Mrs. Corn, Newport, RI
Age and Occupation in '07: 31, HR for public accounting firm
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Consultant for public accounting firm
Engagement Date: October 7, 2006
Wedding Date: September, 2007
Blogging Since: June 1, 2007
Venue: North Lawn of Fort Adams State Park
About Me: I am a lazy scrapbooker who loves the instant gratification of making cards and I am very easily distracted by all things shiny. In honor of my childhood nights spent hibachi BBQing on the beach with my family, we are hosting a traditional New England Clambake for our reception.
That’s It! No More!! I’m Done!!! (well, almost)
July 17th, 2007 @ 11:27 am by Mrs. Corn
Here is a list of DIY things that I have done personally so far for this wedding:
1) Created and made two types of favors
2) Designed and made all
a. Save the Dates
b. Invitations
c. Response cards
d. Maps
e. Outer envelopes
f. Stamps
g. Table numbers
h. Escort cards and envelopes
i. Menu cards
j. Shower thank-you cards
k. Wedding thank-you cards
l. Wedding website
3) Created 4-page newsletter complete with custom crossword puzzle for the Out-of-Town bags
4) Created and made all 60 votives for guest tables at reception
5) Created and made all 17 sand/dune grass/driftwood/candle/water feature centerpieces
6) Got card basket for gift table
7) Found tall, thick branches to use to hold up escort card display
8. Purchased materials for wish tree
9) Purchased bags for Out-of-Town bags
10) Bought marzipan shells to put in glassine bags for the Out-of-Town bags
11) Purchased short shepherd’s hooks for flowers to hang in aisle of ceremony
Here is a list of things that I still need to get done for this wedding:
1) Figure out ceremony details and make programs
2) Make cones to hold flowers to hang on shepherd’s hooks in aisle of ceremony
3) Put marzipan shells in glassine bags and package them like Miss Plumeria did 
4) Create and make sign for wish tree
Here is a list of things that we will not be doing at our wedding because I have hit the DIY wall:
1) Come up with some sort of interactive table games for our reception so that people don’t get bored
2) Make ribbon sticks for people to wave while we walk back up the aisle
3) Make individual grass seed throwing things in lieu of ribbon sticks
4) Make individually wrapped tissue packs for people to have in case they cry
5) Bake corn, lobster and shell cookies for the Out-of-Town bags
6) Create and make centerpieces for Tall-Boys for cocktail reception
7) Build a Model-T from scratch so we have a get-away car
The truth is, after the events of the past few weeks, I really have decided once-and-for-all that the wedding really isn’t about everyone else. Who cares if people don’t like something, or are bored, or think the etiquette is off or can’t stand the music or think the hotel is too expensive or what-ever-it-is that people think at weddings that make brides decided to take it upon themselves to personally make sure that everyone has the same level of over-analyzed, über-personalized fun at their event.
Our wedding is about us. It is one ceremony and one party on one day of two people’s lives.
I can’t believe that I was trying so hard to not be a bridezilla that I became someone even worse; the anti-bridezilla; the bride who tries so hard to ensure categorically and without doubt that her guests have a perfect time at her wedding, that she forgets to just relax and enjoy the moment.
Thank GOD I caught myself before composing our own wedding song!!
13 Responses to “That’s It! No More!! I’m Done!!! (well, almost)”
Great job Miss Corn! Thank you for listing your DIY projects and having links to them!!
Ms. Corn, I fully agree with your sentiments. I believe that your wedding will beautiful, special and unique. I’ve really enjoyed reading your posts. I too have been worrying about the guests’ experience more than my own, but I am also letting go of some projects along the wayto honor the real purpose of the day. Best wishes!
If only more people came to that realization or even realized that to begin with!
omg. you are my idol. spectacular.
i’m glad you reached that conclusion BEFORE your wedding! it’d be so sad to look back and wish you had just put you and your fiance as the number one priority. it’s exhausting to try and anticipate everyone’s feelings or reactions, and i too have decided that if people are going to judge or feel upset or angry, that’s on them. it’s a wedding, it should be a joyful day, especially for the two people being married.
oh i so needed to read that. i don’t even have nearly the DIY list that you have (although maybe i’m just not there YET), but i’m already feeling that wall. it’s a good reminder that this day is to celebrate 2 people’s love for each other, not what people will think of the celebration.
Thanks for writing something I’ve been feeling and trying to verbalize for a long time.
LOL… wait… so know custom penned song by miss Corn? kidding!
Yes, you needed a break! You’ve done soo much and should be proud of all your beautiful elements you’ll have on your special day!
Amen!
And thank you for not doing ribbon wands or tears of joy packets 
The irony of the uber-perfectionistic bride: It starts as being about making the guests happy and comfortable and appreciated and somehow warps into the bride being a control freak trying to direct everyone’s manner of expressing how they themselves feel, communicate, and celebrate.
Congrats on recognizing when to put the eyelet puncher down.
bwahahah. your entry towards the end is hilarious! “building a model T” LOL!!
Yeah, I also suddenly got to that point where I realized some of the things on my list were just not important enough to worry about. There was a time when I wanted to make personalized coloring books for the kid packs, but eventually I realized that the kids don’t care, so why should I? Someone once commented here that people don’t know what’s missing: no one knows there were “supposed to be” ribbon wands, so no one’s going to go sulk in a corner because they didn’t get one.
And you know what? I was just looking for a personal example I could add here, and I can’t think of one! I’m sure there was something that I “meant to have” at the wedding, but here I am less than a month later, and I can’t think of one thing I felt was missing. Not even coloring books.
