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Linda, I printed on Stardream paper with no problem. I actually went out and bought a cheap $50-ish Canon Pixma photo printer and it works great! I was worried about the stardream paper smudging, however, I believe the fact that the printer is designed to print on glossy photo paper is the reason it comes out very well on the Stardream. The printer was a good investment!!

LS — I liked “What No One Tells The Bride” by Marg Stark. It’s a quick read, too!

LS - a friend gave me “The Most Important Year in a Woman’s Life / The Most Important Year in a Man’s Life” and I loved it. Half of the book is geared towards women and the other half towards men. It’s written by two couples, Bobbie and Robert Wolgemuth and Susan and Mark DeVries.

Linda–I used stardream as well, in my inkjet printer. We set up a little assembly line, where as each one came out of the printer we’d set it out to dry, then spray each one LIGHTLY with aerosol hairspray to seal the ink–no more smudging!

LS - I also recommend Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages, by Dr. Robin Smith. There’s an entire section with 275 questions to ask before you marry - we’ve been going through them during our engagement (a great way to kill time on an airplane, etc.) — and it’s definitely helped us prepare for married life.

I think it’s great you’re being realistic about the fact that post-wedding things aren’t going to be perfect — we’re all going to wake up the day after our weddings (or already have) with the same personalities, same hang-ups, same insecurities, same dreams, same (sometimes unrealistic!) expectations, and the same hopes we had before our weddings — that’s when things really get interesting!!

Hey Linda,

Our envelopes were printed on Stardream paper with our HP InkJet printer and they didn’t smudge a bit…not even ‘hot off the press’.

–Miss Corn

Hmmm…maybe this should be a Words of Wisdom question for new brides - something about the first year and how to deal with the realities of being married in the days/months/years after the wedding. I have been married a little over a month and the first time we bickered over something TOTALLY STUPID after the wedding I was so upset, which was ridiculous because we’d been living together for over a year. It was silly to think we’d never argue again just because we were married, but you get these little notions in your head that somehow being married will make everything perfect and solve every problem, cure every personality fault and make you totally immune to issues.

OK, that’s enough rambling! I don’t know anything about Stardream paper, so I’ll stop here.

Michelle: One way to ease this is to have a ‘parents’ dance - take the pressure off bride/dad, groom/mom by having you both dance with your parents, then both dance with his dad/stepmom - that way it’s more about the families than the “missing parent.”

Also, one tiny word of caution, while it is your and your FI’s day, and he should never forget his mom, I’d just do a gutcheck on your decisions in how you choose to honour his mom, that your actions don’t unintentionally disrespect his stepmom and dad’s marriage.

LS: I can recommend “7 Habits of a Healthy Marriage” - some common sense advice on how to treat eachother when things are tough, and what to do if you naturally gravitate toward destructive behaviour in a crisis.

Jessi- Ninewest has a pair called “sweetheart” that are just over 2 inches. Target has a cute pair of peeptoes that are 3 1/4, but are really comfortable and only $20. There is also this pair by Nina from zappos that are really cute http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/26687508/c/100459.html

Michelle:

Its absolutely normal to have a father/daughter dance and not a mother/son dance - in fact the idea of a mother/son dance is pretty new!

But if your fi wants to dance, then he should pick whoever he wants.

I would warn you though, if that side of the family is very emotional then it may be pretty hard on them so you might want to take that into consideration. My cousin just got married a year after his mom died and during the tribute things, my aunts (the mom’s sisters) were running to the bathroom in tears.

That doesn’t mean your fi shouldn’t do a tribute if he feels it is important to him though.