The Butterscotch’s have been married for one full month.
I am loving all the extra moments we share together now. The only thing I am not loving is when I have to leave in the morning and he is still sound asleep. Most days we leave at the same time, but his days off fall on days I have to work. So on those mornings it is so hard for me to leave. I just want to stay in bed all snuggled up and warm next to him. I get a pain in my heart when I leave.
I finally ‘fessed up to him about my morning sadness and he just kissed me on my forehead and said, “I like it when you leave, I can stretch out.” But then he laughed and gave me a kiss. Between us, I don’t think he was joking!
Does anyone else have this problem?
Oh my gosh, I know exactly what you mean! When I spend the night with my fiance, he is still sound asleep when I leave for work! It makes it so much harder to get out of bed when I could stay snuggled up to him. Another tough thing is that he just looks so sweet and adorable while he’s sleeping, so it makes it twice as hard to leave him. When I tell him about it, he says the same thing about getting to stretch out! Good to see I’m not alone. 
My fiance drives me to work, so we do see each other each morning. My morning sadness is when I have to wake up an hour earlier than him since I take longer. I wish I could be the one to stay asleep!
Last week my fi was on vacation to burn some extra time he would lose, and I hated leaving him too. I told him on Monday how much I hated it, so he got up with me the rest of the week and fixed me breakfast while I was showering. After being that sweet, it was easy for me to not begrudge him the extra sleep he got from going back to bed after I left even though I would have loved to be cuddled up beside him.
We have the same schedule. Most days, we both have the same schedule, so we “fight” over whose turn it is to get up first to go shower.
Oh yeah, I work a regular office job from 8:30 - 5 M-F. My fiance works from home whatever hours he wants and has the audacity to (jokingly) complain about his commute to the living room, lol. He always stays snuggled up asleep in bed when I have to get up. Admittedly though, it’s more “morning jealousy” on my part than “morning sadness”… I am *so* not a morning person.
I commute a LONG way 3x/week, which means I have to get up at 5 a.m. those days. DH wakes up with me so we can have breakfast together, then goes back to sleep for 1.5 more hours.
I’m a 4 day a week commuter, I stay with my parents in Sacramento while Mr. Penguin stays in Berkeley to work in San Francisco all week. I occasionally cry when I leave…not as often as I used to, but now it happens maybe once every few months. it is hard to be ripped apart for 4 days a week! I feel your pain, Mrs. B!
I just started a new schedule of working 8-4, then going to class two nights a week, so on Tuesdays and Thursdays I’m gone from 7:30am to around 9:30pm. The first day I did this I almost cried when I was leaving work… I was SO SAD I wasn’t going to see the hubs for over 5 more hours. He mostly works from home, too, so it’s rough on him in the evenings because he heats up leftovers or something and eats dinner alone.
It’s a bummer, but it also reminds me how much I like him, which ain’t so bad. It would be much worse to dread coming home, wouldn’t it?
I totally understand. Since we moved, Mr. Lemon has been working in LA M-F and only flies up for the weekend. This will be the last week of it, but it’s made things quite sad around these parts. Even though we want sunshines and rainbows, sometimes they’re just hiding behind some clouds.
Since Mr. Peach is in school and most of his classes are later in the day, i’m always having to get up earlier than him to leave for work. So I hear ya! Altho i think i’m more sad at the fact that i can’t sleep in as much as he does! ahahaha~
Yes. I leave about 2 hours before he does and fall asleep by [dimmed] lighting when he’s still up later at night (we live in an open-plan, loft like space, so there are no proper walls that block light into our bedroom area). We didn’t have too hard a time adjusting, but I guess it’s because we adjusted our expectations before moving in together. I just know that throughout life, jobs/schedules/pets/kids may come along and change that, so I’m just enjoying those few nights we have to cuddle when he comes to bed earlier, or the day once a week he wakes up at the same time as me to do an early morning workout.
Oh, and I must admit, it feels damn good to stretch out when I have the bed to myself. 
Most definitely yes. Both my fiance and I work the same schedules and drive to work together but for the last few weeks he has been on leave and I’ve still had to get to work. Not to mention today was the first real frost of fall it was -really- hard to get up and go to work.
I totally agree, I work M-F 8:30-5 and my fiance work From 4:30pm-1am, we only have Sunday off together. It is so hard leaving in the morning. Plus, he’s the source of all the heat and I hate to be cold.
i make him wake up. hehe.
i think you get used to it after awhile. as much as it sucks to get out of bed and knowing he’s still in there, asleep, after a while it’s “oh no, i’m late for work gotta move” and then you don’t even think about it. since he’s still a student and i work a regular job, i’ve become very used to this over the last few years.
Same here. I thought the same thing, that I would hate it if I had to leave my FI sleeping in the bed.
Fortunately, we get up around the same time. I’m supposed to be in the office at 8:30a, and he works for himself - but he’s a morning person so he usually gets up before me and makes breakfast and/or my lunch and irons my clothes as I’m still dragging myself to the shower! I’m so spoiled!
He’s in ATL on a business trip this week, and I’m barely making it to work on time! LOL
No, in my case, my FI gets up before me! Yay for sleeping in a little longer…
I tend to solve that problem with morning sex.
I have to get up 2 hours earlier then Fi. He’s so warm and peaceful in the morning. It sucks dressing in the dark!
YES! Except for we leave at the same time, I just get up about 40 minutes before him to get ready! I get grumpy that I’m showered, dressed, dried before he even gets up! So then I make sure I wake him up
What’s worse is when I come *home* from work and he’s still in bed! But in his defense, I DO only work half days (4 hours)… :-D. I’m out of the house by 7:30 each morning and home about noon, and all his classes are afternoon ones–so my day is half over by the time his begins! Aah well
[...] Butterscotch blogged this morning about how in the mornings, she wants to “just want to stay in bed all snuggled up and warm [...]
Sigh, I totally understand. My fiance has a more flexible schedule while I must be in to work by a set time every day. It’s painful to be getting up when there’s a warm snuggly person still in bed. Sometimes I wrap him up in extra blankets and pillows to make him all poofy looking and then jump on him!
yup. especially on the weekends because i can easily spend the entire day laying with him instead of getting up to do all the things we planned on doing. we tend to be very unproductive whenever we’re together. lol
Mrs. Butterscotch, Seattle
Age and Occupation: 29, Advertising Sales Assistant
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, City Worker
Engagement Date: September 24, 2006
Wedding Date: August 11, 2007
Blogging Since: June 19, 2007
Venue: church ceremony and private club reception
About Me: I am marrying my high school sweetheart 11 years after high school ended! I am a self professed shoe fanatic with a closet full of shoes and only two feet. Planning a wedding has been my fun project since he surprised me with a proposal in Paris. We are spending our last few months preparing for our big day by wrapping up all the small things, buying a house and best of all preparing to live together for the first time.
Yes, my husband and I work quite different schedules. We both work days, but I’m M-F, 9-5, while he works 12 hour shifts, two days on, two days off. However, I rarely stay in bed cuddled up with him, I get up and run most mornings! And Mr Pencils frequently comes with me. It’s a nice start to our day, spending an hour together, even if we’re not talking through most of it. But I do get frustrated on days like today, when I’m at work because it’s Tuesday, but he’s home because it’s his day off. I wish we could spend all our days off together.