It’s inevitable that Mr. Eggplant and I will disagree during the course of our marriage. Though arguments are unavoidable, it’s important to have a plan for resolving conflicts. Since we’re both rational people who appreciate objective advice, we decided that there’s only one fitting way to solve a conflict: mass consensus! And what easier way to solicit opinions than Yahoo Answers? We’ll pose our debate and wait for the replies!
Mr. Eggplant was half joking when he suggested Yahoo Answers as a plan to resolve our differences, but I actually think that his idea will help diffuse potentially heated situations:
On a serious note, arguments are a reality of marriage and it is important to have a plan for diffusing them. How have you and your significant other worked together to resolve conflicts?
Easy, we argue until he admits that he’s wrong!!! j/k…………we talk it out like adults. Luckily, we’re both fairly open and open-minded. When we’ve reached a solution/compromise, one of us will say something silly or give the other a bear hug to ease the tension.
We realized that 99% of our disagreements boil down to the same couple of fundamental values we hate to sacrifice, and this really helps us fast-forward through the middle to get to what we are REALLY struggling with.
hahaha
I used to take polls whenever my fi and I disagreed, either through my blog or just asking random college students at his work. Drove my fi nuts. 
But it was never anything important, just random stuff.
Haha this is running simultaneously with one of my favorite webcomics, http://www.mypoorlydrawnlife.com. She asks her readers to email her with who they side with - her or her husband - over their interior decorating arguments.
Mrs. Eggplant, San Francisco
Age and Occupation: 28, Human Resources
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Associate Marketing Manager
Engagement Date: January 19, 2007
Wedding Date: October 20, 2007
Blogging Since: May 31, 2007
Venue: Ceremony at a cement and stained glass cathedral and reception at a boutique hotel ballroom
About Me: I'm a shopping junkie who lives to discover great deals and a craft addict that loves to scrapbook and knit. My profile picture was taken on the day I got engaged which is why my smile is so huge!
aughhh, i hate this part of relationships… but this is also one of the reasons why i love my htb so much. i love how we fight. i really do. i’m a different fighter when i fight with him. i actually do listen to his point of view and we both seem to want to resolve the issue, not just “win” or be the right one. and that’s a totally tough one on me cuz i’m so very stubborn. and we definitely both have pride issues. i think it totally helps that when we argue, we make it a point to discuss it while touching each other. just that light touch on the arm or hand that says, hey, i still love you. i may not agree and/or am mad at you, but i still love you no matter what. it seems to diffuse the tension or anger that may be there.