Mrs. Pumpkin, Saskatchewan, Canada
Blogger Since: April 10, 2007
Age and Occupation: 28, Lawyer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Farmer
Engagement Date: July 14, 2006
Wedding Date: June, 2007
About Me: I love movies, music and I am addicted to TV. When I have some spare time I also love scrapbooking and making personalized greeting cards and above all playing Hide & Seek or Duck, Duck, Goose with my two adorable nieces!
Wedding Bell Blues*
July 6th, 2007 @ 3:05 pm by Mrs. Pumpkin
I don’t want to give anyone the wrong impression here, I had a wonderful wedding day! However, this is a blog about the reality of weddings and it is meant to help others in their planning. So just this once I am going to tell you about the things that went wrong for us that day, only in an effort to help you avoid the same trappings. And then every post after this will be sunshine and lollipops, rainbows and puppy dogs, I promise!
This is quite a long post but there are lots of pictures further down so keep reading!
Our day was planned out as follows:
9:30 - everyone who was helping to decorate the island and reception site was to meet at my parents’ house to pack everything up and drive it to the site
9:45 - 10:30 - Miss Pumpkin organizes decorating and delegates jobs to her team of helpful volunteers at the restaurant, so that she can move on to the island
10:30 - 11:30 - Miss Pumpkin organizes decorating and delegates jobs to her team of helpful volunteers on the island so that she can move on to getting her hair done, etc…
12:00 - Miss Pumpkin and MOH meet hair dresser at hotel to begin getting ready
2:30 - Miss Pumpkin, MOH, Mr. Pumpkin and BM meet photographer to start pictures
4:30 - Mommas, Papas, and Grandmommas meet wedding party to take some quick photos before ceremony.
5:00 - all of us are picked up by the ferry and taken over to the island to get married!
It was a pretty good plan assuming that everyone who said that they would do something actually did it, and followed the schedule. Unfortunately, that did not happen. Almost everyone who said that they would, showed up at my parents’ house to help pack the cars–so we were all good until my MOH and I got to the restaurant and nobody else was there! Ahhhh! So, wonderful, amazing MOH and I spent the next two hours trying to decorate as much of the reception area as possible before we had to go get our hair done. I don’t know why the help did not arrive on time, and I don’t know what to tell you to help you avoid this happening to you other than to make sure that you can truly count on those people who say that they will be there to help.
Our help finally arrived at around 12:00, just as I was leaving, and I was so flustered at that point that I broke down like an idiot in front of everyone. I really wish that I had been able to keep it together, but I was so frustrated and disappointed at that point that I couldn’t hold it in anymore. So, with a big, “Where have you been?” I started sobbing. Crap! I am still so embarrassed that I did that - what a cliche, hey? Oh well - it’s done and I can’t take it back, so I guess I just have to accept the fact that I am a crybaby and move on.
This delay meant that I had about five minutes to try to explain what I wanted the newly arrived team to finish. It also meant that I never made it over to the island to give directions there and that the poor (but extremely understanding!) hairdresser had to sit and wait in the lobby of our hotel for 45 minutes with all of his gear. I just had to hope that Mr. Pumpkin had been listening well enough over the last year to give proper instructions in the little time that he had left over there before he, too, had to leave to get ready.
I had packed everything in separate and well-marked boxes, so I was hoping that it would all go okay–and for the most part it did. But some things were either not done at all, or not done as I wanted, and that is disappointing to me. Not in the bridezilla “It has to be perfect or I’m not happy” kind of way but in the “I have spent the majority of the past year of my life and a considerable amount of money on these details, so it is disappointing to not have them look as planned or to not even be set out” kind of way. Some instructions I gave were just flat out ignored, which is also maddening. I am really trying to not let it bother me but as I am starting to see more and more photos of the day and the details, things just pop out at me and I think, “Oh, that wasn’t how that was supposed to look” - is that horrible of me? We put so much time, effort and money into it that it is just hard to say, “oh well”. I will get over it eventually, but at the moment it still stings a bit. I now fully appreciate the need for a DOC. If you can afford one I strongly urge you to get one, it would have fixed most, if not all, of these and similar mistakes to have someone else there who really knew what I wanted and who could give proper instructions.
A short list of decorating mistakes and some pictures:
- the aisle was not lined with rose petals; they just sort of sprinkled some down randomly and we ended up with about 5 bags of unused petals
- The vase on the table was supposed to have the sprig of flowers in it. I guess they forgot to do that, because when we got up there to sign the marriage license, the vase was on its side with nothing in it. There were also no chairs for us to sit on while we were signing.
