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I would be really disappointed if I didn’t get a bachelorette party. I don’t think you’re a prude though, I don’t mind the nightclub scene but I also don’t want a party with strippers, sex toys or random penis paraphernalia. I find that stuff distasteful, not funny, but that doesn’t mean I can’t have fun! Why don’t you guys do a spa day at home (i.e. give yourselves pedicures and manicures rather than paying buckets to have someone else do it) or a bridesmaids’ tea like Mrs Raspberry did? There are a million things you could do for fun with your girls that don’t involve loads of drinking and dancing and strippers.

Depends what you are interested in. I like the idea of going all-out on something that’s fun and girlie and NOT what you’d likely do after being married. I would love a girls-only day at the waterpark or theme park! Or could do a spa day. Even a slumber party.

I’m not having one, and certainly not the bar-hopping, veil-wearing, penis cake-eating kind. I’m not having a shower either. Call me the anti-bride bride. All of my BMs live over a day’s drive away. There’s no way I could ever ask them to cough up more $$$ to fly up here for anything other than the big day. We’ll probably go out for tea the day before the wedding, but that’s it.

I am having a bachelorette party that my friends have turned into a weekend reunion of sorts at the college we went to (a big party school). Most of my friends are married now but every once in a while we love to go and and have girls nights since we do not live by eachother. Nothing scandalous or degrading, but not PG either! I think it’s fun not even as a bachelorette, I don’t need to say goodbye to singledom, I feel like I did that 4 years ago when we got together, but sometimes it’s nice to just be crazy girls.

My bridesmaids suggested a matinee on Broadway followed by a nice dinner. Sounds wonderful to me, but so much money…..maybe after the wedding when we’ve all had a chance to recuperate financially.

Instead, my suggestion was a nice dinner out then an evening at home either doing pedis or watching wedding-ish movies….perhaps a slumber party.

It’s still up in air….all I know is no night clubs, no drunken stupers, and no embarrassing and distasteful strippers.

In June, some friends up in New England threw me a bachelorette around Boston. We went to Boston for a Saturday. They made me wear a veil and we had matching shirts (mine was white- theirs pink or green- my colors). We did a scavenger hunt of sorts taking us everywhere in Boston- some by foot, some by T. TONS of fun- no debauchery. Though I did get my picture taken with a sailor, a drunk guy by Fenway, and firemen. Don’t ask

In a couple of weeks a friend of mine is throwing me a girl’s day out where we will be doing crafts at the following place: http://www.studiou.com . My friends know I love crafts so we’re going to just spend some time there doing projects and either do lunch or dinner depending on the time frame.

Also- for a friend of mine- we did sushi and then ceramics the night before her “real” bachelorette. She LOVED it.

To sum up my LONG comment- I say you do whatever you like with your friends. A spa day, a dinner out, take salsa lessons, go crafting, whatever it is that you all would have fun doing. It doesn’t need to be the typical bachelorette craziness.

As the MOH for my older sister’s wedding in October I am throwing an unconventional bachelorette party. We’re going to one of those places for a paint-your-own pottery party. My sister is absolutely not a party girl and most of her wedding guests are family members, so we’re just going to have a fun craft night; something even the younger cousins can take part in! We’ve painted our own pottery many times over the years and it’s always a fun, laid back type of gathering…plus you get to take something home with you!

I like the spa idea, but my BMs and I are going for manis and pedis before the wedding so that’s out of the question as a bachelorette party.
We’re going to go to one of the paint your own pottery places then dinner for mine - which sounds fantastic to me. I’m not up for a strip club, or any banana hammocks. No thank you.

I didn’t have a bachelorette party, nor did I want the typical strip club one. I did, however, hope to have a night with girlfriends, possibly the night of my shower, but with illness (mine and others), a new baby, and tight scheduling, it didn’t happen. However, that doesn’t mean I’ve given up the idea! We’ve made plans to have a “Girly Party” next month, in which my friends and I will go to the beach in the morning, visit a spa in the afternoon, and spend the evening watching bad movies in our PJs, and most will stay over so my husband can make us pancakes for breakfast. If we’re very lucky, he’ll wear one of my frilly aprons and we can tuck dollars into the waistband. (I have a small collection of vintage aprons.)

All I know about my ‘bachelorette’ party is that it’s two days long and has a packing list that includes everything from bathing suit, to yoga clothes, bug spary and dance outfit.

Whatever they have plan…it sounds like a combination of fun girl activites. And there better not be strippers! So not my scene.