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August 23rd, 2007 @ 3:47 pm by Beehive

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  1. Jenny K is making 10 flower centerpieces for a bridal shower, and she needs simple, fast, and stunning ideas.  She likes the submerged flowers, but don’t they float?  She doesn’t want to add stones to the bottom of the vase.
  2. dots wants to know what an appropriate corkage fee is?  She’s not bringing alcohol to the reception, but her venue wants to charge $6.50 - $9.50 pp on top of the 15% gratuity on the sale of alcohol.
  3. notKristen is having a caricature artist sketch guests at her Art Gallery reception in lieu of favors.  Do you have any ideas about the best way for him to get to everyone without having people wait in line?  She doesn’t want to distract from the reception but wants to make sure everyone who wants one gets one.
  4. angela found her perfect dress but it’s 2x her max budget and she can’t find it for less anywhere. Would she be kicked out of the boutique if she asked them to refer her to past brides who have purchased the dress to see if they’d be interested in selling?  She’s desperate!
  5. May ‘08 bride is having a “surprise” bridal shower in Monterey, CA.  Any suggestions for affordable venues?
  6. Crimsonsky is making her veil with her mom.  They bought the tulle but need strung sequins to sew onto the edging.  Know where to look?  Joanns and Michaels didn’t turn up anything.
  7. starkid is getting married at the end of September, but she’s been suffering from wisdom teethache.  Should she get them pulled?  Would the swollen gums go away in time?

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cubangirl

Dots- that is the craziest thing i’ve heard of site-related; if you are not providing alcohol, you should pay for a bartender and the alcohol and that’s it

Jenny K- what about a fishbowl vase with three large roses (or other flower) sticking out in three different directions? or (not as fancy but my current favorite) a dozen snapdragons in a short, square vase? or four large roses heads submerge in a short, square vase (so that the fill the bottom and the vase goes just a little higher than the tops of the flowers)

Andria– I agree that there must be something else he was upset about; maybe he secretly thinks you don’t like his name or are backing out on your agreement somehow. or maybe he was just upset about something else that day and couldn’t handle you changing something you had agreed on. hopefully he’ll be calmer about it now and be able to explain where he’s coming from. if not, then you might have a problem.

Angela– again, if you say which dress and size, someone on weddingbee may be able to help you find it.

starkid– as long as it’s at least 2 weeks before the wedding (and you don’t need to be functional the week it happens, that is) you should be fine

 
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aoedorothee

starkid, yes, you’ll be fine. schedule the appt now to avoid anything. but end of sept is far enough away.

crimsonsky, sorry to say that you might have to make these yourself…

angela, have you tried pearl’s place? http://www.pearlsplace.com. they seem to be able to get a hold of a large variety of dresses for much much less. they deal only with phone calls though, but they’re very responsive. good luck!

 
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Jen

angela - i’m pretty sure they would not give you that information. Go to all the knot boards, try ebay and craigslist and try pre owned wedding dress websites.

 
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mary

starkid - get. rid. of. them. NOW. Even in the worst case scenario, the swelling/tenderness will be gone in about 2 weeks, and you do not want to be in avoidable pain on your big day. Good luck!

 
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EK

Dots- Not totally sure I understand, but typically you either pay per person for open bar or per consumption, plus gratuity. If you’re paying per consumption, and they are providing the alcohol, there should not be an additional corkage fee. Check your original contract though - if it’s in there, you may be stuck.

Angela - try http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/ or similar sites. Or ask about buying a sample. I would not ask the store for contact info. I would personally be upset if my bridal shop gave out my personal information to someone, and I would suspect it is not totally legal for them to do it.

Crimsonsky - try G Street or a local fabric store. They should sell it by the yard.

 
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starkid- Oh honey, I just went through the same thing! From experience, get them pulled and get them pulled now else they’ll get worse. I had one of the worst post-surgery reactions my dentist has seen is his 50 years of dentistry and I was good to go in a week and a half. Word of advice from experience-get them pulled awake. I know that sounds crazy and stoneage, but they won’t take as much liberties with your mouth and you heal MUCH quicker! They numb you up so much you won’t even know what’s going on.

 
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meleven

Angela, also try Vows in Newton, MA. I’ve never been there but the website is bridepower.com It’s right near where I live so if you need someone to check something out, I’ll do it for you! (And I will go there when the time comes for dress shopping!) Good luck

 
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MJ

JennyK- This isn’t a water arrangement, but here’s what I did when I made centerpieces for a friend’s shower. It was easy and they were a huge hit.

