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why not have their mom walk with them? i think that might be the best way…or you can always utlize the ever popular wagon option. if you really want them in the wedding you’ll find a way to make it happen.

you can always talk to the parents to see if they have any ideas too.

My cousin had 3 yo twins as flower girl/ring bearer.

Their mother walked them half way down the aisle and aimed them at grandpa in the first row. They made it, barely. The little girl looked pretty stressed out and about to cry, while the boy was happy but didn’t stick to his trajectory and had to be collected.

They were not able to perform the traditional duties of flower-throwing and ring delivery for their roles.

But they looked awfully cute.

I decided that unless it was a child that I knew and loved and couldn’t bear to leave out even if they screamed down the aisle, 3 yo was probably too young. There is probably some happy baby age like 6 mo where the kid is perfect as an accessory just carried down the aisle.

But tf you still want to try it, I would have their parents actually escort the 2.5 yo triplets down aisle. Their temperments should also be considered, some just may not be up to everyone staring at them.

i’ve seen very young flower girls but sometimes they are accompanied by an older girl who holds their hands?

or you can try the wagon strategy..

Our ring bearer will be 2.5, but his 4 year old sister will be the flower girl, helping him down. In case they both freak out, their mom is a BM, so she might stay back and walk with them.

i have 2 nieces that will be about 2 at the time of my wedding. in my culture, siblings (escorted by their spoused) walk down before the bride (attendents are optional) so i think i’ll have my siblings carry the girls down and have them toss the petals. though if closer to the date i think it’ll be too much for them i’ll skip the flower girls entirely and just have 2 ringbearers (each of our nephews- then aged 5). even if i skip having them walk i do think i’ll keep them in coordinated outfits for the photos.

we didn’t have any young ones in the wedding - we’re not close with any (the ones I am close with couldn’t make it to the wedding anyway).

I’ve read about little ones being pulled down the aisle in a wagon, which could be a cute idea if they won’t walk themselves!

I wouldn’t try it with ANY little ones, but I was pretty confident my barely 3yo niece could do it, and she did!

But we had a “pinball” technique as a backup — we planted familiar faces along the aisle at certain points so if she got scared or lost, they could point her up the aisle to the next relative or she could quit and sit on one of their laps.

Also, we thought the huge cathedral & pipe organ could be a little unnerving for her at the recessional, so she was scooped up and carried by her uncle back down the aisle — super cute. She probably would have done OK walking, but it was reassuring to have a failsafe.

i think that the role of the flowergirl is more symbolic than anything. it’s more important to me to have someone who i love and adore in my wedding party (even if she runs full speed down the aisle or decides not to walk at all) than a girl who i’m not as close to who might sprinkle the petals perfectly.

i have 2 2.5-yr old little girls who will be carrying a bible and a rosary. they’re both pretty outgoing little girls and their parents are already practicing them walking down an aisle (hallway in the house). maybe if the triplets practice walking down, they can get the hang of it.

What if you buy them the cute dresses & have them sit in the front/ second row until everyone else is up there, right before you walk. Their mom can then give them their flower petals to toss right in front of your groom, facing the crowd. that way they dont have to walk, and when they are done they can run right back to their seats! One benefit is you wont need an extra accessory to keep track of (a parent or wagon), but they still get to have a little fun! They won’t know that flower girls are supposed to walk the whole way & everyone can still see them!

do you have any older kids in the wedding ? perhaps around 7-9yrs old ? you may want to pair them up so they can make it down the aisle. Kids that young are just so temperamental and I would argue dont quite recognize the value of bag of candy. Either way, even when they only make it half way through, or dump flowers in the middle of aisle instead of scattering them around, they will be awfully cute and that’s all that matters. Have their parents on stand by to collect them shall something “catastrophic” happen, but otherwise go with the flow, they will be adorable.

i agree with flip flop girl + mrs. h– it’s important to have people who mean a lot to you in your ceremony… and yeah, no matter what little kids do, it’ll be adorable! couldn’t have said it better myself

my cousin, who is too old to be a flowergirl (she’ll be about 9) is going to be walking my neice (who will be 3) down the aisle. It’s the perfect solution, because I can include my cousin, who I couldn’t have included otherwise, and it means that my neice won’t drift off into the crowd toward something (anything) shiny… I suspect that most kids my cousin’s age would be psyched to be included. Do you know anyone the right age?

The important thing to remember is that kids, no matter the age, will be kids and you should not count on them to do what you want them to do. If you need them to get down the aisle in a perfect way that you have dreamed up since you were a kid, than you should reconsider having them, since that more-than-likely will not happen. If you want them there no matter what happens, than keep them in the wedding. Remember, kids are attention stealers, so consider honestly if you are ok with this and go from there.

My nephew is 2.5 and instead of being ring bearer, he is escorting my mom down the aisle. They have been practicing for months. Also, the week of the wedding, we are practicing putting on his tux with his Uncle Davis (Mr Corn) around the same time in the afternoon.

Consistency is key with 2.5 year olds.

2.5 years is not young. but be warned that it’ll be an over the top entrance (in a cute way of course). Our nephew and best man’s daughter were both less than 2 years old. We had our best man’s wife walk them down as the mother of the boy waited at the front. The flower girl did amazing! but the ring boy got shy so our coordinators had to walk (okay, more like push him down the aisle).

If you have WINNERS store near by, check that out! that’s where we found out flower girl’s dress..it was gorgeous and soo affordable!

My flowergirls at 5yr 8mo and 3yr 5mo practically stole the show (I am told - obviously I didn’t get to see them). Their mom is a 1st grade teacher and they practised a lot. They walked very slowly and dropped petals, but the youngest took her time and smiled for each camera! I was so glad to have them and told their mom that whatever they did was fine, but she was fabulous. She did say the day was more stressful than she thought.

Speaking from experience, I was a flower girl when i was 2.5 years old for my godfather, and to this day people still tell the story of how i wanted to walk down the aisle before it was my turn and how people laughed and laughed. If you are willing to laugh and know that they may not comply *completely* with the order…many people enjoy seeing toddlers take the stage, and usually leave a lasting impression. I wouldn’t let people deter you…if these kids are important to you, then they should be a part of your day.