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OK, take a step back and breathe.

Now, I think that you shouldn’t borrow trouble just yet. Your friend hasn’t backed out of the pics so for now, you can assume she is still “in”.

The makeup thing would be great fun, but if it isn’t in the budget, you can politely relay that to your family. Who knows, they may offer to spring for it as a wedding gift!

Have you tried calling the hotel to add a few extra rooms? If there is space, I am sure they would be happy to accommodate.

Finally, 4 months is plenty of time. We got engaged in April and our wedding is in August, so we only started with 4 months! So, I understand being overwhelmed! I think the trick is writing it down and crossing it off. With an actual pen and paper. Things are much less ominous somehow on paper.

If you contact a local Mary Kay consultant, they do Bridal Party make up for around $20? and then the bride is free.

I feel your pain. I’m also 4 months out and for some reason, just this week it hit me, “I’m getting Married!”, and I’ve been engaged almost 2 years but it went sooo fast!
Right now I’m torn between it getting here and not wanting this “bride” time to be over.

there must be something magical about that 4 month mark! After months of being stress free, things are cropping up for me too and stressing me out!!
my cake guy cancelled and my dress shop closed with $250 of my money!!
Just imagine that magical wedding day when all this is over! We’ll all get there somehow, I promise try not to stress

I echo all the suggestions above - breathe and relax a bit. It should be fine if you underblocked the hotel rooms - when they are all gone just add another block. I’d be surprised if they were already sold out for November, so there should be more rooms available to add. A quick call to the hotel should alleviate your worries. Even if there aren’t any more rooms to add, don’t panic. There’s more than one hotel in that city of yours!

With regards to the makeup - sticking to the budget is a good excuse to turn it down. Say you’d be happy to do a makeup trial with her if she’s offering her services for free, (do a trial - make sure you like her work better than your own!) otherwise you will have to turn down the offer because you don’t have room in the budget. Tell your aunt and mom that it would be great if they would like to have their makeup done but there is no room in the budget so they will have to cover the cost themselves. (Perhaps more tactfully than I just said it.)

Get clarification from your photographer friend on what she meant exactly so you’re not left wondering and then make plans accordingly. I’d be surprised if she’s considering bailing on your wedding 4 months from now because of an injured knee NOW - she still has 4 months to recover, no?

Then go take a nap

I know a photographer who has really good rates in the LA/OC area if your friend falls through. He isn’t as experienced as some but does a good job he did my friends wedding two weeks ago. Let me know I can give you his info if you would like.
GOOD LUCK..I am at the 90 day mark myself…ack

Ahhh! I am getting married in three days and your post is exactly how I feel. I am not nervous so much about the actual marriage but about all the last minute stuff, and the constant (hemoraghing-sp?) of money–there are so many expenses right before the big day!
But alas Mrs. Kiwi, we just have to take a step back, breathe, and look at the bigger picture. Think of all those who have gone before us–and managed to survive! Everything will work out. It usually does.

rzblna, the missed connections post was from an ex-gf looking for him because she wishes they had never lost touch- FIVE YEARS AGO.

“If anyone has any information, PLEASE let me know, he was the nicest guy on the planet.”

So, I replied.

“Yeah, I know Mr. Kiwi, I’m marrying him.”

Her response? None. Her BROTHER wrote back saying congrats. Interesting, huh?

It’s a long shot, but if the hair/makeup person is just starting out (maybe I’m reading too much into the post?), see if she’s willing to do it for free in exchange for getting photos of the finished product on her website/brochures for advertising. If she wants to use the formal photographer’s shots, would need to get permission; the cosmetologist and photographer could cross-reference each others’ services, to be mutually beneficial?

Or maybe your uber-excited aunt will treat?

Well, DIY makeup worked just fine for me (and Miss Blueberry, as she reported), so no worries if it ends up DIY!!! There always seems to be an especially gifted lady in the circle of family & friends who is willing to lend a hand. Who’s the person in your circle who helps get everyone gussied up for prom night and always has good hair?

RE blocking rooms — First step is ask the hotel to expand the block (they told us they only block 10 at a time, and add once that is full). Next step is to arrange an extra hotel or two for backup. They don’t all have to stay at the same hotel. Plus it accomodates different budgets & tastes to have variety.

It’ll all work out Miss Kiwi. Looks like other bees here are looking out for you. I live in Socal too and know of more than a few good budget friendly vendors!

As for rooms, I’m sure if you call the hotel you can get more rooms to block off.

Don’t worry, it will be okay!

As for the ‘little’ panic attacks about the little life contract you’re signin in the fall, I’m with you, it’s scary but in those moments of freaking out, just remind yourself why you said yes! It will all be okay!