- The refreshment table was way off to the side. I had rented those tables and linens so that the table would be more over where the guests were - otherwise I would have just used the tables that were already there.
- Only about one third of the paper lanterns were placed inside the tent. The rest were put up outside the tent on the outside of the restaurant. Why, I do not know…
- The pashmina basket was placed out all day rather than just after the sun went down. This meant that all of the pashminas were taken by the people who simply got there first, not by those who really needed them. I suppose I should be pleased that they were such a hit but some of the people who took one actually left before the sun went down so that was disappointing…
- The napkins were rolled up kind of funny and placed in the wine glasses on the table. Apparently this was done by the restaurant staff. It was fine, I just wouldn’t have done it like that and it totally takes away from our centerpieces.
- No rose petals or tealights were placed around the escort card display, wish tree, card box, or candy buffet, so the tables look pretty plain. The escort card displays were also supposed to be up on easels.
- No rose petals on the cake table, either. At least there were some tealights; however, they were the wrong colour of pink. Isn’t our cake wonderful though?! After all of the changes we made early on in the process I couldn’t have been happier with the outcome. Can you tell which layer is real and which ones are fake?
One of the most disappointing things was to find out that our ceremony programs were never handed out. The programs were so beautiful, and we had paid about $300 for them, so I am really disappointed about that oversight. I am considering including them in our thank you cards, but that would mean that I will need to buy different envelopes for the thank yous (so it will increase our postage). Any other suggestions on what I should do with them now? Here are some pictures so that at least you guys get to see them…
Also, on top of the decorating mishaps, our parents never showed up to take pictures with us before the ceremony. I still don’t know how that happened, but eventually we called Mr. Pumpkin’s dad and he said that everyone was already on the island waiting for us to arrive. That miscommunication means that neither Mr. Pumpkin nor I have any pictures of just us and our parents, besides the ones of us walking down the aisle. That’s something that I know I will miss down the road.
Not that I want to start a ranting session here but do any of you newly married brides out there have advice on how to avoid things that went wrong at your wedding?
*The 5th Dimension
40 Responses to “Wedding Bell Blues*”
Miss Pumpkin, I really feel for you, even though I know that those aren’t super huge disasters, just disappointments that they didn’t turn out the way you had envisioned them. I’m feeling nervous now! But I do have a DOC lined up already - thanks for the tip!
My cake was wrong, I gave a simple design of the cake I wanted and what we got was a bootleg version of it. I wish they would had called me to say say hey your design is too hard for the baker can you pick somthing else!
I’m so frustrated for you! I’m sorry!
But I bet only you knew those things were missing. The tables looked pretty still. But I understand how all the money down the drain is frustrating too!
Maybe have a Wedding Video/Picture watching party and hand out the programs then!?
I’m so sorry that happened! But I think by writing this, many of us will keep it in mind to hire a DOC, or ground it in people’s heads what their responsiblities are that day! HA!
Mrs. Pumpkin I appreciate your frankness and understand your frustrations. This was one of the more helpful posts in a while. Not that I don’t appreciate which of the “50 purses I love, oh which will I ever choose”, but this was seriously helpful. THANK YOU. I knew I needed to write out explicit directions with pictures but was avoiding it…No more!
My flowers were wrong. I had approved a test bouquet, but the girl mistakenly thought I had changed it. It wasn’t a huge deal, but I picked certain flowers to honor my mom and both grandmas. Thank goodness I didn’t put anything in the program about it!
Even though we said we weren’t doing parent dances, my MIL dragged my dad up to the dance floor at the end of our first dance, like right at the end of the song when we were dipping. So we have no decent pictures of the finale that we worked so hard on, thanks to her.
We had a DOC, but these things happen. I guess for the MIL issue, I would have been extra super clear!
Miss Pumpkin,
I can completely understand your being upset after all of those things didn’t go as planned. Everyone here knows the time, effort, love and money that go into planning a wedding. It’s such a huge piece of your life, but that said I want you to know that your wedding was still beautiful. If those photos had been up without the captions of what you would have liked I never would have noticed anything being incomplete or wrong. Your wedding looks unique and very nicely pulled together.
So don’t let yourself only remember the stressful parts and what might have been (easy for me to say, right?) Your wedding was beautiful and you’re married to the man that you love. That’s what’s most important. 
