Wedding Blog

Ah yes… maybe with the engagement story? I have to warn this is a VERY loooooooong entry, so brace yourselves for some eye sore reading:

The proposal. Mind you, I was clueless up until it was happening.

Several months before our Xmas Eve anniversary, I had mentioned to Mr. Cherry Blossom that we should make a “big deal” out of our upcoming 5 year anniversary by going to a nice dinner at Gary Danko. We agreed on a dollar limit that we could spend on each other. He chose to gift me a weekend getaway to celebrate, which he told me early on. I was stuck til the last minute about what to get him hence my sh*tty gift as you’ll learn.

Two months minus two days to the date we planned to celebrate, I called Gary Danko to make reservations. Because I called two days later than the exact two month date, I had either a 6 pm or 9 pm dinner. I called Mr. Cherry Blossom for his opinion and was pleasantly surprised - I am usually the one that takes care of planning, ie making reservations, planning trips, so you can imagine my surprise at how sweet and thoughtful he was to take the initiative. He beat me by making the reservation exactly on the two month date at a great time AND had already made reservations for our little get away. He would keep the location secret not just from me, but from everyone else. You’d be amazed that a person as curious as me never once tried to pry or dig to find out where we were going, so you can imagine the excitement that surrounded the “You don’t know where you’re going … how romantic … oh my gosh … you’re so going to get engaged!” Me: “Yeah I don’t think so, he’s sOOOOOOOOOOO not ready and he’s made that really clear.”

Fast forward to the day of our celebrations. It was a casual day. We had dim sum with his friend and we went to watch movies with two of his boys. I gave him his Xmas/Anniversary gift (which was supposed to be the first part of his gift) which was measly compared to what he got me.

We had an fantabulistic dinner at Gary Danko. The suspense was killing me slowly so during dinner I tried to get clues from him about my Xmas gift. Because we had agreed on a $200 limit, I guessed Nintendo DS and random junk. He gave me a clue “What I got you, I wanted for myself.” Um ok. WTH does that mean? The things he said during dinner and other clues he gave me were so general and almost seemed to hint “that something.” He jokes around with me a lot and sometimes I don’t know when to take him seriously, so I knew not to think too much into what he was saying. And I didn’t want to either because (1) I didn’t want to get my hopes up (2) I knew he wasn’t ready.

After dinner, he told me we had a 1.5 hr drive to the secret getaway and he hadn’t packed - are you kidding me?! Oh wells, luckily he lived nearby and we were in no rush, so we went back to his place and I waited for him to pack. I didn’t think much of it, so he later told me he was shocked I didn’t pay attention to what he packed. He’s normally a really light packer, and considering it was only a one-nighter anyways, I didn’t question said empty looking backpack, which I later learned only carried only a pair of jeans and nothing else.

I am paranoid of needing the restroom during “long” drives, so I ran into the bathroom to weewee before took off on our 1.5 hour long drive. When I came out, Mr. Cherry Blossom had my Xmas present wrapped in a little box sitting on the table. I was anxious and extremely excited to open it since the suspense had been gnawing at my curiosity. I thought I was so clever, I screamed “It’s a watch !!!! … to match the one I got you!” And when I ripped open the wrapping, it was indeed a watch …. box. Inside the box and underneath more wrapping was a tiny red ring box.

I looked up at him blankly and said “You know it’s not funny if you make me think what I think it is.” Slowly but surely I cracked open the lid, and inside were a pair of amazing diamond earrings. I was so excited, I wanted to put them on immediately to show him how much I loved them and appreciated that he picked out such an awesome gift! I can’t say for a split second I wasn’t disppointed but I knew not to expect anything. He insisted I just put them away and put them on next time since I as already wearing jewelry anyway.

