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Miss Bear…definitely go without the pantyhose. My dress is a silk charmeuse sheath and I hate pantyhose so I will go without. You can see every bump through silk like that. I am not sure what the ettiquite is but I say no go on the hose.
Miss Bear, I’d skip the hose as well. Some Spanx and sim. products are thin enough that they would not be detected through silk charmeuse.
Question for the hive:
Our ceremony is outside and I’m worried about sinking into the grass while taking my vows! My dress is light ivory with a sage green sash so I’m not oppossed to color in my shoes. Prefer a *comfortable* mid-heel height, perhaps wedges if they look dressy enough. Any suggestions? I’ve already tried Zappos and Nordstrom.
I have a white veil which I would like to dye Ivory as the oclor of my wedding gown is ivory..any ideas if this will work. aslo where can I get it done in New york or Missouri..
Thanks..
No pantyhose, I agree!
M- for music, I love Breathe Me by Sia, and anything by Frank Sinatra. For instrumental, what about Glen Miller Orchestra’s Moonlight Serenade for something more “vintage?” Anything solo piano is also really beautiful and classy.
Jen- Can you have the lion dance during the cocktail hour and slideshow during the meal of the reception? Or vice versa? My biggest regret is cramming in so much during our reception that we barely had any time to dance. But I love both idea, esp the liondance.
Lucy - I used papersource cardstock for my programs and we use a laser printer by manually feeding each single sheet. 
But it worked! I know my friend has a simple HP inkject and hers worked on a sorts of paper.
kat — I wouldn’t worry about it too much. One drip of champagne or dew on the grass and the toes will show it, anyway. Have the photographer catch a good photo of the other shoe in the “accessories” shots, and then just put it out of your mind and enjoy. Shoes are made to be broken.
m- Sia is really beautiful
Also, mark mothersbaugh does beautiful instrumentals
I have a question about the order of speeches, dances after the ceremony:
I’m a wedding newbie and wondering how to structure my informal, outdoor affair? We’ll have a short photo session/happy hour and then I had imagined we’d jump right into dinner, do dancing after. Is the first dance/announcement of bride & groom, usually before dinner? If I’m not taking my husband’s last name, how should we be announced?
Thanks for your help.
Jen-I am doing something similar, a lion dance to open up the program, followed by an introduction of the wedding party, family, toasts, best man/moh speech, slideshow. keep in mind that the lion dance is about 10 minutes, and a slideshow is usually around 15 minutes or so, so i don’t think this would be overkill
Lucy - I printed some test invites on my HP Officejet using PaperSource’s Luxe paper and it came out beautifully. I only put 2-3 sheets in the feeder at a time.
Question for the hive:
For those of you DIYing your invites and printing them out. Did you have your paper pre-cut and then feed them into your home printer? Or, did you print them out and hand cut them yourselves. If pre-cut, what printer? If print, then cut, what tools did you use?
Okay, so that’s a few questions but all on the same topic. Any help/advice is greatly appreciated!
Lucy - I printed all of our wedding things at home using paper-source products. For card stock I would suggest either feeding one at a time or at the most 5-10 sheets.
Appleb - Precut can be fed into most home printers, however I keep an eye on the prints because they can start going through crooked. Maybe single sheet feed or just do a few at a time. If you can print on standard paper and then trim you will save money though!
Oh, and the printer I used was a inexpensive canon model, about a year old.
appleb:
If your printer takes the size you want them cut to, that would probably work out the best, that way you don’t have to worry about cutting out (and figuring out a layout to get the most out of a sheet of paper) but if it won’t take your size, get ‘em cut afterwards. Kinkos will cut stacks of paper for $1.50 a cut (at least that’s the price at my kinkos!)
MK: Sharpie brand markers now come in a variety of colors and levels of metallic, you could try that!
~Lucy~ I printed all of my inserts on an HP 1400s series printer. Handled the 110lb cardstock and the vellum paper just fine. Remember to fan our your cardstock if you aren’t handfeeding each sheet, though. They may have gotten stuck together in the ream and won’t separate when going through the printer. That was the only problem I had.
Bettina - More information than you ever wanted to know about escort/place card etiquette…
“An Escort card is any type of card that is placed at the reception (usually near the entry way) in order to direct a guest to his or her table. It may be enclosed in an envelope, be a tag tied to a favor, or a tented card. It would include the guests’ name and the table where they have been assigned. Usually escort cards are arranged on a reception table in alphabetical order, in rows that are short enough for guests to scan through easily to find their table assignment. It is a good idea to make separate escort cards for couples with different last names so that they can be easily alphabetized. Highlighting or enlarging the surname or grouping by the first letter of the surname helps to make the search even easier.
A Place card is any type of card that is placed at the exact seat at a table where the guest has been assigned. These may be tented, tied to a favor, written on the back of your dinner menu, or any number of various clever ways. This card does not have a table number printed on it.
At formal affairs, both cards may be used. An Escort card may be used alone without using a place card. Using a place card alone, is usually reserved for smaller affairs where the guest can easily spot their card at a table setting without needing to be directed to a table.
Both Escort and Place cards may be addressed formally (Mr. and Mrs. John Doe) or informally (John and Jane Doe) depending on the type of affair.”