Miss Pumpkin, THANK YOU for writing such an honest and helpful post! My fiance and I decided to spend $500 of our wedding budget on a DOC, and this has just reinforced my belief that it will be the best wedding money we spend. Not that a DOC can avoid all issues, but it can help a lot.
Oh…what a bummer! I am sorry for you & don’t think you are being overly sensitive at all. You worked very hard & a vision is a very important part of the day. I hope you can find some way of using the programs.
Thanks for all of the information. You’ve helped me feel better about hiring a coordinator and keeping the details simple. This way there is less to be dissapointed about.
Ladies, whatever you do, SOMETHING will go wrong. So — prepare what you can, and day-of, just let go, put the “blinders” on so you can ignore the little details, and just keep looking at your new husband and smiling. So long as the guests feel welcomed and appreciated, the other stuff just falls by the wayside.
But I, too, would be annoyed the programs didn’t get handed out! Seems like a super-obvious thing (whereas napkin placement could understandably be more open to personal artistic variation, ha ha). Might as well mail them, though, like you are thinking.
I can’t afford a DOC, but my venue had a very reasonable rate to rent it out the day before the wedding. Therefore I can be on hand to supervise all decorating. I even scheduled my mani/pedi for two days before so I can spend the day before on decorating and the rehearsal alone. We are having an outdoor ceremony and we won’t be able to leave stuff outside overnight, but I’m hoping to do a trial set-up, so everyone who will be doing it will know how it should look.
Still, it’s good to recognize that nothing ever goes completely as planned. It makes it a little easier to get past things when they do happen.
I think everyone has some things go wrong. No matter how much you plan, how many notes you take or lists you make, things will get confused, forgotten, or just done wrong. My “issues”: everyone was late getting ready in the morning, so there were fewer formal photos than I wanted. My “here comes the bride” banner was left home. There was wine for the Jewish ceremony–I can’t have even a sip of wine for medical reasons so I requested juice or Sprite, but it was too late when I realized, so I had to pretend to drink. Almost no one saw the wish bowl or realized what it was for. And although the confetti cones were passed out, no one tossed it when we walked back down the aisle. Finally, although I spent a lot of time doing my seating plan, they put us at a sweetheart table, which I specifically didn’t want! I wanted us to sit with our guests. But, hey, at least my cake didn’t fall splat on the floor during the cake cutting, which happened to a bride I know on LIW.
My wedding day was still the best and happiest day of my life! These were really only minor issues.
maybe you could use the programs to decorate a room by lining them along the top edge of the walls? you spent so much money on making them perfect that for them to go unseen or unused would be such a waste.
Thank you for doing this.
Mrs. Pumpkin,
Thanks for posting this. I plan on making an itinerary for everyone but seeing this makes me realize that I just can’t expect things to be perfect. Something I am really relieved about is that I can hand all the little things over to my event manager that day. I just don’t want to be disappointed when ppl don’t follow through. The only thing I have for a guest to do is to bring the programs to the church. I think the church staff will pass them out. (I think) I am so sorry to hear your $300 programs didn’t get passed out! They are beautiful! I am intentionally printing less. I notice many ppl don’t pick up a program or share with their sig.other so I intentionally only had 50 made instead of 100. (also, 20 of the guests are my bridal party/immediate family who don’t need one anyway) If it’s any consolation Mrs. pumpkin, even without the flower petals and the funny folded napkins, your reception looks gorgeous with all the details that are there. The candy buffet, the lanterns, place cards look neat. The pew flowers and wreathe are gorgeous!!!
I’m so sorry miss pumpkin. but everything looked beautiful nonetheless.
To everyone who wants to save $500 by not hiring a DOC, this post was your warning.
It was hands down the BEST PURCHASE of my wedding.
Honestly, my wedding went off really well. I guess the only problem we had was with the photos. When we got to taking the photos we started editing our list on the fly because it was all taking a lot longer than we had planned. Everyone was a pretty good sport about it. I thought we did a pretty good job of pulling it together.
I have attended a number of wedding that relied on volunteers and have been expected to volunteer because I was an out of town guest. I really tried to avoid putting anyone in that situation.
I mean no offense to anyone who needs volunteers due to financial reasons. I did have a few volunteers help out but for very specific jobs (some musician friends who played for the ceremony for example) and limited time commitments.
