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why not have their mom walk with them? i think that might be the best way…or you can always utlize the ever popular wagon option. if you really want them in the wedding you’ll find a way to make it happen.

you can always talk to the parents to see if they have any ideas too.

My cousin had 3 yo twins as flower girl/ring bearer.

Their mother walked them half way down the aisle and aimed them at grandpa in the first row. They made it, barely. The little girl looked pretty stressed out and about to cry, while the boy was happy but didn’t stick to his trajectory and had to be collected.

They were not able to perform the traditional duties of flower-throwing and ring delivery for their roles.

But they looked awfully cute.

I decided that unless it was a child that I knew and loved and couldn’t bear to leave out even if they screamed down the aisle, 3 yo was probably too young. There is probably some happy baby age like 6 mo where the kid is perfect as an accessory just carried down the aisle.

But tf you still want to try it, I would have their parents actually escort the 2.5 yo triplets down aisle. Their temperments should also be considered, some just may not be up to everyone staring at them.

i’ve seen very young flower girls but sometimes they are accompanied by an older girl who holds their hands?

or you can try the wagon strategy..

Our ring bearer will be 2.5, but his 4 year old sister will be the flower girl, helping him down. In case they both freak out, their mom is a BM, so she might stay back and walk with them.

i have 2 nieces that will be about 2 at the time of my wedding. in my culture, siblings (escorted by their spoused) walk down before the bride (attendents are optional) so i think i’ll have my siblings carry the girls down and have them toss the petals. though if closer to the date i think it’ll be too much for them i’ll skip the flower girls entirely and just have 2 ringbearers (each of our nephews- then aged 5). even if i skip having them walk i do think i’ll keep them in coordinated outfits for the photos.

we didn’t have any young ones in the wedding - we’re not close with any (the ones I am close with couldn’t make it to the wedding anyway).

I’ve read about little ones being pulled down the aisle in a wagon, which could be a cute idea if they won’t walk themselves!

I wouldn’t try it with ANY little ones, but I was pretty confident my barely 3yo niece could do it, and she did!

But we had a “pinball” technique as a backup — we planted familiar faces along the aisle at certain points so if she got scared or lost, they could point her up the aisle to the next relative or she could quit and sit on one of their laps.

Also, we thought the huge cathedral & pipe organ could be a little unnerving for her at the recessional, so she was scooped up and carried by her uncle back down the aisle — super cute. She probably would have done OK walking, but it was reassuring to have a failsafe.

i think that the role of the flowergirl is more symbolic than anything. it’s more important to me to have someone who i love and adore in my wedding party (even if she runs full speed down the aisle or decides not to walk at all) than a girl who i’m not as close to who might sprinkle the petals perfectly.

i have 2 2.5-yr old little girls who will be carrying a bible and a rosary. they’re both pretty outgoing little girls and their parents are already practicing them walking down an aisle (hallway in the house). maybe if the triplets practice walking down, they can get the hang of it.

What if you buy them the cute dresses & have them sit in the front/ second row until everyone else is up there, right before you walk. Their mom can then give them their flower petals to toss right in front of your groom, facing the crowd. that way they dont have to walk, and when they are done they can run right back to their seats! One benefit is you wont need an extra accessory to keep track of (a parent or wagon), but they still get to have a little fun! They won’t know that flower girls are supposed to walk the whole way & everyone can still see them!