-Craft store rose vases (those round ones with the rippled edges- they’re like $1 each).
-Ribbon in a light green that goes from light to dark (what’s that called again?) and a white with a pretty pink embroidered flowers.
-Roses & peonies in the brides color (pink) and white. If you gently pry roses open a little they’ll be bigger, hence fewer needed.
-Some fake green grass from the faux flowers aisle and a like 2 bags of clear plastic things (they looked like diamonds).

I wrapped the ribbon around the top of the vases and tied a small bow– some vases had one color, some had the other. I put either some of the plastic things, or a few pieces of grass in the vases. (Since you don’t want rocks, you probably don’t want plastic diamond things.) The grass I put in a circle, so it went around the vase. You could also use a long leaf. I stripped the flowers of their leaves and measured hoe short to cut so they sit just on the ripply part of the top of the vase. I arranged them to look full and pretty and–bam! centerpieces.

If there’s a flower that you want to put in the water and you’re not sure, just buy one and see if it sinks! If you do that, craft stores usually have rectangle vases that are short for $1 or $2. That way you could put two flowers end to end (with the stems cut, naturally) so the flower could be seen from both sides. Orchids would be great for that! Good luck!

 
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gabzoots

crimsonsky- i looked for the same thing when my fiance and i made my veil, and we ultimately had to hand-string our beads,then attach those strings to the edge of the tulle…sorry i don’t have better news, but i can tell you that you can string many a bead while watching tv! good luck!

 
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starkid

Follow up Question: Does anyone have any idea what I can do, if i don’t have dental insurance? : / People have told me as well — if it hurts a lot right now, I can’t get my teeth pulled until the pain subside. Is that true?

 
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Mrs. penguin

Crimsonsky - try a dance supply or ice skating supply store. Those costumes usually have beading and sequence on them.

 
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farmgal

Starkid- Get them pulled within the next week! Make sure the surgeon has a good success history. I had mine pulled last year by an excellent dr and was back on my feet, swelling gone, and off painkillers in a week. Without the minor infection I had, it would have been sooner than that! Plus, I lost about 4 lbs. ;)

The last thing you want is to be in excruciating pain on your wedding day!

 
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Starkid-

I’d ask your dentist for a referral to an oral surgeon tomorrow. The surgeon will have to first meet with you and look at your xrays before s/he can determine how much it will cost. You’ll also get an answer to whether you can get them done right away (if they are painful now, they’ll only get worse..so I think waiting until the pain subsides is bad advice). When you ask your dentist for a referral also ask if the dentist knows of any surgeons who allow you to pay in installments.

Also, it’s usually cheaper to not get put to sleep during the surgery. Although, honestly, if you can afford it, be asleep. I was–it was so quick and I healed very fast. No problems at all (just don’t deviate from the sugeon’s post-sugery rules! Ice, ice, ice.)

 
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farmgal

PS- w/o dental insurance, I’d ask for a sliding scale payment schedule. And yes, the infection/pain must go down before they’ll pull ‘em. My dr gave me an antibiotic and a painkiller for a week before the surgery– yours will too.

 
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maverika

Starkid–maybe contact a local dental school? I had mine done at a university by students. I know it might sound crazy, but they are actually more meticulous than established dentists and are VERY HIGHLY supervised. Good luck–I feel your pain!

 
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miss melodious

I want to sell these white dyeable David’s Bridal shoes that I haven’t worn yet. I ended up going with another pair of shoes (my wedding is in October so I haven’t worn them yet). Does anyone want to buy them for $50 flat, including shipping? I think it’s about $55 or something plus tax. I don’t want it to go to waste!

Here’s the link: http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=2211&prodgroup=169

 
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BA

Starkid- do it now! Wisdom teeth surgery is not as bad as everyone makes it out to be (and I’m a MAJOR wimp)- I was 100% recovered within a week of having my pulled, and the swelling was gone within 4 days. Honestly- you’ll be fine! Good luck!!

 
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Helene

Starkid - not to add to your stress but a word of advice - make sure whoever you end up with has a good track record, and be sure to get antibiotics. My cousin had her wisdom teeth out and her dr did not prescribe antibiotics.. she ended up with a big infection and had to be hospitalized. Extreme case and I don’t want to scare you, but just insist on getting antibiotics b/c you should be able to prevent this situation! Also I’d advise being very meticulous about cleaning and watching what you eat the first couple of weeks afterwards… you don’t want to end up with an infection or dry socket.

