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I’ve had a couple of friends that have had honeymoon registries and I didn’t think it was tacky at all since I understood that they had little to register for. Having said that, I still opted to give them a gift certificate for their other place of registry instead because I wasn’t sure exactly how much of my gift was actually received by the couple after all the fees, etc that those sites charge.

I feel the same way you do. We have eveything we need, so I’m having a hard time even registering. I would love to do the honeymoon registry but our parents had the same reaction.

I think you did the right thing by having a traditional registry in addition to your honeymoon registry. It gives people options.

On another note, I remember seeing a beautiful cake inspired by the June Lane collection. I found it here: http://pacificweddings.com/fresh_16_cakes_pink.html

We’re in the same situation — We moved in together exactly 2 years ago. And before that we both had our own apartments for a couple years. We like the Honeymoon registry idea as well, but both of our parents said it seemed tacky. So tradional registries it was.

Yeah, well we made our “tradional registries,” which were basically totally depleted after the shower. And so some relatives asked “what are you going to do now that most of what’s on your registry is gone?” Well we’re not going to add more useless crap (aka china, which we will never use - or extra small appliances, which will sit in a cupboard), because we live in a small apartment. and we’re not even thinking about buying a house until after FI is done with his PhD (3-4 years).

And, as we, 2 grad students are paying for this wedding, of course we want money. To make up for all the money we are pouring into this. (And we don’t even have a big budget). We can’t even afford to go on a honeymoon until 4 months after the wedding.

Like Pencils said - I don’t know what the appropriate thing to write on thank you’s will be, if we get cash — of course it will be used to replenish our savings accounts after paying for this. And to fund our honeymoon (as I said, it will not be going toward a down payment on a house because that is nowhere in the near future). I don’t know that it’s appropriate to say “Thanks for the money, we will be putting it towards our honeymoon in December!”

I’ve had it with “etiquette.”

We don’t want or need to register for anything, either, so we’re not going to. I keep hearing “but people will want to give you gifts!” and it really irks me that somehow *we* look rude for asking people not to spend their money on stuff we don’t want. Oh well.

I reeeeally wish I hadn’t seen that china, though…it goes perfectly with my kitchen!!

I agree with Melanie.

Just an idea: register somewhere that gives you cash back (instead of store credit) for returns? I know Crate and Barrel does.

we were going to register for a honeymoon, but then realized that we would have to front the money for the trip if we wanted to go right after our wedding. you have no idea how much people are going to contribute until they actually have and most people buy presents within a month of your wedding. we wanted our honeymoon right after our wedding, so we just set up regular registries. we had a fairly full kitchen of things when we moved in together, but decided to upgrade. it has made a world of difference. i cook a lot and it is really great to cook with pans that are heavy and distribute the heat evenly. it’s also really fun to throw dinner parties and have matching sets of dishes, glassware, and silverware!

I agree with Cassie, especially on the upgrading. My FI and I have been living together over 2 years, and my mom when I was younger created kind of a treasure chest sort of thing so when I moved out I had nice dishes, bed clothes, the works. Also since I love to cook my past 5 or so b-days and Christmas’s (9 days apart) are filled with gifts of kitchen appliances. So my FI and I decided we would upgrade some stuff, and then make sure to get party type things, barware, serving trays etc. so that we can start hosting parties. We also added a bunch of gifts that we would never buy ourselves but would be nice to have, electrical toothbrushes, ice cream maker, etc. also we made sure to add pillows and other things that we knew would need replaced in the next year or so (pillows never last long) and we are looking for a grill set to add (which we don’t have at all)

The honeymoon idea sounds great as long as you do it right. I was worried that people might be offended that they are spending $50 to buy us dinner out one night, etc.