Weddingbee Blog

amandaB: i’m doing something similar, necklace and spa day. i’ll be giving them the necklace during the rehearsal dinner. i wanted to do a luncheon or tea, but everyone’s just too darn busy.

nancy: it’s your own wedding, so don’t worry about never having seen it before. given your circumstance, i think it’s wonderful for you to have your mom walk you down the aisle.

laura: how bout moonriver? it’s a nice waltz that older folks are very familiar with.

christine: i’ve seen the opposite done before… first half you walk by yourself, then a parent meets you in the middle and walks with you the rest of the way. i suppose it aids in the “giving away” portion when you meet your hubby up there. also, why not just skip the father daughter dance? your fi and fmil can still have a mother/son dance of their own. or you can replace with an anniversary dance instead.

weddingbelle: my date is 10/27/07, less than 4 mos away!

gretchen: i would include a separate vendor meal count. venues usually charge less for the vendor meals and will provide something simple for them, like pasta. you do not need to feed them the same meal as your guests.

nancy–i had a friend last year who had her mother walk her down the aisle because she had a falling out with her father who raised her (turned out that he was actually her adoptive father, bio father wasn’t able to make the wedding). it was very touching and beautiful, and i can’t think of it being any other way for her.

nancy: my good friend may be doing this. i think it’s a great idea!

gretchen: it’s a nice gesture to feed your vendors if they will be at your event for most of the day. we counted vendor meals separately from our regular guests because they were priced differently.

nancy and christine - my mom is walking me (dad is passed away). i tihnk it would be awkard for her to walk me the first half only bc then where does she go? walk behind me to her seat in the front row? I agree that it would make more sense to have her walk down to meet you half way and then give you away. I also think it is sweet to have your fiance walk down the aisle to meet you halfway if you are walking by yourself.

09.08.07

Nancy - My mom walked me down the aisle. I (obviously) think it’s a great idea.

Christine - I didn’t substitute the father/daughter dance with anyone else. We just skipped it.

I was wondering if any of you Los Angeles area brides have suggestions for a good wedding band? We’re looking for a group that will play classic rock, motown, and maybe some jazz, for our July wedding next summer in the San Gabriel Valley.

bettina, you don’t need to indicate this to your guests. when they reach their table and find no place cards, they will just choose their own seats.

amandaB: i think the rehearsal dinner is still a fine idea. if they were planning on wearing something beforehand, they can just replace it with what you’ve given them. i guess the only trouble is if they went out and purchased something, but if they’ve mentioned that to you, maybe you can dissuade them from doing so. in any case, it all works out… it always does!

12.29.07

AmandaB: my cousin passed out BM and GM gifts at the rehearsal. She also passed out the “other” gifts at that time. (RB, FG, etc)

Christine: why not dance with your grandfather? If both are still alive & kicking, dance half of the song with each of them [or both at once if you're all that talented ]

bettina: while you’re not in the ‘hive yet, i had a friend do something similar. our escort cards had the table number/name written inside and we could choose where at that table we sat.

Nancy: Sorry about your loss. I’ve seen it done and it was lovely!

weddingbelle:10.27.2007

Christine: I haven’t seen that done but if you want to do that, you should do what you like, as long as you make it to the end of the aisle, that’s all that matters. As far as dances go, you don’t have to do the Father/daughter dance. Just omit it and just let your FI dance with your FMIL. Again, your wedding, you write the rules!

Gretchen: If they are are with your longer than 6 hours, you should feed them… Ask your venue if there is a discounted rate for staff. Many places do this.