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Upon reading Miss Butterscotch’s post concerning far traveling guests, I realized that I am in the exact opposite boat. RSVP’s are pouring in from people that my parents and I were certain would not be coming. And when I say certain, I mean, “We won’t be able to make it to your wedding” actually passed their lips. So, with a handful of those type of guests, I’m starting to get a little worried about the capacity of our venue. That and the fact that Mr. Strawberry did not get me his list in its entirety until the majority of invites had gone out. Oy vey. I’m going straight to hell, but when my coworker told me that she would probably be in Vegas and would not be able to attend the wedding….I was doing cartwheels inside. I’m evil. If anyone else would like to car pool with me to hell, perhaps we can save on gas? 
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We were doing the same thing! Our guest list was 190 with allowing all of our single friends to bring a date… we were expecting about 150 to come. So when the first response cards started coming back we were happy to see a couple couldn’t come, and that some of our single friends weren’t bringing dates…
but at this point - NONE of our single friends are bringing dates! Then with a couple invites (including our best man) being in the military - none of them are able to come…
So with 1 week to go on the RSVP date, we have 105 people coming for sure, with 45 responses yet to come in.
Turns out it’s going to be a much smaller wedding than we planned!
oops - sent that a little early.
I was going to say, I guess we got what we wished for!
I’ll bring snacks for the road trip!
I’m having the same problem! While it is very nice that people are making the effort to travel to my wedding- eek- my venue only holds 300 and my crazy, people pleasing fiance invited everyone in the free world- saying things like “oh they won’t come all the way from Oregon!” Also, many coworkers said “I’d love to come but I won’t be able to travel for (fill in the blank reason.) And now they are all carpooling!
I know I’m a terrible person for this. But I’m hoping to start getting some more NOs in the mail.
Count me in for the trip to hell. I’m a pretty good navigator. I wanted a small wedding and we invited 307 people (!!!) — so when the no’s started rolling in, I was thrilled.
I guess I got what I wished for, because there are about 10 notable people in my life who won’t be there and who I’d give anything to have at our wedding. That being said, only 59% of our guests accepted! So we’re going to have around 180 in the room next Saturday.
I guess I should have checked the Jewish calendar when picking our wedding date…it falls on Yom Kippur and several of our friends have already told us they can’t make the cross country trip because of the holiday. Oops, and no, I can’t change the date! That will definitely help us get from 150 invited to 100-110 attending. I call shotgun!
We also invited way more people than our 75 guest list. Many people are not able to make it cause of living out of the state. Every time someone says No, I am secretly saying Who-hoo. Of course if the number goes up we can handle it but I am keeping my fingers cross for 75 people.
LOL! We are doing a destination wedding and sent out save-the-dates to a few people as a courtesy who were vehement that they would not attend due to expense and what they consider our rudeness for getting married out of the country. Our invites don’t go out for a couple of months but apparently a few of these folks already have flight reservations and plan to be there now.
The moral of the story, be careful who you invite because they may attend.
I haven’t even sent out the invites yet and I’m secretly hoping for No’s.
Can you send some of your guests to my wedding instead? We’re afraid we won’t make our minimum!
umm… can I join in? I invited about 400 people (that number includes the spouses and guests), but my venue only holds 125. My family and I can guarantee that 90% of our OOT guests (from about 15 hours away) won’t come, but his family’s maybes and nos have turned into yes attendees. EEK! I am freaking out and praying for nos.
Yes, please.
My fiance’s parents asked to add guests just before I sent out the invitations, and I only agreed because they assured me that none of these guests would actually attend. Fast forward to now, a week before the wedding, and nearly all of these so-called “courtesy invites” have accepted.
Thanks, future in-laws! >:(
I am getting back responses from single people who have taken the liberty to bring guests…and I am not just talking about a date….I am talking about their sister or bother….and we dont’ know them!
how rude!
why don’t they just bring their cats and dogs and we’ll feed them too!
I’ve even gotten comments from people who werent invited like “Looking forward to seeing you on the big day”…
I’m like WTF?!?!
we invited 350 (+) people and looks like the “no’s” are not coming in as frequently as we were expecting…..
anyone else getting married on the 15th of Sept that need more guests?!?!?! TAKE MINE, PLEASE!!!