Thank you for sharing so much with us. You seem to be handling it well and I am sorry things didn’t turn out exactly (or closer) to how you wanted.
great post. Sorry you had to experience that frustration! I can relate somewhat… for the most part I was really calm on my wedding day and most of the minor mishaps didn’t bother me at all. For me the most frustrating thing was the DJ at the reception. I had wanted to do the music on my own because music and dancing is really important to me. I went to the trouble of downloading songs and making up a bunch of playlists for various parts of the evening. My parents were worried about the hassel of DIY so we ended up hiring a friend of theirs who does DJing at weddings. I emailed him specific plans for the evening, and playlists of song requests for the different parts, figuring that if I was specific enough I wouldn’t have to deal with any cheesiness. We discussed things ahead of time but unfortunately day of he seemed to be clueless! He even had burned CDs with all our music selections but still kept playing things I didn’t want or like, and screwed up the order of events - constantly approaching me asking when I wanted to do the next thing. The photographers then started asking me when things were happening too, saying the DJ didn’t know. It was annoying and in the end a bunch of requests I had didn’t get played. He also left long pauses between songs which would clear the dance floor. Then, when he played “Shout!” to get people back out there, he chose a time when my husband and I were outside dealing with our luggage! He even announced “let’s have a round of applauce for the bride and groom!” when we were obviously missing from the room.
I was frustrated for awhile because I had put so much effort into buying and organizing the music. But after awhile that frustration has faded - especially because everyone had a great time anyway, and when I look back on the day now I just think of all the fun things and how happy I was. So I’m sure the blues will fade soon, Mrs Pumpkin! Advice from my experience: I also did not have a DOC which would have helped. If you don’t have one, designate troubleshooting issues to various people. If I had printed out my timeline and given it to a friend I could have made them deal with the DJ, instead of getting stressed out at the reception and taking time away from mingling with the guests.
I would have cried if my peeps had show up 2 hours late. they are lucky you did not beat them up.
The hotel that our wedding was at put me in a room where you needed a key to even get to the floor. Everyone was running around getting things ready, and if someone needed to bring me anything, I had to wait by the stairs to let them onto the floor. I had no way of knowing what was going on downstairs, if everything and everyone was ready. I spent a lot of time before the ceremony pacing the room alone wondering what was going on. We ended up starting rather late because of it. Then, the ceremony was supposed to be outside, but it was windy and the staff decided to set up inside without telling me. But once everything began, none of that mattered. It was a beautiful day.
i’m soooo sorry that this happened on your big day! but like everyone said, most of the items were not missed at all. it’s just hard to see a vision not come to life. i like the idea of mailing your programs (which were beautiful!) or having a watching-the-wedding-video party and handing it out then.
way to keep your head up and staying positive through all this!
and to everyone else, heed the warning. have a day of wedding coordinator!
After reading this post. we are going to have a wedding coordinator. It must have been frustrating but I am sure the wedding went of well .thank you so much for the warning.
what a great post, thank you, i was struggling whether to get a doc or not, thinking that i should delegate to a few friends but the more i think about it and this post you provided, i should just go ahead and do it. besides some of the mishaps, your wedding looked beautiful!
What a pretty color-combo Miss (I mean Mrs.!) Pumpkin! Very pretty! I too am sorry things were not quite how you wanted them… I was married a few months ago and still roll my eyes every time I see photos of things that weren’t done properly; and like you said, not in a “Bridezilla” way, but because so much money and planning had gone into it beforehand. I never thought a coordinator was necessary, but apparently they really do pull things together!
But, you looked amazing and I’m sure the guests had a great time. Congrats on your big day!
i totally understand the sting of some thing(s) not going right or exactly the way you want after your wedding. it isn’t even about being bridezilla or losing focus on what’s really important. you invest a LOT of time and a lot of effort into planning your wedding, so if it doesn’t go well, you feel like it was all done in vain.
with that said, hiring any kind of professional to help out with the day’s events is invaluable. it really pays off to set aside money to spend on a doc because her work on the day of will prove to be priceless.
I think this is a great post.
I’m sorry, Mrs. Pumpkin, that things didn’t go as you’d planned.
I have some advice to offer brides to be…we did NOT have a DOC, and everything was absolutely perfect at our wedding.
First of all, I have the BEST family in the world. They did all the behind the scenes stuff so that I didn’t worry one bit.
Here was the biggest help: my mom made a COLOR CODED list saying who did what and at which time. Each person’s name was in their own specific color, and highlighted, so they knew exactly what they were to do. I initially thought this was a crazy idea, but it was so smart.
She also divided up things people would need in giant ziploc bags with their names on them (i.e.: Aunt Susie needed scissors and the table assignments…those were in her individual bag).
