Vendor Referrals

In recent weeks, I’ve received two sweet emails from wedding service providers that I’ve written about on the Bee. Both emails were from vendors thanking me for a positive review. One vendor (my makeup artist, Nam Vo) mentioned that she received many inquiries for her services after I posted my pictures. These vendors had never heard of Weddingbee, so I’m happy that they are now exposed to the wonderfulness of our little forum!

This also brings up the interesting topic of vendor referrals. As a bride-to-be exploring the unfamiliar world of wedding planning, I often feel like I’m Alice in Wonderland. Every aspect is foreign and requires tons of research. Where do I order candy for my candy buffet? How do I get things printed? What’s the proper wording for invitations? What is a reasonable price for everything?  Referrals from other brides and my own wedding vendors have been priceless through this process. Most of my vendors have been discovered through recommendations:

  • Reception Hotel – Family friend hosted a wedding here
  • Photographer – Photographed a friend’s wedding
  • Cake – Neighborhood bakery
  • Lighting – Referred by the reception hotel
  • Music – Not sure, Mr. Eggplant found them first but they were also recommended by the hotel
  • Flowers – Google search and [this is the only vendor that we did not find through a referral]
  • Officiant – Our pastor
  • Printing Company – Referred by Mr. Eggplant’s coworker
  • Makeup – I loved the artist’s work from another wedding
  • Hair – Haven’t had my trial yet, but referred by makeup artist

I’ve often felt that brides have a disadvantage in a world of service providers charging sky-high prices and providing poor customer service. I’m begining to realize that we actually do have power in our voice. A bad review can draw business away from a vendor and also tarnish a reputation while good words can create more business. We actually have a big responsibility here in our forum!

Personally, I’ve found that word of mouth is the best and often most honest advertisement. My friends have given me golden referrals. Our reception venue has surprisingly recommended excellent vendors also. A few were out of our budget, but many were affordable and a blessing to work with. Now, as a champion for other brides, I feel extra responsible for writing completely candid reviews for the vendors that I talk about on the bee.

How did you find your wedding vendors? Word of mouth? Google searches? Paid advertisements? Have you given a vendor recommendation to someone else?


Mrs. Eggplant

San Francisco
Wedding Date:
October 2007
Martha Stewart's Good Things
One Year Ago...


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    Iris, Guest @ 10:50 am


    When using a friend/relative’s referral from their wedding (past or especially future), it’s a nice gesture to get his/her “permission” to use the same vendor because some people (not me) are sensitive that you are “copying” or trying to “top” his/her wedding or pre-empt it if you are in the same social circle and many of the same guests will attend both weddings. Personally, I figure imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. : )

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    AmandaB, Guest @ 2:56 pm

    I’m the first of my friends to get married in the city we are getting married in, so no friend referrals to go from here…
    Plus the wedding is taking place 350 miles away from where we currently live. Luckily it is in the town where we both grew up, and where I lived for the first 21 years of my life.

    Church: fiance’s family’s church
    Reception venue: they have catered functions for several people we know and we didn’t hear a single negative thing about them
    Pastor: we both went to high school with his kids
    Photographer/DJ: long time friend of my dad
    Flowers: very popular local florist that my family has used several times
    Hair: my sister’s hairdresser
    Invites: we printed them ourselves…
    Cake: read about in local wedding publication, and mentioned by our the woman we met with at our reception venue
    E-ring: band from local jeweler (family-owned, in business for several generations) where we currently live, referred to us by a coworker, my uncle hooked FI up with the diamond.
    Wedding bands: local jeweler where we currently live

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    Patty, Guest @ 4:46 pm

    Most of my new customers are referral by other brides that used me before, and some from vendors’ recommendations.

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    Christine, Guest @ 2:06 pm

    i was wondering what your recommendation is for lighting service? i’m currently looking for one.


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