Yeah we are just 5 days away from our RSVP date and I am still waiting on HALF of the responses. Many oot ppl can’t come, but we are definitely getting more than I expected. Invited a little over 200 and were planning on about 150. But in the end, if people want to come that bad, let’s party!
Count me in for the trip too! We invited 179, thinking 150 would come. So far, only 80 responses back, and only 2 nos. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for more nos.
My future MIL gave me 12 people to invite–even bribed us with money to invite that she GUARANTEED would not be attending. So far, 10 out of the 12 are coming. And I’ve never met them.
I guess we are all blessed that so many people want to share in our day!
Can you fit one more for the car trip to hell? Between family members inviting people w/o clearing it with us first, and the Mr. inviting nearly his entire office, I’ve been thrilled to pieces when we get “no”s. Even thought there have only been 3 to date. Ugh. Straight to hell. I call shotgun!
Move over, because I definitely need a seat in that car. We have to invite all of my dad’s cousins and their families, because we all do christmas with each other over year. I’m secretly hoping they *all* say no, so I can invite my “b” list - people on my softball team, coworkers, etc.
I’ll chip in for gas on the hell ride.
I too am waiting for RSVPs from a large family group on the other side of the country (and hoping for “regretfully decline” check marked).
Not to mention FILs inviting an additional 34 people 6 weeks before the wedding. They insist that “most” won’t come.
I’ve been told that the YES responders send in the rsvp cards earlier, and the NO rsvps come last because they are waiting to see if they can make it. So I’m REALLY crossing my finger on this.
i think we’re going to need a bus. Our invites go out on Friday to 102 people, and I’d be thrilled if we had between 30-50 guests at our wedding. Of course, most people aren’t going to be able to fly out to Hawaii. I keep hearing cousin’s say they’re going to try and make it, but I really hope that NONE of them can come. we’re just not close. I don’t think any of them went to the last cousin wedding, and that was on the mainland! Maybe I’ll get lucky.
Yep, guilty.
One cousin asked to bring a date (OK, fine)… and she’s vegetarian (fine)… and — ready for the punchline — her TWIN SISTER (because they are twins and do everything together; I know — ew!). Oh, and then the twin no-showed to 1) rehearsal dinner and 2) the reception. GRRRRRR.
Also…. We scheduled for dead of winter on the East Coast, officially because was good for our work schedules… but we found many who live in a tropical/mild climate (sizeable chunk of guest list) chickened out from flying, or complained they didn’t think they had the proper clothes for a black tie optional winter reception. Oh horrors! Hey, Stockholm seems to thrive, and go shopping, people! So… confession is we had more money for our honeymoon and furniture.
LOL. Carpool. That’s great.
I’m with you sister!!
HELL OR BUST!!
KDN - that’s crazy! We invited 430-ish, expecting that we could meet our 350 goal, and 340 showed up. But, you should know from experienced brides that what Miss Strawberry is talking about isn’t unusual. People make the special trip, people change their minds, people make it happen for the special occasion. Sometimes it becomes their family vacation.
Receiving RSVP’s was a highlight and what I’d heard proved true as I awaited–the no’s come in closer to your deadline. You figure right away you receive the definite yes’s, because they already know they’ll be there. Some people try to make other plans, wait for something else to come up or just for general confirmation. Anyway, even some of your yes’s will not show and vice versa. RSVP’s are not fool-proof, in my opinion.
i just got engaged about 3 weeks ago. yeah, i haven’t even sent out my save-the-dates yet and i’m already hoping that not everyone will be able to go. our reception is going to cost us a bundle - about $600 per table not including drinks! aahh!
i forgot to mention that if everyone came and all our single people brought a date, we’d be over 30 tables. ahhh!
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Mrs. Strawberry, Seattle
Age and Occupation: 25, Radio DJ, Advertising Sales, Day of Wedding Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer
Engagement Date: 07/04/2006
Wedding Date: September 1, 2007
Venue: Lake Union Cafe, Seattle
About Me: I'm a Navy brat that has lived all over the world. I love reality shows that are in poor taste, going to new restaurants, and trying to be crafty. Emphasis on trying!
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