Then, she and one of my aunts went down to the reception site the day before the wedding and figured out where everything would be located for quick set-up time. I also printed out several copies of the seating chart, and who was to sit where, so they could arrange all of that very easily.
Everyone was able to knock out their designated tasks and move on to the wedding (we only got the reception hall to decorate an hour and a half before the ceremony started–and it was 15 minutes away!). This was a complete life-saver, and I saved THOUSANDS of dollars on a DOC (not sure how expensive they are elsewhere, but in this area we were looking at around that cost).
Yes, ladies, it is possible to plan a wedding without a coordinator!!
Also, the ONE thing that I can think of that went wrong, is that our best men weren’t announced as we were entering the reception. They had to run in behind me and DH. But we all laughed about it, blew it off, and had a great evening.
Don’t sweat the small stuff, and good luck!
Thanks for posting this! I can totally relate to how you are feeling.
My cousin and I spent days working on a spreadsheet for the folks helping out at the wedding. The spreadsheet was very long, so only the very responsible friends read the entire thing and knew what they were to do. Others just didn’t. My advice is to email/call/speak to each person individually to make sure they understand what they are going to do. Most folks just didn’t understand how much time was put into writing out the instructions.
A few things that didn’t go as planned:
1. Ring bearer and Flower girl’s parents left the ceremony with their children for the reception right after the church ceremony ended. So, they weren’t there for photos..sigh. Make sure to tell the right folks to stay around for photos.
2. We spent money on making goodie bags for all the children to be given at the reception. But sadly, the friends that were at the guest table forgot to give them out. These were not as expensive as Mrs Pumpkin’s programs, but I know how it feels to put time and consideration into something that is wasted.
3. My parents were so worried about going from the church to the reception on time that they took off way too early after the ceremony. My mom was the only one who knew how to bustle my train and I was freaking out that she wasn’t there to do it.
4. After the reception was over, we had rental items that the groomsmen and friends were suppose to help return for us. They couldn’t find the items or didn’t understand what the items were. So I ran around looking for the items for them. This is totally something a DOC should have been there to do.
Our wedding still was great. But these are things I wish would have been handled differently.
OMG!!!!!! I thought my little mishap with my apple place cards was bad but that was nothing compared to all this!!! Ack!! The pictures really help illustrate the point. I’m so sorry girl! I can barely unclench my fists to post this comment!!!!
I’m having heart palpitations from reading your post, Mrs. Pumpkin! This was the best piece of public relations a DOC could ever ask for.
Seriously, you had a number of things go *wrong* butt if they had happened on their own they may have not been such a big deal. The two hours you spent decorating that was to be spent getting your hair done? I would have broken down in tears, too. Your photos look lovely though. I rather like the clean, modern look of your cake and candy buffet tables without the rose petals. And yes, your cake looked awesome!
While your thank-you postage/envelope costs will increase, strongly consider sending out those beautiful custom programs you so thoughtfully designed. I only wish I were artistically talented enough to create something half as stunning.
On 10/5/07 I’m marrying my wonderful FI and I can’t wait. However, I must share the things that went wrong in my first wedding. It was beautiful and for the most part things went smoothly…
1) Coming home from the rehearsal dinner we hit a deer and totaled our car. Cop shot deer right in front of me. (Hello? Omen from above?)
2) BM’s wife went into early labor the morning of our wedding. BM was obviously by his wife’s side (baby and mom were fine) as well as his eldest son who was to be our ring bearer. Father of the groom stepped in as BM. As the wedding was black tie it was easy enough to have a guy friend step in during pictures.
3) My sister, whom I love dearly, was getting over an eating disorder but was still occasionally suffering from body image issues. She decided 30 minutes before the photographer was to arrive that she could not be my MOH. While my mother consoled my poor little sis, I still had to finish getting dressed. My dad ended up helping me into my dress and mom finished the gabillion little buttons. My sis was feeling better and enjoyed her MOH role. (She’s healthy now.)
4) Wrong cake delivered to reception but we didn’t find this out until we entered after pics and cocktail hour. Still tasted great but the decorations were way off. Bakery profusely apologized and refunded ½ the cost.
In my case a DOC would not have alleviated any of the above. Sure, I would have had a shoulder to cry (or panic) on. Luckily I have a hyper-organized mother like Courtney who kept the planning and day-of on track.
Moral of the story, chances are you and your new hubby will only laugh (hopefully) at these hiccups in years to come.