We got into the car, he started up his engine and started wondering if he’d forgotten anything. We started naming things and then he remembered, “Crap! My glasses.” So he ran back in to get them while I waited in the car with the engine running. He called in a quick few moments later and told me that he ran up to tell his mom he was leaving and she asked for his help with something, so it’d be another 5 to 10 mins or so. Honestly while he was inside helping his mom, I was giving myself a pep talk. I was thinking about how amazing the earrings were and that I shouldn’t be disappointed that it wasn’t what the box made it out to be. I let it go and just patiently waited for him.

A little while later, he hopped back in the car minus the glasses, so I reminded him. He then turned off the engine and said with a little smirk on his face, “Oh, crap! Why don’t you come in with me? I’ll just give you your second gift.” Me *stunned, shocked, speechless*: “Second gift?! Um, okay.” We walked over to the entrance of his place and he was just looking at me and not opening the door. Me: “Are we staying here?!?!?!?! Is this the ‘romantic’ getaway?” He told me no but still had that weird smirk on his face and he wouldn’t open the door either. Really, he was starting to creep me out, he was just so weird during those few moments. Me: “Um, you’re starting to scare me. Why aren’t you opening the door?” Then he opened up the door to a room filled with tons of candles and rose petals. I was floored… still oblivious. I was just thinking how sweet he was to make all this effort to make our 5 year anniversary a “big deal.”

He sat me down on the couch and told me that my next gift was big. So big I assume, that he had to move out the coffee table to make room and told me to shut my eyes as he went in his room to get it. I closed my eyes and extended my arms wide in mid air ready to receive this Huge Gift. He was taking a while and was really making me nervous with my eyes closed while chanting “I’m scared, can you hurry up?” I heard him shuffling around and make his way out, next thing I know, he hopped in my lap and said “It’s me!” Muahahahah, it was too cute! I didn’t quite know how to respond, so I was like “oh awwwwwwww, yay! Uh, THANKS!” and hugged my monkee boy.

He then looked at me and said, “I wrote you something….Um…let me see if I remember it….. “ (Really, you would think I would have figured it out by then but, I was just that clueless. He proceeds to say the following: “From the first day I met you (in my head, I’m saying “LISTEN TO THE MAN!”) ….. blah blah blah blah blah blah.” I was leaning on his shoulder as he was saying all these sweet things that I couldn’t hear a word of, and I couldn’t concentrate hard enough to listen anyway. The next thing I know when I turn around, he’s on one knee, with a ring in his hand, and I hear him muster “Will you marry me?”

I never imagined myself to react the way I did. But I freaked out like there was no tomorrow. I was screaming “Oh my gawd! Are you serious? Don’t mess with me. It’s not funny if you’re messing me. Oh my gawd. Oh my gawd! Oh my gawd!” And I’m crying and screaming. I really blew the moment for him bc I was screaming “Oh my gawd” so much! I remember him putting the ring on my finger and I quickly moved another ring on the same hand over to my right hand. He was laughing saying “man you moved that over fast.” I was death gripping his hand still in disbelief and saying “Oh my gawd.” We stood up to hug and I said “Can you ask me again? I don’t remember saying yes.” Haha. He said “Why else do you think I put the ring on your finger?” He had to ask me a total of 3 times before I even remember saying yes once.

There were a lot of little mishaps that could have given me clues leading up to this momentous occasion, but I never caught wind of it. He had bought the ring with my mom and aunt and had the ring * ohmygawd amazing – I am truly spoiled* for several months prior to the engagement. The earrings he got me were a decoy to throw me off, borrowed from his little sister. There was an incident which involved someone giving the rose petals and candles directly to me that were meant for Mr. CB…. which almost spoiled his plans but luckily, I didn’t think much of it. He purposely had me to go into his place and watch him pack so that I would see that the rose petals and candles that were mistakenly handed to me were not being put to use (I had been wondering how he might use it during our getaway to decorate the room beforehand if in fact it was that far away). His family and a few of his friends knew he had the ring. He spent a great deal of time and effort to make this moment extremely memorable and special for me, and for that I am grateful and extremely lucky. He went above and beyond anything I could have imagined!