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Yesterday there was an airing of Glamour’s Wedding Dos and Don’ts on the Style network. Since Mr. Kiwi quickly commandeered the remote, I only saw a snippet of it, but I had already gathered some intelligence about what Glamour thinks is right and wrong.
Apparently, wearing a tiara is wrong, only to be considered for pageant winners and actual princesses. And you know, Star Jones. 
Although the models wore these hideous elaborate creations (much like the little princess pageant at your local county fair), I hardly think they should make such a sweeping generalization like that. Okay, okay, maybe it’s because I have one. Technically, it isn’t a “tiara” per se, and it’s not a crown, either. It could be a headband, too, you know. I’m rationalizing, I know.
Anyway, Glamour also mentioned not having an elaborate veil if your dress isn’t plain. A few people mentioned the dress being the main event, or in the case of an heirloom veil, the veil being the main event. Not that I’m planning on getting a lace-festooned veil to pair with my beading-encrusted, embroidered dress, but I figure, wear what you want to wear. Of course, I am borrowing an embroidered veil, so… grain of salt, ladies.
Matching bridesmaid dresses are a picture from the past, nowadays brides choose a dress, or a color (ahem, rust) and let the ’maids choose their own adventure. Then again, if you want all your ladies to wear matching turquoise Jim Hjelm tea-length dresses, photo album be damned!
My take on Do’s and Don’ts: who cares? It’s nice to see if what you’re doing is a faux pas (what? bridesmaids in crushed velvet is “out”?), but if you’ve always pictured your wedding a certain way, who cares what Glamour thinks?
How strictly do you follow Dos and Don’ts?
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Unless Glamour wants to pay for and coordinate my wedding, I say “meh” to their Dos & Dont’s. I’m not a celebrity so no magazines will be judging me harshly.
Haha Miss Kiwi, the only thing I was glad to see on the glamour dos and don’ts was “don’t try to be super tan on your wedding day”. Everything else I thought was a little “eh” (except for “Don’t get too wasted at your own wedding” flash to the photo of a bride slumped in a corner holding a bottle of wine….ouch)
When I saw the show, I realized that I was already following most of those Do’s and Don’t’s, so I guess I was happy to see that Glamour was confirming my own rules. But if they didn’t agree with my opinions, I’d definitely be like who-do-they-think-they-are? lol!
Those sound like some pretty silly rules. No tiaras? Whatever. There’s such a thing as a dated, over-the-top tiara, and also a pretty, modern tiara. How about just making sure your jewelry pieces all work together and work with your dress and leave it at that? Ugh.
Although jen those rules about not getting overly tanned or drunk for the wedding sound like good advice.
But anyway. Glamour has wedding advice? Isn’t that magazine for 18-year-olds? Or is that just when my overly conservative self outgrew it in favour of Oprah? Haha… don’t answer that.
I’m in total agreement with “L8Blmr”
I’m with the rest of the commenters…I agreed with a few, and disagreed with a few. (Of the do’s and don’ts, I mean…) I’m wearing a tiara, have a semi-elaborate veil I will wear with my relatively elaborate gown, and I certainly don’t plan on getting completely soused, or tanning in any way whatsoever.
To each their own, I think.
its your wedding why should you care what the do’s and don’ts are, they arent paying for your wedding, its whatever makes you happy and smile
I totally agree with you! I saw the exact same thing on TV and laughed at some of them! I am wearing a headband that is decorated with pearls and little flowers as well as a veil with pearls scattered through out. My maids are also all wearing the same dress in the same color. I made sure to pick one though that they could wear again- as well as the shoes and jewlery I bought them. Rules are meant to be broken…. right….. 
Not too concerned with a list of dos & don’ts. Presumably, if one is getting married, one is old enough to make one’s own style choices.
If you’re determined to be a Pretty Princess Sparklepony on your Big Day, go ahead; you’re the one who will have to look at the photos for the rest of your life. If you’re determined to make your six BFFs into identical Pretty Sparklepony Juniors, you’re the one who will reap the consequences whether they love it or hate it.
LOL — i love that AMK..
“pretty princess sparklepony”
Made me laugh on an otherwise crappy day.
I guess I’m “out” then, because I wore a tiara. And it was definitely a tiara, not a sparkly headband. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to wear one, but my sister said, “Hey, how many times in your life do you get the opportunity to wear a tiara? Live a little!” So I bought a gorgeous tiara from Orange Blossom Tiaras (I recommend them if you want something a little different, they even have an old-fashioned orange blossom headdress) and I loved it so much I bought matching smaller ones for my teen bridesmaids! So I had *three* don’ts. In your face, Glamour!
Anyway, it’s pretty silly. Obviously, there are bridal and wedding fashions. And it’s easy to say “don’t wear an elaborate dress and veil, it should be one or the other.” Generally, it’s true, but it’s hard to say unless you see the two together. And real style has always been about breaking the fashion “rules.”
everything will look dated in 10 years but it’ll be cool again in 100!
Right on, Cindy!
They should have a “Dos and Don’ts for Wedding Guests” as some people really need to learn the etiquette of being a guest…AHEM, my SIL who wore a fluffy white dress to MY wedding! Whateva!
As for the Glamour Do’s and Don’ts, I think I’m happy to see that my wedding broke the rules a bit! (But that still doesn’t mean guests can wear white!!!)
I’m so happy you blogged about this Miss Kiwi! I saw snippets of the same show when I was at my fiance’s the other day. I thought it might actually be slightly helpful, but after a minute or two the only thing running through my mind was “what the crap?!?!” Does Glamour take itself so seriously that it thinks it needs to be the guru that tells brides everywhere what to do for their own weddings? Enough people feel free to interfere in wedding planning, the last thing we need is another.
I say “pshaw!” to Glamour! Just be you! And if “you” is indeed what AMK so aptly titled a pretty princess sparklepony, you BE the pretty princess sparklepony girl. Be it and live it up. 
I too, saw this episode albeit in it’s entirety. I felt the entire thing contradicted itself. In one moment it was saying “simple is better” and in the next advocating wild. I feel the only wedding rule should be do what you want with a few etiquette type stipulations involved but even then many etiquette-esque things can be ignored. In the end it’s your day, no rule should dictate what you decide.
Glamour has over-stepped its small realm of expertise. Wedding symbolism in bridal wear implicates myriad religious, cultural, and traditional factors completely unrelated to the “glamour” (fleeting fashion trends) of a wedding.
For that reason, I believe an elaborate veil worn at a traditional/religious wedding is generally appropriate regardless of contemporary fashion whims, and a tiara worn at a wedding is going too far, unless you are actually royal. (My 2 cents!)
What’s wrong with bridesmaids in the same dresses, if the dress flatters them all? My girls are wearing floor length, black dresses - very classy and sophisticated, and they all love it. Since we’re having a black tie wedding, I figured a lot of the guests would show up in black dresses, so it will provide some unity if the bridesmaids stand out by looking similar.
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Mrs. Kiwi, Los Angeles
Age and Occupation in 06: 27, Bookkeeper
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, P.E. Teach/Coach @ private schools in LA
Engagement Date: March 31, 2006
Wedding Date: November 3, 2007
Venue: Radisson Hotel
About Me: I'm a bookkeeper who failed high school algebra. I'm currently living in Los Angeles, literally a street over from where I grew up with Mr. Kiwi, my honey of three years. We have a jumbo mini-dachshund (seriously, he's huuuuge), and we're planning an autumn themed wedding on a shoestring, paid for by ourselves. The wedding date is my late grandma's birthday, I needed her there somehow, and that seemed like the best way for us. I can't believe I'm a Bee! I couldn't be more proud!
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