Now me personally - I had no problems, and was good to go after a couple of days. Hope it works out!!

 
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starkid - feel better, give yourself a week or two for the swelling

I was lucky when I had all 4 of mine yanked. I was able to run later that day (my mouth was packed with gauze but I could do it) and everything was back to normal in three days.

 
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Tea

starkid - i’d get them done as soon as possible. if they’ve cut through your gums already, you may be able to just have a regular dentist pull them out if you can stomach it. that’s what i did…i went to a surgeon for the two bottom ones because i needed the surgery and when the top one finally decided to get in on the act [3 years later!] with no insurance, i just went to my dentist…i think it only cost a couple hundred? i don’t remember.

in terms of healing, i was sore for a few days but the swelling was gone within a week and a half. though they advised against it, i was eating solid foods the day after the surgery [very carefully] because i was hungry and tired of mashed potatoes [weird story].

if you have a dentist, i’d HIGHLY suggest you discuss your options with him. some places also have payment plans you can look into as well [mine tacked on a "good patient" discount to help bring down the cost of the procedure]. ask around but do something quick so you’ll have time to heal and be able to eat the day-of.

 
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starkid

Thanks everyone! *_* I’m so touched by your advice & enthusiasm!

 
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Laura S

Dots - In my neck of the woods, a corkage fee of about $15 per bottle is the norm, if you are lucky enough to even find a venue that will allow you to bring your own alcohol in. You should expect to pay them a corkage fee of some sort because they are still doing the work of serving it but making no money off the alcohol itself, so the corkage fee is to compensate for that. $6.50 per person seems a little steep though, I would ask them about a per bottle fee?

 
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Dots, I believe you should only pay a corkage fee for the alcohol if you bring it in yourself. Laura, I think that venues make a lot of money off of the alcohol by charging an extra 5-20 per bottle. Unless if your venue is letting you purchase the bottle at the wholesale price (or say the price you’d get it at Costco), you shouldn’t pay a corkage fee!

 
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Tara

Angela, have you also tried Ebay? (I’m a big believer in Ebay as an alternative source for wedding gowns….) A lot of brides re-sell their gowns there after the wedding and there are actual bridal salons who sell extra stock as well, so you never know. And even if there’s nothing there today, you can add a post to Ebay’s “want it now” service, or have the Ebay system email you new listings as they’re posted by clicking “save this search” after you’ve done your search.

If you’ve got a lot of time before the wedding, you could also have a seamstress copy the dress? That’s another thing that’s offered quite commonly on Ebay (cheap tailors overseas) as well as by anyone you might know in your town.

I have a loooooooong discussion of all the Ebay dress-buying issues on my blog (linked through my name above), or feel free to email me through the blog if you have any questions. Good luck!

 
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Karianne

starkid - the swelling should go down in less than a week… I know that you probably have a ton of things to do pre wedding, but if you don’t get them yanked you will get an absess (Which happened to me), and not only will your face swell worse than it could after removal you will HURT so bad… It’s like a ticking timebomb, you dont want absess day to be on your wedding day or your honeymoon for that matter. schedule an emergency appointment NOW

 
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Danielle

Jenny, I wanted submerged flowers for my wedding and they were extremely simple to do. My sisters put it together for me. They just put the stems of orchids in the containers, trimmed to fit, and filled them with water. They added floating candles also. I’m trying to put the link to some pictures from my photographer.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/7248083@N03/sets/72157601615659620/

 
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Starkid - getting the wisdom teeth out with laughing gas is way cheaper and my fi said it wasn’t bad at all. He also got it done at a dental school, but you probably won’t have time for that, it takes a couple more weeks and I believe most school clinics are out in August.

The swelling will definitely be gone, but to warn you, you might still have holes in your gums where the teeth used to be - and food will get caught in there. More annoying then having something stuck between your teeth! But much better then pain. :)

 
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dots - my corkage fee at a socal venue is $10/bottle for wine or cognac, on top of tax and a 20% service charge. ridiculous.

starkid, definitely. you still have time. :)

 
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dots, oh wait, corkage fee when it’s not BYO??? hmm, haven’t heard that one. sorry. :(

 
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valerie

Is Weddingbee for Asian brides and grooms? There seems to be a disporportionate amount of Asian Weddingbees…I’m Black and read religiously so clearly it is of no matter; just curious if anyone else has noticed this?

