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We were introduced by first names only, since I’m not changing my name (out of laziness, not feminism), but that means anyone we didn’t explicitly tell I’m keeping my name has assumed we’re now Dr. and Mrs. X…and some have made checks out to that name. Oops.

i’m also stuck with this problem… I don’t actually WANT to hyphenate my name (it will be dreadfully long), but my FI last name just does not work with my first name. Someone suggested just saying something like… “for the first time, Mr and Mrs hisfirstname hislastname” but I don’t know about that either… hmm. Maybe just doing the first names will be best.

I didn’t change my name–I might have, but my husband’s last name is, although a common one, it is, uh, sometimes used as a word for a sexual organ. (You can probably guess what it is.) I did say that I might change it if we have a child, as I think it’s nice for a family to all have the same name. Anyway, we did receive a bunch of checks made out to Mrs and Mrs Hislastname, even from my side of the family. Thing is: they cashed just fine. I signed them as Firstname Hislastname and that was it.

BTW, we didn’t want an introduction at all, as part of our “less like a wedding, more like a party” vibe, but the banquet manager talked us into it. We were introduced with our first names.

Maybe you can just be introduced by your first names, and have a note in the program saying something like “The couple’s names after marriage will be X and Y”. I think more people might take notice if it’s in written form.

I agree with the above comments that suggested just being introduced by His First Name, Your First Name. I.E. “I present to you, for the first time as Husband and Wife, John and Jane!” Everyone knows you have a last name, they don’t need to hear it!
I don’t think I want to be introduced by titles either, because my fiance will be Dr. by then, but I’ll still have a few months left until I’m Dr. I know it’s silly, but I don’t want to be stuck as Mrs. while he gets to be Dr.!

i like the idea of presenting with only first names. that way, you don’t have to deal with the issue at all. as a permanent solution, i like what you’ve decided upon. good call!

We are going to be introduced by FI’s and my first names. I’m not taking his last name

My name is Julia and if I take his last name it will be similar to but not as bad as Julia Goolia. In fact, my friends have taken to calling me Julia Goolia b/c of the similarity. Since it’s only for the day I’ll be happy to go by Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast on our wedding day. Much less confusing that way and it will make him happy.

I’m hyphenating but my children will have his name only. Is anyone else doing this? I’m thinking about giving them my last name as a middle name but I’ve got time to decide.

err that was supposed to be Melissa Jo Namethatrhymes

Yes! I’m Ms. MyLastName-HisLastName. I was introduced that way at the wedding since I don’t know how else my friends and family would know without me correcting them all the time. The only problem I’ve had was when signing my name….it’s pretty easy to leave HisLastName off without realizing it!