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Mrs. Bluebell, New York Age and Occupation in 07: 26, Finance Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Playing with the cat and/or Consulting Engagement Date: December 25, 2005 Wedding Date: June 2007 Venue: Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks About Me: Trying to find the perfect balance between family tradition (marrying at the house everyone else in my family gets married at), making our's modern, interesting and different from everyone else in my family's, and incorporating some Chinese tradition for my Chinese fiance. I really have no idea what it's going to end up looking like! Also, I picked Miss Bluebell for my name because I have blue eyes and I'm a loser like that.
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Maid/Matron of Honor

July 27th, 2007 @ 1:24 pm by Mrs. Bluebell

I’m going wedding dress shopping today!!! :D

No, the Bluebells haven’t decided to renew their vows barely a month after the wedding - it’s for my best friend/maid of honor at my wedding, who’s getting married in May, now with me as her maid of honor!

But…saying that got me thinking.  We were both engaged at the same time for a several month long overlap, so we got in the habit of referring to each other as “mutual maid of honors.”  But now that I’m married…aren’t I technically a matron of honor?

Regardless, I just can’t quite get myself to say “matron.”  It just sounds icky.  Without even getting into the actual meanings of the words “maid” and “matron,” you really do have to admit that “maid of honor” just sounds like what that role is called, and “matron of honor” sounds…matronly.

That said, if your maid/matron of honor was already married, what would/did you call her?


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18 Responses to “Maid/Matron of Honor”

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Sarah

Don’t forget, the legal opposite of “bachelor” is “spinster.” Makes “matron” sound a lot better, doesn’t it?

 
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Go Amie

I think you can still call yourself a maid of honor if you like. Married bridesmaids are still called bridesmaids, for example.

I rather like the term “Best woman” (to go with “Best man”).

 
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Faith

I have a maid of honor (my twin) and a matron of honor (our best friend since we were 10). She refuses to let me call her “matron.” She and my twin are asking to be called my “chicks of honor.” I’m inclined to comply, since (a) I like the word “chick” and use it frequently, (b) I don’t think people really notice that sort of thing in the program, or what have you, and (c) I’m interested in seeing if anyone *does* and what they’ll say about it.

 
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Jen

haha i was thinking about this same thing recently! i’m the first of my friends to get married so i would be a matron for their weddings!!!

 
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Laura S

I hate the term “matron of honour” as well. Interestingly, I noticed at my friend’s recent wedding that she had called her unmarried and very single best friend Jessie in the wedding party the “matron of honour.” Apparently Jessie liked the term better (what?!) and had requested it, I guess not knowing the meaning of the term. All night people kept coming up to her asking about when she had gotten married and where her husband was, and she was all, “oh no I don’t have a husband…” and everyone thought she had just gotten divorced. Some others who hadn’t spoken to her seemed quite surprised when she got up for the bouquet toss. It was hilarious.

 
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Jessica

I didn’t like the word matron either, but when I asked my married best friend to be my maid of honor, she said yes, and then she corrected me by saying she would actually be my matron of honor. So that was that.

 
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twelvetigers

I can’t wait to go dress shopping with someone… I miss it. I wish I had done it longer just because it was fun. :(

I don’t think it matters what you call her. ;)

 
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Lydia

I know some people who are offended by matron of honor or even bridesmaid are instead using terms like “Bride’s Attendant” for bridesmaid, “Groom’s Attendant” for groomsman, Bride’s Attendant of Honor” for Maid/Matron of Honor and “Groom’s Attendant of Honor” for Best man. It’s a little more PC, but I think it sounds more modern and even more formal than maid/matron/man.

 
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MH

I’m in the same position with my Matron of Honor (who rocks). She is married, but since she is, in her words, “the maid-iest matron of honor that ever there was,” we’re just calling her the “MOH” - we pronounce it “Moe.”

 
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hd

My cousin who is 2 years younger than me and already married was my Maid/Matron of Honor. We both disliked the term “Matron” especially since I’m older than her! So we pretty much just said “Maid.” I actually don’t even remember what I put in the program.

I really don’t think many people pay attention anyway since the terminology is a little outdated and not commonly used in any other circumstances. “Maid of Honor” is what you hear commonly so I don’t think too many people would question you using the term even when married. But since the term “Matron of Honor” sounds more unusual, I can see how it would be much more noticable when used for someone who is single - the results that Laura’s friend got seem like they’d be pretty amusing! :)

 
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rzblna

If my MOH is married, I’m still going with “maid.” Matron sounds like she’s wearing a mumu, hair rollers, and a big ruler to hit you with.

 
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Melanie

“Slave of Honor” didn’t go over so well.

 
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Chrissie

What about just “Honor Attendant”?

 
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aoedorothee

i technically have 2 matrons of honor, but my best friend, more recently married, didn’t wanna be called matron, and she didn’t wanna be called maid (for fear that people would think she divorced already), so we came with Lady of Honor… hehe!

 
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Go Amie

Chrissie - HAHA!

 
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Jenny GoLightly

My mom was my “matron” of honor. I didn’t want to make her feel old, especially next to my bridesmaids, so I just called her “honor attendant”. Besides, matron is such an awful word.

 
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ms. tea

how about “woman of honor” or “honor attendant”?

 
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Rachel

I recently liked a wedding I went to where they did it like this. Bridesmaids were ‘team bride’ and the maid of honor was ‘the coach’ - it was fun and didn’t have that icky ‘matron’ feeling..

 


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