 
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LS

Question for the hive: My MOH organized a fabulous bachelorette party (weekend really, 5 of us stayed in a rustic cabin for the weekend), and I’m wondering what is appropriate in terms of acknowledging/thank you’s for this. I’m already getting her a GREAT MOH gift. Heartfelt thank you cards to all the girls? Thanks!

 
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Mrs. Bee (message)  3,261 posts, Sugar bee

Hi Valerie -

We blogged about that diversity recently here: http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/05/31/weddingbee-diversity/

I hope it answers your question?

 
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Joan

I have two questions I could really use help from the hive on:

1) I have waited perhaps too long to choose bridesmaid dresses. (the wedding is in November) Were there any regular stores or designers who you’d recommend for dresses? I am worried about stock and turn around time.

2) Does anyone know where I can get cow/carrot/fish icons for my print at home RSVP cards?

THANKS!!!

 
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angela

Thanks everyone for the suggestions and advice! I am indeed subscsribed to e-mail updates from Preownedweddingdresses.com, BridePwer.com (with high compliments to the owners for the most well-done sites for this purpose) and Ebay.

meleven, thank you for the offer to check out Vows if they get the dress! that is so sweet of you ^_^ i went to school in Boston and didn’t realize at the time how rich it is with bridal fashion.

aoedorothee, I’ll give Pearl’s Place a call :) Didn’t think of that earlier, since i’ve been doing all my searching late at night =P

Since everyone has asked, it’s an Angel Sanchez gown but apparently very rare and I have no Style # for it. I haven’t found a photo of it anywhere, in any of his runway shows or collections or retailer sites or consignment sites. Maybe I’m dumb, but “angel sanchez” doesn’t turn up any results on the Knot message boards, including Trash to Treasure. All I have is my memory and a tiny sketch that the store made for me!

I think the reason it’s so rare is because it’s very plain looking (I’m all about clean lines and simplicity). It’s strapless A-line with no lace, beading or ruffles, and it’s a linen-like fabric (triple silk gazar) so it’s matte matte matte. The special thing about it is that it has diagonal seams instead of vertical, so that the seams wrap around the curves of my body. This makes me very skeptical that a seamstress could copy it.

 
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bethgraced

Tea! I did the same thing when my wisdom teeth were removed. My mom had made homemade pizza & I was super hungry. I really was very, very careful, though. And Starkid, whatever you do, don’t neglect taking whatever they perscribe and make sure you clean back there with that little squirting tool, too. You don’t want food stuck in the holes. My cousin didn’t take her meds and didn’t clean, and got dry sockets.

okay, waay more information than was needed, but anyway. good luck, starkid!

 
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Soon2BMrsV

Question for the hive: I am looking for 8.5 x11 paper with some sort of “wedding type” design on the top or around the border to use for a letter to send to all involved with the wedding with the times and location of everything. Any one know of a website where I can find something like this? Thanks!!!

 
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looney_tina

HELP!!!

i dont want our wedding officiant to say the typical “we are gathered here today…etc…” instead i want us to write our own vows. can someone tell me how the whole wedding officiant business works? like whats he suppose to say? can i please get step by step instructions? thanks!

 
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[...] LS’s MOH organized a bachelorette weekend at a rustic cabin and is wondering what is appropriate in terms of acknowledgement/thank you.  She’s already getting her a great MOH gift.  Are heartfelt thank you cards to all the girls ok? [...]

 
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Amber

Starkid, I work for a dental office, and i agree, you will be fine. The most you should be swollen is a week, and as long as you follow the instructions given to you, you should not have any problems with infections, etc.
Good Luck!

 
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Amber

Oh, and starkid, as mentioned above, you WILL have pockets where the teeth where, so there will be food impaction, but it is much better than dealing with the pain (I had mine out in Nov and still have some pocketing, it takes a while for the bone to replenish!). The nitrous is cheaper than IV sedation, but if you can afford it, or your ins will cover it, go for the IV, you won’t remember a thing, and it makes it much easier!

 
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Jonnie

Joan - here’s an example of the reply cards with pictures of chicken or veg. We almost did this - mocked it up and all, then the caterer told us it was unnecessary to ask people what they wanted. Most people forget what their reply was anyway so they just stock according to their experience.

http://mercuriobrothers.com/andielarge

 


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