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“I have good news and bad news, which do you want to hear first?” That is what my brother asked me when he called long distance from Australia. Deep inside I knew he was calling to tell me that he and my sister in law weren’t going to be able to make it to our wedding. Since Mr. Kiwi and I hadn’t been able to make theirs, I have no right to be upset, which I’m not. I’m just a little… sad. This can be expected, right?
As was included in his question, there is good news. I’m going to be an aunt!! My very own niece/nephew. I’m thrilled that they’re expecting, now I can buy baby clothes! Still, I’m going to miss my brother so much. I haven’t seen him in over a year, and with the shortness of funds we likely won’t be able to visit to see the baby right after it’s born.
So, weddingbee, as I sit here transitioning between joy and sadness, I try to keep looking on the bright side. New baby, new little thing to love… So I won’t be able to have that family portrait taken, the first in about 10 years- but maybe at this time next year we’ll have a new picture taken, with a new family member.
It’s weird, knowing my brother won’t be at my wedding. Sometimes the tears fall, thinking about how my future in-laws won’t meet him for a very long time, and how my parents won’t be able to see their grandchild as much as they want. Then I brighten- I’m going to be an AUNT. I’m going to have a for-real niece. Or nephew.
We’re growing up.
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Congrats to your brother and sister in law! I can understand being sad…I’d be sad if my brother couldn’t make it to my wedding, but hopefully the joy of becoming an aunt will outweigh the sadness of your brother not being able to make it to your wedding.
aww, congrats to your brother and sil. i can’t imagine my sister not being at my wedding but you’re handling it well. just think of all the ways you can spoil your new niece or nephew now! being an auntie rocks. you get to get them all hyped on sugar and then hand them back to the parents! lol.
That is wonderful news, the baby part that is. It’s too bad he won’t be able to make it to your wedding, but you know he’ll be there in spirit!
i can relate to your sadness. after fi and i had set our wedding date and reserved church, reception, and honeymoon, my brother received orders to leave for the war (he can’t disclose his location) 4 weeks before our wedding. i was so sad when i found out because i really wanted him there. he’s one of my very best friends. but, we just deal with it, and i told him he has to come to the hospital with us when i have my first baby! (not in the room of course!)
sorry your brother can’t make it - just send him lots and lots of pictures. maybe you could call him from your dressing room right before you walk down the aisle. or carry a small picture of him in your bouquet so he will be there with you. just a thought. good luck!!
Miss Kiwi,
Congratulations on your new aunthood! I just became an aunt about two weeks ago, and it really is the coolest thing EVER! Enjoy! You’ll notice that it will quickly become impossible to walk by any baby clothes for sale, anywhere.
Best!
R
Congratulations! You will love being an aunt. I’m very sorry about your brother and SiL not being able to come to your wedding, though. As someone said, maybe you could call them just before, or during the reception. Or do you have any techie friends who could set up a webcast? Hey, I bet a lot of your Weddingbee fans would like to watch as well! 
Still, being an aunt is one of the greatest joys of my life, and I’m sure you will also find it to be so. And, yes, buying baby clothes and tiny toys is a lot of fun!
It’s hard living in a different country than your loved ones. Just think about the great times that you will have with your niece or nephew in the future. I have just found out that about 5 of my relatives. (of about 8 that were going to come) can not make it because of traveling difficulties. It makes me very sad that they will not be there, but I know that they are thinking of me as I am them.
Mazel Tov! Congrats on becoming an aunt! Such happy news — welcoming a new life into the family!
Hey, it’s ok to sulk a little in private, but kukos for focusing on the positive! He sounds like a stand-up guy, willing to make the sacrifice of skipping your wedding so he can be with his pregnant wife (and new child? (depends on the birthdate)). I’m sure your sweet DF would do the same for you.
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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