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Jen - We are planning on getting introduced into the cocktail hour. Our reception location is set up so that dinner is on a seperate floor from dancing, so the meal and cake cutting will be complete before any dancing. It seemed weird to spend all that time with our guests and then do an announcement hours later, so we’re getting announced when we arrive at the cocktail hour, which will probably be a little late since we’ll take a few photos after the ceremony.

Whoops - I responded to My’s original post - but I agree with Jen and Tricia - registry information is not appropriate to include on the invite. Pre-wedding website, people simply asked the relatives/MOH/etc.

I have a question for the hive: how do you guys figure out what to wear when you are attending a wedding as a guest? It does not say “black tie” on the invite, but I get the impression it is pretty formal.

Jen– we’re doing the same thing, and we’ll still get announced at the actual reception, not at the cocktail hour. The cocktail hour just seems like such a casual setting to be announced at, dinner has more formality to it and thus feels more appropriate for an official announcement.

Hopinkertons - since you only press the gocco down for a second, it won’t flatten the letterpress. I assume you mean the type will be letterpressed and the design will be gocco’d? It might look a bit weird to have both kinds of printing. The gocco’d part will look kind of superficial and will probably detract from the beauty of the letterpress, imho.

new question: honeymooning on the PCH. We have never done a wine tour and would love some advice for where to go. Sonoma? Mendocino? Northern CA? Also, how long does it take and what should we know first? Thanks!

My: No; it sounds like misinformation that the tradition was to include registry information; should be the opposite. The only place there is gray area etiquette-wise is listing it on the webpage, because people are helping themselves to the information, rather than it being pushed to them.

jen: Question: Are you being “presented” as the new Mr & Mrs at the end of the wedding ceremony? If so, then it’s already been announced by the reception, anyway. I don’t think you can go wrong re when the new couple is announced at the reception; can be flexible. In any event, I can’t imagine that it would seem awkward to anyone; it would only be awkward if it were forced into an awkward time, interrupting the natural flow of events.

C: I like Tanya’s advice. Also kukos for erring on the side of modesty especially since it’s a morning event and a church wedding.

Thanks for all of the replys. I love playing the, “Devil’s Advocate”. I initially posted the response because I was in shock that people would feel offended that a couple would include registry information in an invitation. I was also amazed that 200 guest would feel better about calling the couple during the midst of the planning process to find out registry information rather than to have it included in an invitation. I would like to understand who made that taboo.

I’ve asked several people and they all said that they are used to having registry information included and found it annoying that you would have to call around to find information rather than to have it readily available. Just like I stated on the previous post before their was internet, and the Knot were people really offended by registry information. I’m just asking ;).

I hear a few brides saying that they cringe, but I really just don’t get it. Which ever way you slice it there is still registry information that is needed so why does it matter how you get it? Another question is why do you actually feel offended… for those of you who do feel that way. I mean really either you’re gonna buy a gift or your not…. so what actually is the big deal. And also when did you begin to feel that way…. offended or put off? By the way I must say that I love the weddingbee and all of the bee’s here.

It’s because when putting your registry information in the invite, you’re making the assumption that people will buy you a gift, and you’re telling them where to go shopping. It seems more like soliciting a gift, and less like asking people to join you as you say your vows to your husband. The point of the wedding isn’t gifts, and that’s why it’s presumptuous to tell people, who haven’t asked, where to buy you a present.

Hopinkertons - I think that the gocco and the letterpress will be good together…

You choose where you want to screen your graphic so no problem.

We are using a 1940’s era letterpress for our wording and letter flurries, and we are silkscreening the rest in two colors. It is turning out AWESOME. Be as creative as you like

I love the idea of mixed media.