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jb, I have the Pronovias America and it looks very similiar to that dress that you posted. I got a 3 pt french bustle. If you post your e-mail address, I can send you a picture or 2 of my dress bustled up.
Throw away those cards that the stores give you! The reason they make those cards is that they want to make $$$$! The stores don’t care about etiquette! If people want to know where you are registered, then they will ask you or ask your friends/family. It’s not your responsibility, nor your place, to “spread the word.”
Springbride - Stores include the cards because it’s basically cheap advertising. If people specifically ask you where you are registered you can tell them then, also you should tell your immediate family and your MoH because people might ask them.
i know when i’m going to a wedding, i look on theknot.com and weddingchannel.com, which have have features allowing you to search for a couple across a bunch of the really common registries (they have some of the same stores and some different, so i do both). i also check the couple’s website, if they have one. if i still didn’t have it, i would contact other people i knew were going.
moral of the story, people know registries exist and will find yours if you have one. sending the registry cards makes you look kind of rude. if you’re concerned, make a webpage (you can also put other info on here that people might find helpful) or mention it to your mom and the people hosting your shower.
Springbride, I agree that you should not send out the provided registry cards with your invites, but I understand that it could be difficult to have word of mouth be the only method of communication.
My fiance and I made a little insert that we included with our invites that had a map of the location, detailed dinner options (so people would know what they’d be getting if they chose “beef” or “fish” or the like), and our email address if they had any questions. We also included the phrase, “for more information, please visit our website at http://www.blahblahblah.com” - which has our registry listed along with pictures, stories of how we met, et cetera.
So far, the response has been really positive! Our friends and family keep emailing to say they love the website, and I think it was a relatively subtle way to get our registry information across. Hope this helps, and have a happy wedding!
i will be relocating across the country post wedding so i want to keep my registry “lite” and also want to encourage ppl to give me cash just so i don’t have to ship a lot of items cross country. What’s the best way to communicate this? I have a wedding website so my thinking was to mention that we were moving cross country in the registry section… does anyone have any other suggestions? THANKS!
Stores are an extremely biased “authoridy” on the proper and polite ways when it comes to registries. The purpose of a store is to sell things and if they can do so at the expense of making innocent people like yourself look greedy, they’ll try and trick you.
I’m glad you’ve read up and are concerned enough to know it’s not the right way to do things. You’re definitely on your way towards being remembered as a graceful and gracious bride and not a greedy one.
So don’t let them worry you, guests know weddings are a gift giving occasion and want to give you something to mark this incredible occasion. I promise you won’t end up gift-less if you don’t wave registry information in everyone’s face.
As it’s been happening long before someone in marketing thought up those little inserts - guests will contact you or your family to find out where/if you are registered and what you would like (or, like me, they’ll simply use google).
Good luck and congrats!
Thank you so much for your help ladies!
munchiee — not sure what jurisdiction you are in, but perhaps there is an option to pay more and have the application not public? The legislature might have made this option available because of privacy concerns, especially if it’s somewhere that a lot of celebrities or politicians live? Would ask the courthouse staff directly; they are usually really helpful.
jb - I am always a fan of the traditional bustle, but for that dress, I think the French bustle would look best.
New Question: Does anyone have any wedding day timelines that they want to share. My ceremony and reception are at the same place and we have it for 5 hours total. I’m not sure what order things go in (i.e. dances, cake, garter, toasts, ect.) and how far apart things should be. I feel like everything is going to be crammed together. Any templates or advice on how you determined the timeline would be appreciated. Also, how far in advance do you think we should finish pictures before the ceremony (just with family and BMs…we are not seeing each other before)? I don’t want guests or my fiance to see us before the ceremony.TIA!
I work in a store that sees a good amount of registry traffic. We have those cards, but I never give them out unless asked. In a year, only one couple has asked, and they wanted 200 of the little buggers.
munchiee — the application was filled out entirely by our town clerk, and took half an hour, only because we know her and she chatted a lot! I wouldn’t say doing it online would save you much time…
springbride– my moh gave out registry info in my shower invite, friends & family knew of our “the knot” website, and anyone else figured it out on their own by asking family/friends or looking at stores. As of last Saturday, which was 1 week before our wedding (big day’s tomorrow!) all 3 of our registries were wiped out.
Amy– I don’t know of anyway to tactfully tell people you want cash. you can not make a registry, but people would probably buy you things you don’t want then. I received a shower invite for someone I don’t even know AND they asked for just gift cards b/c of moving and I thought it was pretty tacky. Not to mention I was a bit put off because I don’t know the girl…
People probably won’t pick up on the fact that you want cash if you just write that you are moving though…I don’t think people are that thoughtful — we sent all wedding correspondence from our apartment, which is in a different state than the wedding (and 7 hrs away)… yet we received only a whopping 2 gifts at our apartment before the wedding…. out of 120 people coming… Looks like we won’t be bringing all our wedding gifts home in one trip!
springbride: I also think it’s in bad taste to include registry information with the invite but I have one bit of advice. I included a little map in my wedding invitation and the backside of the map read: For more information, including detailed maps and accomodation information go to our website at http://www.blahblah.com. Obviously, that’s not our website, but the real site had our registry info on it. It was a subtle way to have our guests find out where to shop.
oops, i just realized that i responded with pretty much the exact same thing as Stephanie. Weird. Sorry!
Springbride-Those litttle cards are for the shower invitations. Its ok to give registry information in those. Also, a wedding website is a great place to let people know where you are registered and there is always word of mouth.
Hi my venue will only let me use artifical rose petals so I was wondering if anyone has purchased them online and can recommend a place to purchase them. I would like them to be affordable but still look as real as possible.
I had a question about transportation. I have a lot of family from out of town and I will be needing to get a charter bus. Does anyone have any recommendations for minibus/charter bus companies in New York City/Queens/Long Island? That would be much appreciated!
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