Weddingbee Blog

davis2b, i used silver foiled stickers with the initials of my husband’s last name. it wasn’t the cheapest option but the easiest.

AmandaB: It’s much nicer to ship a wedding gift to the couple’s home, so they don’t have to pack it up and lug it home themselves after the wedding. This is especially important if the wedding is OOT for them. It’s also considerate to avoid delivery when they are away on their honeymoon.

AmandaB: If the guest is from out of state or a stickler for etiquette they normally ship it. But if they are less into the rules (like many are in today world) they bring the gift to the wedding.

bettina - if you want a bridal shower/bachelorette party, i suggest you gently inform them of that. you can always use a family member as an excuse to broach the subject. something like, “my mom wanted to help plan the bridal shower since you both are oot” or “my cousin was wondering when the bachelorette party would be” and so forth. that’ll help them get on the ball.

amandab - i’d ship it ahead. i think that’s what etiquette calls for too. it’s better to send it ahead instead of lugging it to the wedding. plus it’ll be a lot easier for the couple as well.

nance - that sounds confusing. are you planning on switching tables during the course of the dinner? i believe another bride [on a knottie bio somewhere] have one long table for their bridal party so they could sit with them. that’s one option. another is, if you can stand to be apart, my best friend resolved that issue by have a sweetheart table with the bridal party’s table [so we can sit with our sos] nearby.

perfect day - there’s no set limit. just spend what you normally would have spent had you been going and include a nice note.

Bettina - I almost had the same issue with my MOH but luckily she emailed me and asked what her duties were — I responded that I wasn’t quite sure either (even though I did know - I didn’t want her to feel bad), sent her the below link which really spells it all out, and then called her to discuss the items.

http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_honor_duties.html

ml - I do believe bridesmaids are supposed to be unmarried but nowadays, who cares? My MOH is a single mom…

AmandaB - I usually bring the gift unless 1) The wedding is in another city different from where the couple lives (ie more than 2 hours drive) or 2) My gift is HUGE size wise.

Please, please, please ship gifts (or drop them off at the house if you are local). It’s not because of etiquette or anything, its what is convenient for the bride and groom, one of whom you supposedly like.

I learned this at my friend’s wedding where the bride and groom had to make multiple not-short trips back and forth with their parent’s van after the reception to get all the gifts home. Not really what they wanted to be doing right then (not that they complained, of course)

And yes, I was guilty of bringing a gift to that wedding.

red -
i have several friends who have been ordained through this website:
http://www.ulc.net/index.php?page=ordain
it’s super quick and easy, and i think it’s still free!

CS - We had that problem with our shower… We could only fit half the gifts in our car to bring home with us (7 hours away). We thought we’d have to make another trip, but my friend picked up most of what was left from my parents’ and brought it when she came to visit! Still have a few things left though…

We did bring a gift to FI’s cousin’s wedding, because it was heavy and would have cost a lot to ship — but also because they lived in the town they were getting married in, so it wasn’t going to be an inconvenience for them.

I’m hoping my friend’s gift shows up in the next couple days so they can use it for their wedding/honeymoon (a big suitcase!!)

ml - I think your bridesmaids should be the people closest to you whom you’d like standing beside you on your wedding day. Married, unmarried, female or male! I say anything goes these days. Several of my bridesmaids are married, but they are important to me, so I don’t care if bridesmaids are “supposed” to be single (although I’ve never really heard that rule…. come to think of it most weddings I have been to have had married bridesmaids in them). I have also seen girls have bridesMEN or a MAN of honor — brothers or close male friends who stand on their side (but not in a dress ;-). Do what works for you!

jana- i live in atl too; if you’re looking for a beach getaway i love destin in the FL panhandle (white powder beaches) & i also like beaufort, sc (i would HIGHLY recommend staying at the rhett house inn b&b if you go there- it’s the best, most romantic one i’ve ever stayed at). if you’re more into the mountains you could rent a cabin in the n GA mountains or even up in the smokies in NC. hope some of this helps! good luck!

special day- i think the general idea is to give a gift of in the neighborhood of how much your setting would be at the reception (if that made sense)- at least that is what my parents always told me; but that will change depending on where in the country you are and what you decide to give would naturally also be dependent on how close you are to the couple