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So all of our RSVP’s are finally here! We invited 72 people to the wedding (including ourselves) and our grand total is…..dum da da dum da dum
52!
That’s about 72% of the people we invited joining us. At first I was a little disappointed because a lot of the declines were from Mr. Onion’s family. I felt bad, more for him than for myself, that so few of them have made an effort to join us. But then I started thinking about all the people who WERE coming and I forgot all about being sad and started to get very excited. As Miss Corn pointed out this morning (we’re date twins), 22 day to go! Hard to believe this 17 month engagement period is almost over. I am very excited to be Mr. & Mrs. Onion and start our married lives together.
Now the hard part is figuring out who will attend the rehearsal dinner (still need to send invitations for that out). We waited to see who was coming to the wedding first before we sent invitations to the party the night before.
Our rehearsal dinner is being held at one of the best restaurants in Burlington — Taste of Burlington. It’s right on the water (Lake Champlain) and the owner/head chef is so talented and kind. He is not only a great chef, he’s a great painter and his artwork is displayed in the restaurant. It looks like we’ll have almost as many people at the rehearsal dinner as the wedding the next night. Two days of fun with the people we love the most — what could be bad?
My mother decided that she didn’t care what it cost — if they were there the night before, they would be invited! Mr. Onion’s parents are helping us with the cost of the dinner but it won’t pay for everything as we’ll be at least 30 people for dinner the night before.
For those of you having an wedding with many (or all in our case) out of town guests, are you inviting everyone who will be there to your rehearsal or welcome dinner the night before or just the wedding party? Are you paying for your own rehearsal dinner or is someone in your family helping?
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Our wedding is a destination wedding for 95% of our guests, and we will have approximately 40 guests at the wedding. We are paying for the rehersal dinner ourselves, and will invite everyone who is invited to the wedding.
All of our guests are out of town, and since we’re paying for everything ourselves, we’re only inviting the wedding party, grandparents, siblings, etc. But, I think that if you can afford it, it’s a wonderful gesture to invite OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner!
we’re paying for the rehearsal dinner. FI wants to invite only the wedding party and those with roles in the wedding (just those people will be around 40 anyway. include their immediate families, and we’re lookin at 60). i want to extend the invitation to anyone who’s there that night… i don’t think i’ll win the battle on this one though.
I would like to invite all of our OOT guests - there are quite a few, but not as many as some of you are mentioning. My FMIL is paying though so we don’t have say. I’m sure we could’ve chipped in to cover the other people, but then we would have had to find a different location to accommodate everyone. If you can do it, I certainly think that guests would appreciate it.
About 60 of our 87 guests are from out of town, and both sets of parents thought it was important for us to have a RD that included anyone who might be traveling and making a weekend out of it. We originally wanted to have a smaller and more intimate RD, but it’s shaping up to be quite wonderful. We have a small BYOB in the city booked, and because of the size of our party, were able to rent out the entire restaurant. It was really important for all three couples (bride’s parents, groom’s parents and us) to split everything three ways, so we’re kinda all paying for everything. $$$$ oooh la la. Actually not too bad!
Woot woot, thanks for the props, date twin 
Ahem…that would be 21 days away (and now that it is late at night, I would even venture to throw the number 20 out there!!)
Anywho, as well as being date twins, we are destination wedding twins. Although, some of our guests are driving down from Boston for the wedding, they really are all from no less than 90 minutes away. Therefore, they were all invited to the rehearsal party…of course we are also having a more intimate rehearsal dinner…because Mr Corn didn’t want a big party. I’ll pause while you try and figure that one out… no worries if you can’t, I still can’t either :).
Fortunately, his parents are paying for most of both of the rehearsal events.
When Mr. Petunia and I thought we were paying for the rehearsal dinner ourselves, we only planned on inviting immediate family and bridal party members: it’s not that we didn’t want OOT guests there, but that we wouldn’t have been able to afford it (even if it were 10-20 more people — we are already pretty stretched!).
Thankfully, my FMIL and her husband have offered to pay for the meal and insist that we invite all of our OOT guests, too, so I guess I have to say I’m a lucky future daughter-in-law!
We’re having a destination wedding of about 50 people so all of our guests are from OOT. I would like to extend an invitation to all our guests to attend the “Welcome Dinner”. I’ll see what we can work out with the restaurant.
My FMIL and FFIL are paying for it. It’s going to be like a mini wedding b/c we’re having 60 people, OTT and bridal party and close family, at a nice restaurant. She’s ordered flowers and a harpist player for background music. I’m lucky she’s handling it all.
Rehearsal dinners have gotten out of town - so much so that an actual “reheasal” is rare. The requisite guests (and only persons who should expect to attend) are members of the wedding party (with significant others) and immediate family (inlcuding grandparents, maybe aaunts/uncles if you’re close nbut don’t get drawn into a slippery slope of inviting the entire extended family!). The rest of the guests will meet for dinner after the wedding. Seriously, you’ll spend enough - save yourself some expense.
As a destination wedding, we are inviting all who are coming to the wedding to the rehearsal dinner - about 50. As people are going through great expense to be with us - we are holding a rehearsal dinner as well as a brunch. To each her own! I think you should do what makes you comfortable.
I think about 70% of our guests are from out of town, and some as far away as England, when the wedding is in Los Angeles. We’re definitely inviting all the OOT people, which is going to end up being a big party. My future in-laws have offered to pay for whatever we want, and we’ve decided on a casual buffet dinner at a local mexican restaurant. Mostly we just wanted to have everyone together for something low-key and the restaurant has a nice private banquet room so I think it will be ideal (if huge!).
We invited every guest who was invited to the wedding and it was part of our overall wedding budget. Our wedding budget comprised of monies from my parents, my in-laws and me and my husband. We all chipped in and that way we all paid for everything and no one set of parents could control one aspect of the wedding weekend. It worked out perfectly for us.
We’ll have about 130 OOT guests — the entire guest list — and can’t afford to invite them all to the rehersal dinner so are limiting it to wedding party/immediate family. However, after the rehersal dinner we hope to host an informal “welcome reception” at a local pub for a few hours (maybe 8 pm - 11 pm) so we can greet everyone and welcome them to town.
We paid. His family were not involved.
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Miss Onion, NYC/Burlington, VT
Age and Occupation: 27, PR & Marketing and Jazz Singer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Data Analyst
Engagement Date: April 2, 2006
Wedding Date: September 2007
Blogging Since: July 11, 2007
Venue: Restaurant in Burlington
About Me: I didn't think I'd be "that girl," but I am having so much fun planning our wedding (mostly by myself). I'm a PR and Marketing Director for a major jazz festival and camp by day, and by night, a romantic jazz singer and bride-to-be! I hope all my research can help other brides in their planning.
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