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i’m getting married in three months and i’m already starting to question in the back of my mind if maybe i should have just taken a down payment for a house. i’m excited for the party and all, but a house is much more *real*.

Wedding was earlier this year and I’m already starting to regret taking too long to put together the photo album & scrapbook. Wedding burnout struck.

No, I don’t regret anything. I spent seven months planning, which I’m happy about–if it had been a year or more, I might have regretted the length! As Mrs Bee said, we might have done some things differently, knowing the things we learned during the planning process, but I don’t regret our choices, they were the best ones we knew to make at the time. I really loved my wedding, and I can’t think of anything I truly regret. Budget-wise, we kept our wedding close to our original budget of $10K, and I don’t regret spending that money at all. It was our once-in-a-lifetime wedding, it was worth it. And although it wasn’t cheap, I’m very glad we chose to honeymoon at the Sandals Grande on St Lucia, we had a near-perfect honeymoon. (It would have been perfect if my husband had succeeded in waterskiing. But, hey, we have many more vacations as a married couple coming up!)

Oh, what I would give for a house. I just had a tiff with my DH and we realize that between school loans, still paying for the wedding after all the gitft s have been received, and trying to move…it ain’t gonna happen. I would totally have paid more attention to how i was spending money and probably not have had a planner for the full engagement. I would have paid for her the month of…but who knows these things unless someone tells you AND you’re not too stubborn to listen.

It WAS a beautiful wedding, but we could have done with a lot less and it still would have been beautiful. Either way, it’s all done and we are just making it work like a married couple should. Hope this helps!

We didn’t spend a lot of money on our wedding…. but I did put in a lot of time with all those DIY projects. I don’t regret any of it, and there are some detaily things I might do differently if I had a chance (and seeing everyone’s cute ideas on weddingbee sure isn’t helping! )

nope - it was worth every penny and worth the wait! there were some things i would’ve done differently, but the money on those was negligible.

I would not have purchased a second wedding gown or a third for that matter and i wouldve UNDERestimated the final guest count for the caterer - so many ppl didnt show up!

1. Letting my mother in law plan everything, to the point where she overtook the whole thing, all the while making snide comments.
2. Not having a reception
3. Not having a DJ
4. Not having more attendants

Basically, I would change everything about my day. I was in college when I got married, so I really don’t think it was right for me to get married at that time. Had I been out of school and working and had more money of my own to put forth into the wedding, I would have had the wedding of my dreams. I probably wouldn’t have married my husband though, because my MIL and I would have tried to get in the way. The only reason why I let her is because she had the checkbook.

My advice to you: If you have ANY regrets….don’t do it. And….they don’t change once you say ‘I do’. Even if your relatives and closest friends say they will.

Good luck girls!

I’m so happy, yet envious that none of you have so many regrets as I do about my wedding. I came here looking for solidarity. But I suppose that it’s good that I didn’t find it.

The greatest part of my wedding day was that my DH and I got married. I love him and I love that we’re married. Our decision to get married was the best that we ever made, even three years later.

But I did not have the wedding of my dreams. I was a grad student in an intensive one year program the same year that we were planning our wedding. I made enough money to contribute to the bills; he was the primary earner and we barely made ends meet. We made the majority of our wedding decisions based on our limited budget, which meant compromising a lot of what I had always envisioned for my “dream wedding”, including venue, my dress, and our photographer.

We “honeymooned” with friends, but it was nothing near what we needed: a trip to paradise, just the two of us.

My in-laws made my life a living hell. I regret not having enough time so as to not trust them with any part of the responsibility of the planning.

My hair was awful, my husband and I were stressed out on our own wedding day, but everyone else had a good time. Our guests try to tell me that they had a great time and that we looked like we were having fun, but I see the majority of the photos and I cringe at the stressful expressions on our faces.

In the end, I’m happily married, and my husband and I, because we didn’t blow our savings account on our wedding, were able to buy a nice house less than a year after our wedding. To be honest, it astounds me when I read here about how much money y’all spend on your weddings.

In my opinion, I feel that the majority of the posts here are too focused on the details and not focused enough on the meaning of the event. Then again, I’ve been here in this fury of wedding planning and detail orientedness. It sure woulda’ been nice to know about this site when I was planning my wedding in 2004/2005.

In the end, we got married. Our marriage is great. We didn’t blow our life savings, but we did compromise a lot of what we wanted for a once in a lifetime rite of passage. My unofficial maid of honor, who is a blogger here, was the best maid of honor there ever has been (and I get to return the favor for her, eeee!)

My one piece of advice for brides-to-be: do not attempt to be the guest of honor and the event planner all in one day. It’s stressful and nearly impossible for you and your husband to enjoy yourself. If you don’t have the money to delegate to a wedding planner, delegate to a family friend or someone else trustworthy. It’s a difficult task to hand your wedding over to others, but it’s worth it to be able to enjoy yourself on our and your husband’s special day.

Happy nuptials!

My husband and I had an intimate wedding in Jamaica with just the two of us. We are on a budget and we thought that would be best. Overall, everything went well. However, my biggest regret is not having family there. Although, both my parents and my husband’s parents were ok with our wedding plans they now say they wish they could have been there. Well, at least they have the photos.

my hair turned out awful! I regret not spending more time on it, since it didn’t turn out right I should have just put it up, but since I had never planned on wearing it up I didn’t have the right pins or the time to do it. It was a bad hair day because I ended up procrastinating getting it colored, and then went to the salon only a week before my wedding. The colorist made a major mistake (bleaching it blonde when I just wanted her to color my grays to match the rest of my light brown hair). So she fixed it the next day, but one week was just not enough time for my hair to recover from a bleach job. It didn’t really bother me on the day of the wedding, I was having to much fun! But so far none of the pictures I’ve seen are good because my frizzy hair is too distracting and ugly!