be happy to be able to go. it’s tricky situation though.
allow some of your friends to bring dates (if you aren’t already doing so)
Ive coordinated a few weddings where uninvited guests show up. I honestly do not think those two available seats will go to waste, but actually become a benefit to you - day-of. I usually inform my clients that often times, there’s a chance there will be a few “wedding crashers.”
i’m in dallas and getting married at your site in october :o). but i have heard alot of times that it will even out bc people will sometimes bring tag alongs you arent expecting. you might keep the spaces open for that! i am hoping to stop by and look at your setup! :o)
If you know people who won’t be insulted, then invite them. I’d be thrilled to be invited even last minute to a new or somewhat distant friend’s wedding!
hi miss plum - as you know I’m a fan of yours and miss apple’s blogs i’d love to see your wedding as i already know it’ll be beautiful! but I really think you should just “eat the cost” because in the end you might get a few wedding crashers and it will work itself out.
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