Jen - I am doing both lion dance and slideshow. I did want moe time to party and didnt want this to be overkill so I cut out a few things like bouquet toss (which truthfully i wanted to skip anyway) and father/daughter dance (my dad plays the drums so he offered to replace the dance with the escorting of me in my red dress and playing the drums for the lion dance). Even if you have everything, I dont think it will be overkill….just make sure the dance is short and sweet.
Question for the hive:
We’re having a shuttle between the hotel and ceremony/reception site. We have about 80 people who are staying at the hotel, but most of them will also have cars since the hotel is not within the city. How many people do you think will actually take the shuttle? We have a 15 passenger van booked, and about half of the guests will be going over early for photos, but should we book a 2nd one for the end of the night?
For the pen question: I have black metallic-sheeny envelopes. I brought a sample to Ben Franklin and tested every silver pen they had. The hands down winner was a silver Gelly Roll brand pen. The manufacturer is Sakura if that helps.
They dried the fastest, had the best tip-width for legibility and neatness, and were a great price for a 3 pack. I just finished addressing all my envelopes and the pens worked great.
Question - are you supposed to tip the coordinator at a hotel if you have your ceremony and reception at the hotel? Tips are already added onto the bill.
Thank you!!!
for the hive:
who hosts the bridal luncheon? i am planning on taking my BMs to lunch and for mani/pedi’s. my mom and her best friend offered to host the lunch - is it weird for them to be listed as hosts rather then me in the invite? please help!
m - I’m not sure if this is what you are looking for, but check out http://www.tmrpro.com. It’s a site about a string quartet that has done tributes to a lot of big name artists. There are some GREAT songs!
hi there, i’d like to know how much you all spent on photography so i can get an average of how much it costs. please also indicate the city in which you live, as i’m sure that makes a difference. 
thanks!!!
hello! does anyone know a cake baking class in nyc for a bridal shower/party? thanks!
I have a question about marriage licenses and what occurs after you have one.
From what I understand is that you have to have one to beconsidered married, but I don’t understand the timeline stuff.
I guess my question is.. why do i have to get a marriage license, and what makes a marriage legal?
The timeline of the marriage license depends on where you are getting the license. You can only get the marriage license after you both prove who you are (birth certificates, etc.) - then that state recognizes you as married.
Question for the Beehive-
Miss Lime’s post inspired this question - I’m curious to hear what songs people have used during their ceremony for their processional (bridal party and/or bride). Thanks!
I have a thank you question for the hive.
My new grandmother made us a quilt for our wedding gift. She started working on it when we announced our engagemment and it’s beautiful. When we opened it there were three cards in with it indicating that the quilt was a gift from Grandma H, Aunt H (her daughter), and Cousin K (Aunt H’s daughter). Aunt H also included a check in her card.
So who gets the Thank You? Do I write three? I dont want to slight anyone but notes that say “thanks for the quilt grandma made” seem to be a bit odd.
Christine, I am also getting married outside and plan to wear wedges. I got mine at My Glass Slipper - Cynthia Rowley has a nice pair that I got. http://www.myglassslipper.com/products2.cfm/dept/SHOES/ID/2366
ml, I am spending a little over $4000 on photography in Nashville, TN.
d, I think that people might want to take the shuttle bus to avoid drinking and driving, regardless of whether or not they have access to a car. Maybe you can have the same shuttle run several times or possibly book another.
As MOH, I am planning a bachelorette party for my sister. She’s not the clubby type, so our idea was do dinner and drinks at a couple of bars followed by a typical high school sleepover. I am planning on providing food and drinks at the sleepover. What is the ettiquette on paying for dinner and drinks out on the town - can the guests be told o pay their own way, or should I be picking up the entire bill? (Obviously I will pay for the bride)
I am having a problem. My MOH is my younger sister, who, at 25 years of age cannot manage to arrive on time for ANYTHING. (Example: She made me late to my own bachelorette party because she was supposed to pick me up on her way, and after waiting for 30 minutes past the start time of the party I drove myself. She didn’t arrive to the party until an hour after I got there.)
I am getting very concerned about my wedding next weekend–I have appointments at the salon for all the girls to get their hair done at 9 am, and we have to be at the church for pictures at 11. I realize this is a tight turnaround, but manageable. My sister is insisting that she get her hair done at her usual salon, and not with the group. If it were anyone else, I would not have a problem with this, but my sister can’t manage to get her act together to be anywhere on time, and I’m worried she’ll be late for pictures. I have tried to mandate that she get her hair done with the other bridesmaids as a means to ensure her timeliness (I tried to spin it in a “It will be fun girl-time!” sort of way), and she has completely refused. Any other suggestions? I don’t want to get all bridezilla on her, but I am genuinely concerned.
As a follow up to my previous question, in regards to AmandaB’s response… so once the state recognizes we’re married, it’s legal? No ceremony required?
My boyfriend and I are talking marriage, and a ceremony isn’t for us, so I’m just curious about all the stuff that has to happen for us to be legally wed. Once I get the license do I have to do anything else or is that it?
I don’t even know where to start looking online for answers so I thought I’d come to the hive first.
[...] Christine would like shoe suggestions for her on-the-grass ceremony. Her dress is light ivory with a sage green sash, so she isn’t opposed to something with color. She’d prefer a comfortable, mid-height heel–perhaps even dressy wedges. [...]
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