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“I am sick. I am sick, sick, sick of your shit. And when I’m not sick, I’m tired. I am sick and tired!” - Wanda Sykes, “Monster in Law”
This is approximately how I feel about the wedding planning process right now. I am just so over it. I’m ready to be married. I have had a stomachache for the last 24 hours or so due to stress and anxiety. Similarly, my left eye has been twitching for about the last 24 hours, also due to stress.
Why does wedding planning usually look like so much fun on TV and movies? The fun moments have been there, for sure, but it’s been predominately stressful. I just need to be done with all this. I’m tired of looking at ribbon and paper and card stock. I’m sick of designing menus and looking at veils and discussing flowers. I just want to spend forever with my soulmate.
I hear ya girl. I’ve been nauseous for the better part of the last 2 months. My stomach is worn down. My FI misses his old girlfriend because I’ve been a ball of stress. The thing I’m sad about is that I will associate our big day with feeling stressed out. So I’ve been trying to get over it, trying reeeal hard. It will all be worth it in the end. right? hang in there.
Oh, I had the eyelid twitch! Doc said I needed: more sleep, less stress, less caffeine. He was right, but — DUH, OF COURSE!
i’m completely with you. I’m stressed out with the wedding coming in a few days. I haven’t been able to sleep for the past couple of days. I’m totally getting paranoid about things not working out. Silly…
I remember feeling that way many times. There’s a lot that’s fun about the ribbons and shiny things but there were so many times when I really wanted to reclaim the large portion of my brain that was taken over by a lot of trivial and materialistic crap and really hated spending what seemed like an insane amount of time hunting for cardstock (and petal bags and the perfect green napkins and on and on).
You gotta take breaks when you need ‘em.
And in the end, luckily, all our stress and attention to detail did actually pay off and everything at our wedding really was beautiful, designed for guests’ comfort and enjoyment, and reflective of our personal style.
Ditto. I so don’t care anymore and just want it to happen! Wedding planning has consumed my brain and weekends for too long…I want my life back. 
We hardly have time to just be with eachother anymore.
I will definitely be glad when the “wedding room” turns into a bedroom again! Hang in there!
Felicity, one of my biggest worries is that I’ve spent all this time obsessing and then guests won’t even notice or care about the small details. I’m glad to know that sometimes guests *do* pay attention
I guess I just feel like I’ve lost a little spice…a little bit of what makes me so fabu I really want to get all this stuff done ASAP so I can enjoy my last couple days leading up to the wedding.
I absolutely agree too! I had the eye twitch and stomach ulcers too. I am ready to be married and enjoy my honeymoon with my honey. I want to talk/think/dream about things other than invitations and the right shade of pink ribbons.
Yeah ppl keep asking me if I’m excited. I just say, I’ll be glad when it’s over and I’m on my honeymoon.
I definitely do let it get to me when I don’t get enough reaction to the stuff I’ve worked so hard on.
I’m sure it will all be worth it in the end though (I hope)…
I want my life back too!!! I’m tired of saying no to weekend getaways with friends because I have to shop for wedding stuff….and when did shopping become a chore? I’m tired of looking at my to-do list getting longer and longer instead of shorter because of all the little things that I didn’t account for. I’m tired of having half-finished wedding projects strewn all across the house….whew! I’m tired of writing what I’m so tired about……
Do you have any family or friends that could help you during the planning? Perhaps you could delegate to them, leaving you with more free time.
I totally understand! I feel a LOT calmer right now with the wedding 4 days away than I did a month ago, but I’m still sort of like “Yeah, excited about the wedding, but I can’t wait til it’s over and we’re on our honeymoon and moving into our new place.” I guess I’m excited about the MARRIAGE more than the WEDDING.
All my family is either in Northern California or out of state. My maid of honor keeps bugging me to help with stuff (how awesome is she?!), but a bunch of the stuff I have to do is stuff that I have to do (like picking out ribbon, deciding on favors, infinite meetings with vendors, trips to Paper Source). She doesn’t have a car, but will be great when it comes time to assembling programs and favors
I’m totally with you. You really realize how much other parts of your life are totally ignored. Projects I wanted to complete, classes I want to take, MOVES I WANNA MAKE!, everything! has been put on hold for this wedding.
After my wedding/honeymoon, I have the wonderful task of quitting my job and moving finally to the Minneapolis area. My job is going to be pissed, I know that. But there is something so great about getting married and then quitting your job and starting a whole new life! Still living in my college town with my fiance who is finishing school in 2 1/2 weeks, we could have been out of here at the end of this month. But because of the wedding we are pressing on for a couple more months, (end of October).
I’m really looking forward to when I can plan other things in my life, like saving up for a house, paying off some things, starting grad school, instead of the wedding. At least for the most part those things don’t have huge deadlines and you can just go at your own pace.
Everyone is always like “Cherish your engagement, it goes way too fast!” which I agree with. However, while I will mourn the wedding planning process and the fact that it’s over, I will not be mourning that constant feeling of impending stress and always having something to do or else! It’s almost like I’m back in the school - I like having only work to worry about!
I am cracking up because this is SO how I feel! When people tell me it’s supposed to be the happiest time of my life, all I hear is “blah, blah, blah”!
You are not the only one. I was engaged for a year beginning in May 2006. In December I was ready to call it quits and run away to a drive-thru in Vegas. The stress of all of it caused anxiety and depression too. The feeling of being pulled by each family as well as work and friends can sometimes feel like too much. I could barely enjoy xmas because I was a mess. January was a little better, but by February I saw the light at the end of the tunnel. There were a lot of bumps, sleepless nights and petty fights, but it was worth it in the end.
I just got married on June 29 - check out our pics - http://www.wedpagedesigns.com/louiseandgreg - it was SO worth it!
Good luck, chin up and give yourself some time away from all of the wedding planning drama - you deserve it!
AMEN SISTA!!!
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Mrs. Pearl, Los Angeles Age and Occupation: 26, High school history teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 37, Software engineer Engagement Date: No official date, we just decided :-) Wedding Date: July 2007 Venue: St. Anthony's Greek Orthodox Church, Ritz Carlton Huntington Hotel About Me: Mr. Pearl and I have been together for about four and a half years now. We've been "engaged" since 2004 and were originally supposed to get married in June 2006, but postponed the wedding to July 2007. I love shopping for housewares and office supplies, music, reading chick lit, football, and the diverse world of Los Angeles dining.
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