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When you walk down the aisle, you should be happy! I think your dress is fine although you look very unhappy in the pictures. Most dresses take a minimum 6 months to arrive and trends change each season so by the time your dress arrives, there’ll always be something newer and trendier, but if it’ll make you feel better, maybe you should start looking for another dress.
Andria, you’re dress is amazingly flattering!! Sometimes I get a weird feeling that my dress isn’t “the one” but it passes. Of course, my dress isn’t nearly as nice as yours.
I had the same feeling of regret when a new season of dresses came in - beautiful blue satin dresses than made the brown ones my bridesmaids picked out seem boring. I think you’re always a little out of date.
But again - beautiful dress!
KP: Try angelsaccents.com ! ! !
My flowers were delivered this week and they are AMAZING! Angel is wonderful to work with.
Andria -What?!? Outdated? NO! You look fabulous and the dress fits like it was made for you. Don’t worry about it. Many, many, many ladies never the “the dress” feeling or have doubts - don’t feel like that is just you. But, for an opinion, I wish my dress looked that good.
Andria - beautiful dress! Oh my goodness, I love it. But I agree with hm, if you don’t love it, keep looking.
AB - I say, see if they give you a wedding gift. If they do, then send her a gift. Doesn’t have to be anything pricey.
Elizabeth, I would just talk to your friend to see precisely what her post-wedding timeline is like.
AB, etiquette on this seems mixed on whether you are supposed to send a gift or not. I suggest that you send a card with your well wishes instead of a gift.
Andria, your dress looks fabulous on you! The back looks very unusual (in a great way!) to me, and the dropped waist is very “now.” Your guests have not been spending hours looking at various wedding dresses and trying them on.
Elizabeth, I would ask your friend how she feels about it, and give her the opportunity to back out without any guilt if that is what she wants. The last thing you want to do is assume that she will be overwhelmed, and let her go, only for her to feel slighted that you “kicked her out.”
AB - I would send a small gift, like a picture frame or something. I hate those kinds of invites.
Andria - I see nothing outdated in that dress, and I def. look at some dresses and they do seem outdated. I know you are just looking for confirmation, but pick the dress you love, and don’t worry about what other people will think.
Jenn - not sure if you are jewish, but some people give a small art piece from the same design as their ketubah. I am also thinking of embroidered hankies and their parent albums. I’m not sure what you think would “break the bank,” but we will probably slurge on a weekend away for my parents.
Donna - did you try google? I found these right away: http://cgi.ebay.ca/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=150147340478
Andria… You look absolutely stunning and that dress is to DIE for! Don’t worry about getting “the dress” feeling. It does not look outdated at ALL! and besides, if it never comes, remember, it is just a dress… it really is all about the man you are marrying!
Miss Emerald, I’d call up Pearl’s Place. They are in NOLA and I’m sure they’d know a great person for your BM to work with.
AB — I’m in your boat. I received and invite to my FI’s cousin shower that lives 2000 miles away from us, that I never met. I felt like she just sent me one for the gift. Part of me says no to the gift but then again, I know I shouldn’t be mean. The jury is still out for me… I’d say send a nice card and at the most, a small gift card too.
AB - maybe it’s just me, but I would guess they only invited you so they would get a gift from you. I’d be inclined to send a nice card wishing them your congratulations but sending your regrets that you can’t attend. If I were feeling particularly generous that day I might get them a gift in the $15 - $25 price range. Picture frame was a good suggestion, or maybe some unusual kitchen utensils or something.
Andria - I don’t think your dress is outdated, but rather classic, which is a good thing. I think outdated can only really happen if you get a trendy type of dress with some detail that can easily be pinned to a particular year. I don’t see that in your dress at all. I also agree with the other commenters that it fits you like a glove and you look beautiful! I just hope you feel beautiful and happy in it, that is the most important thing.
Donna - if you can find lapel pins of them, you can get cufflink parts at a craft store and bust out the superglue. If that doesn’t work…we got some really nice 8-bit space invader cufflinks from etsy.com.
Actually, the more I think about it, the more I think you ought to tell your story to Hasbro and see if they’ll hook you up with something. This may be the kind of thing that would make a public relations drone’s day.
Andria - lovely dress like everyone has already said. I can’t say I know what the *the dress* feeling feels like, but my dress at least doesn’t give me the *this is not the dress* feeling! If you’re worried about it being outdated (though you’d be hardpressed to find three guests who would know what that means) just take comfort in the fact that in twenty years it’ll be outdated no matter what! Everything that was new once gets outdated, but doesn’t mean it’s any less lovely. It’s the reason you start to see trends of yesteryear pop back up again.
AB - you are not obligated to do anything, but a nice note would at least give the impression that you cared. Even if you did scrounge up the money and the time to go, would you know anyone there and have a good time? You can’t very well be happy for someone while being miserable yourself.
Jenn - we ordered greetings card from Shutterfly with one of our engagement pictures as the front. We are writing each set of parents a long note (we got the 5×7 size) saying thanks for who we are, thanks for what they’ve done, and then we are telling them what we admire about their marriage and hope to bring into ours. It’s very personal and thoughtful without breaking the bank. We are toying with the idea of also getting them gift cards (very specific for each couple) to “further enhance and celebrate” their relationship.
Elizabeth - talk to your friend. See if she would want to come back. She’d be coming for the wedding anyway if she’s a friend, wouldn’t she? If she can’t make it, ask her to help you find a replacement.
KP-I got my silk flowers from Micheal’s and Hobby Lobby (whoever had the best sale at the time!). You can check them out on my page, just click my name. We got an incredible amount of flowers for $120, total. I had a cousin of one of my bridesmaids arrange them (she used to work in a flower shop), but I’m confident you could do the work yourself and achieve equal success. Best of luck!
Miss Emerald: Start with Maria in Slidell, LA. She does veils but probably knows seamstresses. Maria’s at defcon55@bellsouth.net.
Linda, that is a great suggestion!
Andria: gorgeous dress. Love it. Looks fabulous on you!
andria, i love the dress! i esp love the assymetrical detail on the lower body! it’s very unique.
i love my dress too, i’m just not in love with it. i think it’s okay. my dress and i will get along fine and so will you. be happy girlie!
Andria - Like aoedorothee, I love my dress but am not IN LOVE with it–I didn’t cry when I put it on or anything so if you were waiting for that feeling, I think it’s totally okay NOT to have it. I think your dress is very stunning and unique–not dated. Asymmetrical is so flattering, and you have the drop waist/mermaid skirt to really modernize it.
But, you need to feel gorgeous on the wedding day. If listening to a bunch of internet strangers helps, great. If not, I would sell it on eBay and find another. You really have nothing to worry about in my opinion, though! 
I need help/thoughts on how to tell our guests that gifts are not expected. My fiance and I are so happy that nearly everyone is able to come to our wedding - over half of our guests are flying across the country for the weekend. We were told by people that we would have to have some sort of a registry so we did create a modest one for people who really wanted to give a gift. However, we’ve been trying to tell folks that their presence at our wedding is a gift to us and that we aren’t expecting gifts. It all feels so contradictory (we have this registry for those who want to give a gift yet we are saying something else). Has anyone had to deal with this? How do you get your message across graciously?
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