Thank you for sharing such an honest view.
OMG - I meant to type BUT, not BUTT!
Mrs. Pumpkin - I just want to echo everyone else’s comments and thank you so much for this great public service announcement. Though I doubt it is much of a consolation to you, your trauma and all of the subsequent great comments are helping hundreds (thousands?) of brides to be be prepared for how to do our best to avoid similar mishaps. This is the best wedding bee post I’ve read in recent memory and I really thank you for it.
My wedding reception is very preparation intensive and my greatest concern of the moment is that I’ll be stuck spending hours the day of doing set up. We have a DOC, but I know that she can’t handle all of the set up on her own.
I had my FI read this post so that we could begin to brainstorm ways of handling the set up. This is the first time my FI has ever even deigned to look at weddingbee (”what’s a MOH,” “what’s a DOC”?), so thank you thank you thank you!
i can totally feel your frustration. i’d be just as frustrated, if not more. even though i would enjoy the day very much and evenutally forget what went wrong, i’d still know. i think what people fail to understand is that it’s a personal thing. you spend so much time, effort, money, sleepless nights and paper cuts [especially me] on designing and creating things for this day and to not have them set up the way you’d envisioned is hard. that’s probably the main reason why i’m such the control freak.
thanks for sharing and i know you still very much enjoyed the day. evenutally you’ll just remember that
I am sorry to hear about your frustrations. I actually liked the idea of having a video/picture viewing party and handing out the programs then. You can plan another beautiful event, (on your terms) and really showcase your inner hostess!
Can I ask where you got your card box from? I love it! my wed will also “bee” pink and brown.
Miss Junior Bee
This is why I love being a bee! I am truly feelin’ the love from you all today. I was so worried that I was being silly and unreasonable about all of this stuff and I thought you all might vote me off the island for complaining so much so it is lovely to hear all of the supportive and empathetic responses. I love you guys!
Cyn - my card box was simply 2 brown leather nesting hat boxes from IKEA with a big pink wired ribbon bow tied to the top of the smaller one so that it looked like a wedding cake! I am glad that you liked it and good luck with your escort card display as well! Let us know how it turns out.
awww!! *hug* I’m sorry mrs pumpkin! i can totally empathize with the “post wedding blues” too. i think i dwelled on them for a few days and i had to let them go otherwise we’d have to get married all over again and get it right the 2nd time around hehe. But i must say that those wedding programs are totally gorgeous (the design is beautiful!), and i would have been pissed too after seeing that they werent handed out! grr! what the?!
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Oh Mrs. Pumpkin, I am so sorry I know how frustrated you must have been. I have a DOC but I know things are going to be wrong or not how I planned and I just hope it goes as well as your day did. I keep trying to be very specific with everyone (my mo and my DOC) but they keep thinking I’m being a bridezilla and don’t understand). No one (other than the wonderfully supportive brides on “the bee”) know how much time and energy you put into planning things and it stinks to have them not work out how you want them.
Even though there were a few mishaps-I bet no one noticed but you. Congratulations you had a beautiful wedding!
Mrs. Pumpkin,
THANK YOU for the post!
I got married a year ago, and I also had some very frustrating things happen, and I DID have a DOC.
My DOC and church planner had a personal conflict, which irks me to this day.
Thankfully, I can tell you, that it will feel better in a few weeks.
No one noticed these things but you.
Still, I think we all hear and understand your frustration.
You looked beautiful, and even though you saw oversights, everything looks fabulous to me.
Best wishes!
great post! i think my biggest piece of advice to people who aren’t having a DOC is to write out a very detailed schedule. i made a schedule in excel that was in 10 minute increments. i made copies of it and passed them out. also, if you’re relying on friends to do things i suggest giving people very specific tasks. i gave one couple the job of carrying our 2 big flower arrangements from the ceremony site to the reception site. that was their only job and they knew that if they didn’t do it it wouldn’t get done. i think it helps people to know what specifically they are responsible for. i also drew out a floor plan of the reception site in illustrator and gave copies of it out. that way i didn’t have to be there to tell everyone how i wanted things arranged.
that being said, there of course were still a few problems, but they weren’t a big deal. everyone had a great time and it was the best day of my life!
and of course no one noticed that the programs were missing from your wedding, but if i were you i would be sad about it too. they are so beautiful! even with the missing components your wedding still was lovely and looked like a good time. congrats!
Mrs. Pumpkin, what are you planning on doing with your shepherd hooks? Would you be interested in selling them?
